Ndipo sizowoneka mwadzidzidzi: zidzadalira khalidwe la aliyense wa iwo ngati msonkhano wachiwiri udzachitika konse. Ndipo tsiku lachiwiri, monga momwe likudziwikiratu, limasiyanitsidwa ndi mwayi waukulu kwambiri kuti ukhale chiyambi cha chinthu chachikulu. Nchiyani chimachitika pamene tsiku loyamba limatha ndipo nthawi yodabwitsa kwambiri yoganizira za masitepe otsatirawa akubwera?
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, amayi oposa 80% amachitanso zomwezo pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba: amaiwalika m'maganizo amodzi pa mawu omwe atchulidwa pamsonkhano, manja ndi zochitika zatchulidwa. Pambuyo pake, kufufuza mosamala zolakwa zawo ndi zochita zabwino pa tsiku loyamba, mkaziyo amapita ku gawo lotsatira la kuganizira za zotsatira za msonkhano - zochitika zomwe palibe zoyenera kupitilira kuchokera kwa iye. Koma khalidwe lake pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba likhoza kukhala losiyana, ndipo zimadalira zochitika zingapo, zomwe akatswiri a maganizo amasiyanitsa magulu atatu a zinthu zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zochita zam'tsogolo za amuna.
Kodi mtsikana ndi ndani kwa mwamuna?
Choyamba, zonse zimadalira yemwe mkaziyo ali ndi mwamuna yemwe anali ndi tsiku lake loyamba. Ngati ichi ndi chinthu chowulera kwa nthawi yayitali, mtsikana amene amamukonda kwa nthawi yayitali komanso kubwezeretsa ubwenzi wake ndi iye kapena maganizo ochepa chabe - ndiye khalidwe lake pambuyo pa tsiku loyambirira ndilo njira yowonongeka kuti apambane mfumukazi yake. Pogwiritsa ntchito ndondomekoyi, zina zolakwika kuchokera ku ndondomeko yazomwe zikuchitika ndizovomerezeka, koma zimachepetsedwa kukhala zovomerezeka pang'ono pokhapokha ngati zikuchitika. Pano pali chikhalidwe chofunikira: ngati chimodzimodzi chimene munthu akhala akuchilakalaka sizinali zonse zomwe amaganiza, ayenera kuti apitilize kupambana, koma sangathe kupambana kupambana kwake .
Njira yachiwiri ndi modzidzimutsa kapena mtsikana yemwe poyamba sanazindikire ndipo mwadzidzidzi analowa mu diso lake. Makhalidwe a mwamuna pambuyo pa tsiku loyambirira ndi zodzionetsera kuti ali ndi bwenzi lake la moyo wamtsogolo akhoza kukhala osiyana kwambiri. Angamuitanenso usiku womwewo, pamene msonkhano unachitikira, kuyamika usiku wodabwitsa, kapena mwinamwake sichikuwonekeranso mu moyo wake. Pano, zifukwa ziŵiri zotsatirazi zimatsimikizira khalidwe la munthu.
Kodi tsikulo linapita bwanji?
Ngati, panthawi yomwe akuyenda pansi pa mwezi wokondana, onsewa amatha kuiŵala kwathunthu zokhudzana ndi zomwe akufunikira kukambirana pamsonkhano ndi mlendo, ndiye wina angatsimikize kuti chiyanjano choterocho chidzapitirirabe. Ndipo ndizotheka pafupifupi 90%, iwo adzayambitsidwa ndi munthu. Kwa iye, kuunika pochita ndi mkazi, kopanda mauthenga ovuta komanso osasamala, ndikofunikira kwambiri. Kwa amuna, ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mutseke ndi mkazi kuti asawoneke kuti akutsutsana ndi kufunika kolepheretsa izi. Chifukwa chake, khalidwe la munthu pambuyo pa msonkhano, momwe ophunzirawo amangokhalira kudumpha dzuwa lisanafike - limatchulidwa: posakhalitsa kapena mtsogolo mu moyo wa mkazi woteroyo, adzawonekera ndithu. Koma nthawi yomwe adzalitcha - zimadalira chinthu chachitatu chomwe chimakhudza chisankho cha munthu pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba.
Zomwe zimachitika pa msonkhano.
Sikuti tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mlendo, mnzako kapena mnzanu - njira yokonzedweratu kwa mwamuna. Komanso, malinga ndi chiwerengero, chisankho chokonzekera msonkhano woterechi ndidzidzidzimutsa pamabuku 68 pa zana. Choncho, sikuti mwamakhalidwe kapena mwamunthu munthu akuyamba tsiku loyamba ndi laulere. Amatha kukonzekera masiku ochepa ulendo wofunika, womwe ndi wovuta kwambiri. Ndipo komabe amatha kuyembekezera kwinakwake ndi mtsikanayo, maubwenzi omwe akhala nawo kwa nthawi yayitali salinso okonzekera, koma kulimbika pa kupuma sikukwanira. Pankhaniyi, ngati mwamuna ali woyenerera, ndiye kuti adzafunika nthawi yokambirana, kusankha ndi kukambirana naye za kutha. Nthawi zina pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba mwamuna amayamba kugonjetsa zovuta, zomwe, nthenda, kugonana kolimba kumakhudza kwambiri kuposa akazi. Pachifukwa ichi, khalidwe la mwamuna pambuyo pa msonkhano lidzadalira mwachindunji ndi kutsimikiza kwa mkazi yemwe watha kudzutsa mwa iye kukayikira mwa iyemwini ndi manyazi chifukwa cha mawu oyankhulidwa. Kapena kuchokera kuzinthu zomwe adazunguliridwa: Nthawi zambiri ubwenzi wabwino umasunga kukhalapo pafupi ndi mnzako wamwamuna wokayikira yemwe ulemu wake uli pa cholinga chake.
Ndipotu, chidziwitso chomwe chilipo tsiku loyambirira, khalidwe la msonkhano komanso zochitika zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zofunikira za munthu sizinthu zonse zomwe zimatsimikizira khalidwe lake mtsogolomu. Palinso nthawi zingapo zosinthika. Zina mwa izo, ndi zochita za mpikisano wopambana, zomwe zingalepheretse munthu kupitirizabe kukhala pachibwenzi. Ndipo mwangozi mwangozi, pamene munthu mwadzidzidzi amadziwa za osati khalidwe losangalatsa kwambiri la mnzake, limene mkaziyo adambisala.
Chinthu chimodzi chokhudza khalidwe la munthu pa nthawi yovutayi, motsatira tsiku loyambirira, chikhoza kufotokozedwa motsimikizika: mwamuna wachikondi mwachikondi amangofunafuna kukomana ndi chinthu chokhumba chake. Ndipo kulimbana ndi "radar" yowonjezera ilibe ntchito. Kotero, tsiku lachiwiri mu nkhaniyi lidzatero - mwangozi kapena mwachindunji, koma zidzachitika. Koma izi zili pokhapokha ngati mwamunayo amayamba kukondana ndi mnzake pa tsiku loyamba. Komabe, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, chidule ichi cha msonkhano wa kugonana kolimba sichiri chosowa: pafupifupi anyamata 60 peresenti amayamba kukondana tsiku loyamba. Zoona, pakati pa anthu okhwima mwauzimu pamsonkhano wa tete-a-tete, chikondi choterechi chimangowoneka pa 28% pa milandu. Komabe, motsatira maziko a chizindikiro chofanana, koma kwa amayi, pa mlingo wa 6%, zotsatirazi ndi zodabwitsa.