Zizindikiro za zosokoneza
Munthu wosadulidwa amaona kuti ndi zachilendo kugwiritsira ntchito maganizo, komanso ngakhale chiwawa, kwa mkazi. Ndi iye yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito kukwaniritsa zolinga zake ndi zofuna zake. Amuna ena amagwiritsanso ntchito chiwawa chogonana.
Mkazi akamachita zinthu molakwika malinga ndi maganizo a munthuyo, amayamba "kupsa mtima," motero amasonyeza kuti, ngati mkazi samatsekerera ndipo samvera, akhoza kuchitira nkhanza. Komanso, pakadali pano, khalidwe lachikazi limawoneka kuti ndilochilendo ndi lolakwika kwa iye yekha. Anthu ena samvetsa zomwe adachita. Khalidwe losayenera pamaso pa wofunkha ndilo maonekedwe aumwini komanso malingaliro anu.
Zotsalira kaŵirikaŵiri sizikumvetsera kuti mkazi wake amakhumudwitsidwa ndi amuna ena. Choncho, amawopseza amayiwo, kusonyeza kuti pakakhala kuti sakuchita bwino, mwamunayo sakwanira kuti iye mwini akhoza kunyoza ndi kunyozetsa, motero sangateteze kwa wina, akufotokozera ndi zomwe akuyenerera.
Zotsutsa nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa akazi kuti asrepay atayamba kumenyana ndi amatsenga chifukwa cha mantha a munthu. Mkaka woterewu ukhoza kunena kuti sanamuchitire nkhanza, ngakhale khalidwe lachiwawa ndi mkaziyo lidachitika, osati kamodzi.
Amuna achiwerewere amakonda kunyalanyaza akazi awo asanakhale mabwenzi ndi anzawo. Ngati mkazi ayamba kumuwuza kuti wam'khumudwitsa, adzalankhula kuti: "Iwe umakhudza kwambiri ndipo sukumva nthabwala, sungokhala ndi chisangalalo."
Zotsutsa siziyankhula za amayi mwaulemu, zimatha kukhala ndi munthu amene amalemekeza zachiwerewere koma amangochita izi ngati kuli kofunikira. Ndipo ndi anyamata ena, munthu wotere nthawi zonse amalankhula za akazi molakwika.
Munthu wonyenga nthawi zonse amapeza njira zokakamizira mkazi kupyolera mu maonekedwe ake ndi maganizo ake payekha. Nthaŵi zambiri otsutsa amayesa kulankhula mobwerezabwereza momwe zingathere kuyamikira, ndipo ngakhale musakumbukire za iwo konse. Amanena momveka bwino kuti ali okondana ndi moyo wa magawo awo, motero amawonetsa kuti kunja sikungakhale kukongola.
Otsutsa amayesera nthawi zonse kuti azigwiritsa ntchito mwanjira ya amayi. Si chinsinsi kuti dona wina wachikondi amayesa kuwaponya iwo omwe amawakonda, kuwathandiza, ndi zina zotero. Koma wogwira ntchitoyo amalowetsa ntchitoyi mwamsanga. Iye mwa njira zonse zotheka ndi zosatheka kuti amutsimikizire mkaziyo kuti akufuna ndipo ayenera kumuchitira zonse.
Malingaliro ake okha angakhale olondola. Ngakhalenso ngati mwamunayo chinachake sichinagwire ntchito, izi ndizolakwika, komanso mkaziyo. Komanso, sangatengere gawoli, komabe, wofunsayo adzapeza chifukwa chomuimba mlandu.
Otsutsa amatsutsa nthawi zonse kuti amalola abambo kuposa amayi awo. Iwo nthawi zonse amanena kuti amamvetsa bwino kwambiri akazi awo, koma amachita mwanjira imeneyi kokha kuchokera pa zolinga zabwino. Malingana ndi anthu oponderezedwa, akazi akhoza kuchita chirichonse, koma sangathe kuchita kanthu koma zopusa, choncho ntchito zawo ziyenera kulamulidwa.
Poyamba, otsutsa amayerekezera kukhala omvetsera komanso omvera. Ali ndi amayi oti alankhule ndi kulandira chidziwitso chokwanira, chomwe amachigwiritsa ntchito motsutsa miladyam. Chilichonse chimene akazi adalankhulapo ndi otsutsa chimakhala chida cha anthu onse.
Ngati mkazi ayamba kukangana ndi wofunsira, nthawi zonse amapeza njira yomutsimikizira kuti akuchita zinthu zoipa, amakhumudwa ndipo amawononga maganizo ake. Wosokonezeka nthawi zonse amadziyerekezera kuti ndi wozunzidwa ngati amvetsetsa kuti mkazi amatha kuzindikira kuti iye ndi woyenera. Nthawi yomweyo amamuneneza kuti ndi wodetsa nkhawa, akumangirira mfundo zotsutsana, akubwera ndi khalidwe lomwe alibe kwenikweni. Chotsatira chake, amayi amavomereza ndi chisokonezo ndikuyamba kuwapempha kuti akhululukidwe. Ndipo izi ndizo zomwe anthu amafunika kuti azigonjetsa chikhalidwe cha wina ndikupangitsa mkazi kumverera ngati munthu woyipa yemwe sali woyenera kukhala pachibwenzi.
Wokhululuka samamuvomereza kuti akumuchitira umboni, koma nthawi zonse amapeza mwayi wodzudzula mkazi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, abambo amamukakamiza ndi khalidwe lake ndipo amayenera kupereka uphungu ngati atakhala ngati asungwana ena, sakanati achite ndi khalidwe lake. Koma kokha ngati mkazi amveradi, amakhala wofooka, woopa, wonyoza komanso wodetsedwa kwambiri.