Nthawi zonse ndi inu. Chizindikiro cha chilakolako cha okondedwa onse ndicho kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, pokhapokha atayamba, izi zimaonekera makamaka. Iyi ndiyo njira yosavuta yodziwira kuchuluka kwa mwamuna wokondana nanu, ndi chikondi konse.
Ngati munthu alibe chidwi ndi inu, zidzafotokozedwa mwa:
- mwamuna adzayang'ana chifukwa chilichonse kuti akuwoneni;
- "mwachisawawa" kukhala pamalo omwewo monga inu: gulu, chiwonetsero, mlendo;
- Sikovuta kwa munthu kuthetsa msonkhano wina kuti akakumane nawe;
- amapanga misonkhano pa chikhalidwe, mu cafe, mu filimu.
Akuganiza nokha. Njira ina yabwino yodziwira zomwe mukutanthauza kwa abambo ndikumvetsera momwe amachitira pamaso panu. Ngati muli wokondedwa kwambiri kwa iye, pa ulendo, mwachiwonekere, mwamuna amafuna kwenikweni kukhala pafupi ndi iye. Ndipo ngati ali mbali ina ya chipinda, ndiye kuti mumamuyang'ana mwachikondi. Kulankhulana mu bwalo la abwenzi, nthawi zambiri kukonda kwa chinthu chanu chachikondi kudzakufotokozerani, ngati kuti simukuzindikira ena.
Samalani mawuwo. Kodi mumadziwa bwanji zomwe mumatanthauza kwa munthu mwakulankhula kwake? Kawirikawiri munthu wokondana nthawi zambiri amatchula dzina lanu - tsopano ndilofanana ndi mawu oti "okondedwa", omwe alibe chikhumbo chofuula mokweza. Mwinamwake lexicon yake imadzaza ndi "kuchepetsa" dzuwa, "nsomba," "chipewa" poyerekeza ndi iwe. Pamaso panu, mwamuna samachitira nkhanza, sagwiritsa ntchito chinenero chamanyazi, amayesera kutsatira mawu ake, kuti asakuchititseni kukukhumudwitsani.
Zindikirani khalidwe. Mukudziwa bwanji zomwe mumatanthauza kwa iye, mwa khalidwe lake? Ndiyeno chirichonse chiri chosavuta. Ngati mumachita khalidwe lachilendo, osati mofanana ndi nthawi zonse - ndithudi simulibe chidwi naye. Mwachitsanzo, iye:
- amaseka kwambiri kuposa nthawi zonse, kapena, mosiyana, amayesa kubisa maganizo ake;
- amauza za zochitika zake zakale kapena ayamba kusonyeza;
- Akudandaula pamene mawu ake ayamba kunjenjemera, kupuma kumakhala mofulumira, pamene akukweza manja ake, kusonyeza zizindikiro zina zooneka;
- kuyang'ana zosangalatsa, kukopa chidwi cha ena kuti asonyeze mbali yabwino kwambiri.
Ngati simunadziwebe ndi mwamuna, dziwani kuti mabwenzi anu adziwona kusintha kwake ndipo chinthu chachilendo chikuchitika ndi iye pamaso panu. Ndipo, ndithudi, iwo akufuna kugawana nawo izi.
Komanso, malingaliro enieni a amuna ndi pamene mupereka chikondi chomwecho momwe mumalandira. Inu mulibe lingaliro la kuchepa mu chikondi. Pamene munthu amakuchitirani nsanje, amasamala, mukadwala, amakusamalirani. Mwamuna ndi wofunikira pa maganizo anu, amavomereza kupereka kuti mukhale okondwa. Pakutsutsana ndi munthu, nthawi zonse amatenga mbali yanu.
