Uku ndikumva kupweteka, komwe, malinga ndi Françoise Sagan, "nthawi zonse amasiyana ndi anthu ena." Ambiri aife ndife oipitsitsa kuposa kukhumudwa, mwachitsanzo, kuukali. Khalani okhwima mwachangu "olemekezeka koposa" kusiyana ndikumva chisoni, kumbukirani Harlequin ndi Pierrot. Chisoni nthawi zambiri chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kupanda mphamvu, zofooka, sichivomerezedwa ndi anthu amasiku ano ndipo, zikuwoneka, kukulepheretsani kuti mukhale opambana, mukufunidwa, ndi osangalala. Pamene tili okhumudwa, timafuna kukhala payekha komanso kukhala chete, zimakhala zovuta kuti tiyankhulane. Chisoni chimapereka njira yapadera ya malingaliro ndipo, monga momwe Benedikt Spinoza adawonera m'zaka za zana la 17, "amachepetsa mphamvu zathu zoyenera kuchita." Nthawi zoterezi, moyo wokhuthala umasiya, patsogolo pathu zikuwoneka ngati nsalu ikuchepetsedwa ndipo kuwonetsedwa sikuwonetsedwanso. Ndipo palibe chotsalira koma kuti mutembenukire nokha - kuyamba kuyang'ana. Kuchokera kumbali munthuyo amawoneka akudwala, ndipo akulangizidwa kuti achite chinachake mwamsanga. Koma kodi nkofunika kuti tibwerere ku zopanda pake za moyo? Chisoni ndikumvetsetsa kopambana, ndipo tikukupemphani kuti muwerenge nkhani yathu.
"N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti ubale wanga ndi munthu wabwino watha"; "N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti zabwino kwambiri kupita koyamba" ... Ngati tili okhumudwa, ndiye kuti chinthu china chabwino chatsopano chimachoka pa moyo wathu kapena sichinaonekepo. Mwina sitingadziwe chomwe chiri, koma chifukwa chachisoni, timadzifunsa tokha funso ili: kodi timasowa chiyani kuti tikhale ndi moyo wangwiro, kuti tikhale osangalala? Ife timamvetsera tokha, tcheru ku maubwenzi athu ndi dziko. Nthawi zina maganizo amenewa amakhala osakwiya, osakhutira, mkwiyo ndizo "zokhumudwitsa". Koma nthawi zambiri timamwa chakumwa choledzeretsa, chomwe chimangosokoneza chidziwitso cha kulakwitsa kwake - ndiye kukoma kwake kumakhala kolemera, astringent, kowawa. Muchisoni chopanda kulakwa, maluwa okongola a mtsinje wachisoni amamveka ... kuphatikiza ndi kukoma. Ndi choncho. Ndi masalmo angati okongola omwe alembedwa mu dziko lino ndi nyimbo iti! Koma nthawi zina moyo umachitika, ndi nkhanza ndipo umachotsa kwa ife wokondedwa, wamtengo wapatali kwambiri ... Tikhoza kutseka ndikusiya kumverera kuti tisaiwale mwangozi zomwe tataika, chifukwa ndi zopweteka. Ndiyeno tidzasankha njira yodetsa nkhawa. Ndipo tikhoza kutsegula mtima ndikukhala ndi moyo wathu wonse, kuponya pansi: ndi kudzimvera chisoni, ndi mkwiyo wa zamoyo zotayika ndi zotayika, ndi kusungulumwa, chifukwa palibe amene angathandize. Iyi si njira yophweka yochiritsira. Ndikofunika kupanga chisankho, zathu, mwathunthu, kuti tidzichepetsa mwapang'onopang'ono. Izi zimafuna kuleza mtima, komanso ufulu wolola kulira, kusamba ndi kuyeretsa bala. Kuonjezera apo, tidzakhala osiyana ndi kudzidzimva: pamene, tikadzikhululukira tokha, tidzatha kulira, tidzamva kuti moyo wovulazidwa watsekedwa mu bulangeti lotentha - kumapwetekabe, koma ... ndikutentha.
Kuti mukhale achisoni, m'pofunika kulira chisoni, mosamala, mwachifatso. Moyo wouma uyenera kukodzedwa ndi winawake - bwanji osachichita moyo wako? Brew tiyi, onetsetsani ndi mpukutu ndikumva chisoni monga momwe moyo wake umakhudzira. Ndipo n'zosadabwitsa kuti posakhalitsa chirichonse chimasintha kuchokera kwa anthu oterewa. Tsopano ndi kumwetulira, zikutuluka, kumbukirani kutayika kwanu. Mukhoza kulankhula kale za izo, penyani zithunzi. Ubale umakhala wangwiro kwambiri, chifukwa zonsezo ndizopanda pake. Tsopano inu simungakhoze kukumbukira chabe, koma kuti muyambe kukambirana, mvetserani kuthandizidwa kwa yemwe wachokapo. Ndipo nzeru yayikuluyi imadzutsa chikhumbo cholimba chotere, kuti zonse zokhumudwitsa moyo zimasungunuka. Zikupezeka kuti sangathe ndipo safuna kuchotsa chilichonse chomwe tinkafuna kukonda. Wokondedwayo ali ndi ife nthawi zonse. "
Ndipo ngati ndizovuta?
Kusowa kwa zilakolako, kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake komanso zopanda pake, kutopa kwambiri, kusowa tulo, kudzipha ... Nthawi zambiri, kupwetekedwa kumachitika monga momwe zimakhalira moyo woipa kwa nthawi yayitali kapena kumverera kwakumva ululu waukulu umene munthu sangathe kupirira. Ndipo komabe vuto lalikulu la kupsinjika maganizo ndiko kudzisiya nokha ndipo musalole kuti mukhale achisoni pa zomwe zikuchitika. Masiku ano, anthu ambiri a ku Ulaya amakana kutenga matenda opatsirana maganizo, kuti asamvetsetse maganizo awo, koma momwe angamve mafunso ake. Kodi ndimakonda moyo wanga? Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikupirira malingaliro oipawa kwa nthawi yayitali? Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikukhala ngati ndataya omwe ndimakonda? Kukhoza kumva chisoni, kukhumudwa, kudzikayikira kumatanthauza kuti ndife anthu amoyo. Mosiyana ndi chirichonse.