Kawirikawiri, anthu wamba samatha kumvetsa chifukwa chake mkazi amasankha "mwamuna wachikulire" akaona mwamuna ndi mkazi wake, pamene akuwoneka pafupi zaka 20, ndipo ali ndi zaka zoposa 50. Ataona amuna oterewa, palibe amene amadabwa kuti amakopeka ndi zokongola zazing'ono, koma chifukwa chake atsikana ang'onoang'ono amamvetsera kwa amalume okhwima, samvetsetsa onse. Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana achichepere amadana nawo anzawo, koma amakonda amuna akuluakulu?
Chiphunzitso cha woyamba - zakuthupi
Chiphunzitso chimenechi ndi choyambirira komanso chophweka. Ngati mukuyang'ana pawonekedwe, ndiye kuti malingaliro azimayi, amakopeka ndi anyamata okongola komanso matupi amphamvu omwe adzakhala amphamvu, olimba mtima, amphamvu, mafoni ndi zina zotero. Koma ngati mumakumbukira zolemba zenizeni za kutha msinkhu, mungathe kunena kuti chinenero cha Chirasha chimanena kuti asungwanawo amakula chaka chimodzi asanakwane anyamatawo. Komabe, ngati muwerenga nkhaniyo mpaka kumapeto, mukhoza kuona kuti anyamatawo amatenga malingaliro awo, atsikana ndi atsikana mapeto a grade 11 patsogolo pawo. Mwina atsikanawo akupitiriza kudzimva kuti ndi apamwamba kuposa anyamata a msinkhu wawo?
Chiphunzitso Chachiwiri - Freudian
Kumbukirani chiphunzitso cha Freud, chomwe chimatchedwa "Edipovkompleks"? Chofunikira cha chiphunzitso ichi ndi chakuti mnyamata aliyense akuyang'ana mnzake, ndiko kuti mtsikana ayenera kuoneka ngati apongozi ake, komanso kukonzekera vareniki ndikusamalira "mwana wamng'ono". Akatswiri ena a maganizo amatsimikizira kuti pali zovuta zina - "complex complex". Malingana ndi iye, mtsikana aliyense akuyang'ana mwamuna yemwe amawoneka ngati bambo ake. Mkazi aliyense amafanizidwa ndi bambo ake. Mnyamata ayenera kukhala ndi khalidwe lomwelo, zizoloŵezi kapena maonekedwe ngati apongozi ake. Mwachitsanzo, atsikana ena achichepere amangoti azimva ngati amamva kuchokera kwa munthu fungo lofanana ndi la bambo ake, ngati bambo ake kapena akamasuta fodya, ngati bambo ake. Pali kutanthauzira kwina kwa Elektra zovuta, zomwe zimanenedwa kuti satana ayenera kubwezeretsa bambo wa mtsikanayo. Chimachitika makamaka pamene msungwanayo anakulira yekha ndi mayi.
Chiphunzitso - wamkulu
Aliyense amadziwa kuti kuti mukakhale mkazi wa mtsogoleri, muyenera kukwatira msilikali poyamba, komatu sikuti amayi onse amayembekezera kuwerengera nyenyezi pamapewa a osankhidwawo. Choncho, atsikanawa ndikuyang'ana munthu yemwe wapindulapo kale ndipo ali ndi madalitso onse pa moyo wake, choncho adzatha kupereka wokondedwa ake ndi moyo wabwino. Komabe, pali njira ina. Amayi ambiri amaganizira za zomwe adzadye komanso ana awo. Ngati mungakhale okondeka ndi wokondedwa, ndiye kuti ana amafunikira chinachake chovuta kwambiri. Komanso, palibe mtsikana ali ndi chitsimikizo chakuti msilikali tsiku lina adzakhale wamkulu.
Chiphunzitso cha Fourth - topical
Aliyense amamvetsa bwinobwino kuti munthu amene wakhalapo zaka zambiri, poyamba, ndi munthu! Chachiwiri, ndi munthu wanzeru, wodziwa, wanzeru. Kotero, ndizosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo pali chinachake chokamba, mungathe kupempha malangizo ndikudalira chirichonse. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna a msinkhu ndi anthu 100% omwe apanga kale. Ngati munthu asanakwatirane kasanu ndi kamodzi, ndiye kuti simungakhale mkazi wake wotsiriza Ngati atakhala kale zaka makumi awiri, simudzasintha. Ngati mnzanuyo akuyesera kuti akwaniritse chinachake, akuvutika kuti achite chinachake, anali wofuna, ndipo mwadzidzidzi tsiku limodzi adasankhidwa kukhala purezidenti wa kampaniyo, ndiye simungathe kukayikira kuti uku ndiko kusakhulupirika kwa ntchito yake. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono ndipo ana anu adzakhala ndi purezidenti wa bambo wa kampaniyo. Koma ndi anyamata anyamata sali ophweka, muyenera kusintha malingaliro anu, ngati sakusintha inu zaka zisanu kapena khumi, adatha kukwaniritsa chinachake. Komanso, ambiri samakhala ndi chidziwitso chokwanira chochita ndi amayi, sizinthu zogonana zogwirizana. Muunyamata palibe nzeru zadziko, kotero iwo sangakhoze kufotokoza kalikonse nkomwe, iwo sakudziwa kuti anganene bwanji izi kapena chinthucho. Inde, chilengedwe chapereka malingaliro onse ndi adierekezi a anyamata ena, koma, mwatsoka, ndi pang'ono kwambiri ...