Ngati munthu ali ndi chidwi ndi moyo wanu - kodi mumatani, nkhawa zanu ndi zotani, izi zikutanthauza kuti mumatanthauza zambiri kwa iye. Pamene sakondwera ndi zofunikira zanu zokha, komanso amakhudzidwa ndi zofooka. Sindinavomereze kuti ndimakonda nthawi yomweyo, zimasonyeza kuti ndakhala ndikuganiza kwa nthawi yayitali za momwe tingachitire izi komanso kuti ndi nthawi yanji yoyenera. Amakukondani kuti mupsompsone. Ngati akulembera masamu ndi mawu - "onse", "chikondi", "amanjenje", "ndi chikondi" kapena zina zotero.
Kuwopa kuti akutaya iwe. Kulakalaka nthawi zonse kukukhudzani, penyani, kugonana (ngakhale izi zingatheke pokhapokha pachiyambi cha mnzanu).
Koma kukayikira kumakhudzidwa ndi kumverera kwa munthu, pamene sakufuna kukulowetsani ku gawo lina la moyo wake. Pamene mukumva kuti chinachake sichimaliza. Pamene sakufuna kulankhula za chikondi chakale, ngakhale mutanena za inu nokha. Izi zikusonyeza kusadalira mwa inu. Ngati mwamuna sakufuna kukusamalirani, kapena osaganizira konse, pamene mukusowa thandizo. Akasankha chilichonse, iye samvetsera maganizo anu. Iye sakufuna kukuwonetsani kwa abwenzi ake, kapena kukukokeretsani nanu - kubwalo, kusewera mpira kapena kusodza. Ngati mutatha msonkhano woyamba kapena wachiwiri mutamva makalata ambiri komanso chikondi chovomerezeka.
Nazi njira zingapo zoti mudziwe zomwe mukutanthauza kwa munthu pa msinkhu wosalankhula. Monga mukudziwira, amuna ali ndi zizindikiro zambiri, zomwe sizili zovuta kuganiza zolinga zake. Zambiri mwazizindikirozi sizikudziwa. Ndikofunika kuwazindikira bwino.
Ngati nsidze zikuleredwa. Pamene tili ndi chinthu chomwe chimakopa chidwi, nsidze zathu zimaduka ndikugwa. Izi zimachitika mosasamala za msinkhu, kumalo alionse, mwa munthu aliyense wamwamuna.
Miyendo ya ajar. Ngati munthu atsegula pakamwa pake, nthawi yomwe mumakumana naye ndi mawonekedwe, ndiye kuti amakukondani.
Mphuno zimakula pang'ono. Pamene nsidze zikulera, kamwa imatseguka pang'ono ndipo mphuno zimakula mokwanira - izi zimamupangitsa munthuyo kuyang'ana mwachikondi. Ndipo kusiyana kwa nkhope ya munthu kumanena kuti iye, mwinamwake, amanjenjemera.
Munthu akaima molunjika, akukoka mimba, amafuna kudziwonetsera yekha mu ulemerero wake wonse. Mizere pambali pambali, chizindikiro cha kugonana. Ndipo ngakhale atakhala pansi ndi miyendo yake, amasonyeza kuti ali ndi chinachake choti apereke mayiyo.
Kuyang'ana kwa mwamuna kumasiya mbali zabwino kwambiri za thupi la mkazi, motero kumamveka momveka bwino kuti amakuchitira iwe monga chibwenzi.
Pamene masokosi a nsapato za mwamuna akuloledwa kutsogolo kwako, amakukondani. Mwamuna amakugwirani pamapewa kapena mmphepete, ndiye akufuna kuti akhale otsimikiza kuti simudzatayika m'gulu la anthu komanso chofunika kwambiri, ndipo izi zidzawopseza anthu omwe angakugwiritseni ntchito, chifukwa muli kale pafupi ndi mwamuna.
Ngati amapereka thukuta kapena jekete yake. Zimati, monga choncho, kuti kwa iye "Zanga ndi zanga, ndi zako", pambali pake ndizopangidwira, kuteteza chizindikiro cha munthu. Ndipo, pomalizira, munthu ali ndi chifukwa choti awonekere kachiwiri, ngakhale mutangotenga malo anu.