Chiphunzitso chachisanu ndi chachibale
Kodi kwenikweni ndi "akulu"? Kodi chiyenera kukhala chiyeso chogawira anthu onse kukhala achinyamata ndi okhwima? Kawirikawiri, muyenera kuyerekeza zaka za zibwenzi. Mbadwo wake ukhale wa msinkhu wa msungwanayo. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa satellite ndi zaka 5-7, kupatula ngati zakula. Kusiyanitsa kovomerezeka ndi zaka zoposa 10. Komabe, m'nthawi yathu ino maukwati achilendo a amayi a zaka makumi asanu ndi awiri (70) omwe ali ndi zaka 19 amaonedwa kuti ndi achilendo. Inde, izo zimadabwitsa! Koma kodi mungatani? Iwo anaganiza choncho, ndipo iwo ali nawo ufulu!
Choncho, tiyeni tiwone, chifukwa chiyani akazi amasankha amuna akuluakulu?
- Mwamuna wokhwima ndi munthu yemwe wataya moyo wake, ali ndi malo ena omwe mkazi safunikira kuchita kwa zaka zambiri ndi ntchito yambiri kapena kuyembekezera zaka makumi angapo mpaka chirichonse chiwonekere. Palibe chifukwa choganizirira za momwe mukuonera. Pambuyo pake, zonse zili kale. Ndithudi iye ali ndi ntchito yabwino, udindo mu chikhalidwe, udindo kapena ndalama zokhazikika.
- Mwamuna wamkulu ndi munthu. Iye ndi wanzeru komanso wodziwa zambiri. Zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri ndi iye kuposa ana aang'ono, amene ali ndi "mphepo" m'mitu yawo. Anyamata samaganiza kuti akufunika kumanga banja, koma atsikana amafuna kwambiri.
- Kawirikawiri atsikana omwe ali "abambo" amakoka ndalama. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, atsikana osauka samakonda kusankhidwa. Munthu wotereyo sadzikana nokha kanthu kalikonse, koma kwa dona wamng'ono akhoza kukonza paradaiso padziko lapansi. Ndi bwino kukhala wamng'ono ndikukhala m'mayiko ambiri, yesetsani zinthu zambiri, kugula zovala ndi kuyendetsa galimoto yabwino. Pa nthawi yomweyi, simukuyenera kudikira chirichonse, mudzapatsidwa izi ndi siliva. Kotero, mkazi akhoza kukhala tsiku limodzi osaganiza za zomwe zidzamuchitikire mawa.
- Iye anali ndi moyo wochuluka mu moyo wake, kotero iye amadziwa momwe angakhalire bwino, komwe angalolere, ndi komwe angasonyeze khalidwelo. Iye ndi woleza mtima kwambiri, kutanthauza kuti adzakhululukira ndikulekerera zofuna zanu zachinyamata. Adzanena mofatsa za "masewero" anu ndi amatsenga. Udzakhala moyo wosalira zambiri.
- Monga lamulo, iye ali kale ndi maubwenzi oyenerera ndi kugwirizana. Ngati mukufuna, akhoza kukuthandizani kumanga luso lanu, ntchito yanu, kapena kuthetsa vuto lalikulu.
- Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti amuna oterewa nthawi zonse adzanyadira ndi kuyamikira ubwana wawo ndi kukongola kwawo. Sadzasintha, chifukwa nthano yaing'ono imamuyembekezera kunyumba ndipo nkofunika kuti iye akhale naye. Adzawoneka kuti ndi wokongola, woyenera komanso wokongola poyerekeza ndi ena. Komabe, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti pali "Casanova" yoteroyo, yomwe ingapezeke msungwana wina mosavuta, ndi kungokweza chala.
- Sikofunika kuganiza kuti okalamba amakhala ndi mavuto ndi kupenya. Amuna ambiri amatha kusokoneza mwana aliyense. Kawirikawiri, atsikana amayang'ana amuna osauka, ndipo amayesetsa kukhala ndi mawonekedwe komanso kusamalira thanzi lawo ndi maonekedwe awo. Kotero, iwo alibe vuto ndi moyo wa kugonana mwina. Komanso, amayi ambiri amafuna "kuyesa" pabedi ndi munthu wodziwa zambiri, kuti moyo wapamtima ukhale wosiyana komanso wokondweretsa.
- Pang'ono ndi pang'ono mungathe kukhala mwana, yemwe angamupatse ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse. Chifukwa cha malingaliro ake abwino ndi mapewa amphamvu, mumakhala otetezeka nthawi zonse.
Ngakhale ubwino wonse, ndikulangiza mtsikanayo kuti ayang'ane zolephera za chisankho ichi:
- Ngati mwamuna ali kale kale, ndiye adzatambasula motalika bwanji? Iye ndi imfa yakumwamba. Adzakhala ndi nthawi yochepa kwa inu, pamene tonse tidzasiya dziko lino.
- Ndalama zosavuta sizingakhale nthawi zonse kupanga msungwana wokondwa. Aliyense ayenera kuchita chinachake payekha, kuti kenako amve kukoma kwa chisangalalo.
- Nthaŵi zambiri, atsikana amadzipeza okha m'manja mwa amuna oterewa ndi zidole. Nthawi iliyonse amatha kumukankhira mtsikanayo kapena kumuletsa kuti asafotokoze maganizo ake.
Ziri kwa iwe. Samalani posankha. Ndipo kawirikawiri, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhalapo kwa malingaliro, ulemu ndi chikondi. Ndipo m'badwo ^ M'badwo uli chabe inki yaying'ono mu pasipoti ... sichoncho?