Tiyeni tipereke chitsanzo, mayi wina wazaka 35 akumuuza kuti anakwatira mwamuna wa zaka 30. Asanakwatirane, anakumana zaka 10. Monga momwe mkazi akunenera, ali ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri, koma pali "koma" - amayi a mwamuna wake akumangoyendetsa mwamisala. "Amalamulira mwamuna wanga ngati mnyamata wamng'ono. Pa nthawi iliyonse, amatembenukira kwa iye, ndipo amamvera ndikuwamvera ndikuwathandiza. Ngati mwamuna sagwirizana ndi chinachake, amamufuula, ndipo amavomereza. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse ndikapita kukadya madzulo ndi mwamuna wanga, chinachake chimachitika kwa amayi ake ndipo zolinga zonse zawonongeka, "adatero mayiyo.
Mkazi uyu akumva kuti wasiya, chifukwa mwamuna wake nthawi zambiri amamukankhira iye ndi ana pambali, kuchita chinachake kwa amayi ake. N'zoona kuti amalemekeza amayi ake ndipo amayesa kumuthandiza, koma pochita izi, amawononga banja lake, mkaziyo amafunikira kuti amutenge mapewa m'manja mwake, ndipo potsiriza amakhala mwamuna. Ndipo mkazi aliyense payekha akuganiza kuti:
- chifukwa chiyani munthu uyu sangathe kunena ayi, nthawi zina;
- chifukwa chiyani amayi ake ali ndi mphamvu zotere pa mwamuna wanga?
- Nanga mungaganize zotani kuti mulekanitse awiriwa kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake kuti muyambe kumanga moyo wanu pamodzi?
Kotero, ku funso lakuti "Kwa amene ndinakwatirana naye," mwana wamwamuna "kapena mwamuna", yankho lake silili lotonthoza, koma likuwonekera.
Yankho lake ndi - lekani kupanga zifukwa zamtundu uliwonse ndikuvomereza kuti mwamuna wanu ndi mwana wa mayi, chifukwa inu nokha mumamulola kukhala monga choncho. Ichi ndi cholakwika chanu. Chowonadi ndi chakuti amayi ake adakhazikitsa miyezo ndi zofunikira kwa iye, ndipo mkazi wake sanatero.
Mwamuna weniweni ndi wokonzeka komanso wokondwa kutsatira malamulo anu akamudziwa, ndipo amatsimikiza kuti ngati amatsatira malamulowa, adzakondweretsa mkazi wake wokondedwa.
Choncho kuyambira pachiyambi cha ubale wanu, muyenera kukhazikitsa malamulo ndikuonetsetsa kuti mwamunayo akutsatira. Apo ayi, amatsatira malamulo a amayi ake.
Amayi ake anali amayi oyambirira kumuuza zomwe ayenera kupirira, ndipo osati; ngati amamuuza nthawi yoti apite kunyumba, sambani m'manja musanadye, mumuteteze mlongo wake, ndipo nthawi zonse mverani ndikukhulupirirani amayi ake, ganizirani zomwe mnyamata uyu angachite? Choncho amatsatira malamulo amenewa, chifukwa samvera mayi ake, komanso chifukwa amamukonda. Pakapita nthawi, malamulo a amayi ake amafanana ndi msinkhu wake, zochitika zake, ndipo sadzasiya zonsezi - ndipo mwana wake, ngati ali wachikondi, wachikondi, sadzachoka konse kwa iwo, ndipo adzalemekeza, kuteteza, kusakondana komanso kupereka mkazi, chimene chinamupatsa iye moyo.
Mfundo yaikulu kwa mwamuna wake
Zidzakhala mpaka atapeza mkazi wanzeru yemwe adzamukonda ndipo adzamukonda, yemwe adzatha kukhazikitsa zofunika ndi malamulo pa chiyanjano. Malamulo akulu ndi awa:
- Ndilemekezeni.
- Ana athu ndi ine ndife pamwamba pa ena onse pambuyo pa Mulungu.
- Fotokozani kwa aliyense amene timayankhulana nawo, kuti ayenera kundilemekeza ine ndi ubale wathu.
Ngati simunakhazikitse malamulo a chiyanjano chanu, ndiye munthu amadziwa bwanji za umoyo wanu, sangathe kuwerengera malingaliro ake kotero kuti azitsatira zofunikira ndi malamulo a omwe adawaika, omwe ndi amayi ake. Sikuti amayi ake amayesa kusunga mwamuna wanu, koma kuti simunatengere mapepala a boma m'manja mwanu.
Heroine wa nkhani yathu kwa zaka khumi anali wamwano komanso wolekerera apongozi ake, makamaka chifukwa ankaopa kuti mwamuna wake amusiya ndi kusankha amayi ake ngati ayamba kuyendetsa galimoto pakati pa amayi ake ndi mwana wake. Komabe, amuna amasiyana kwambiri, ngati mwamuna amakukondani, komanso ngati mwamuna weniweni, ndiye kuti adzapeza njira yomwe idzasokoneze kusiyana kwa mkazi ndi apongozi ake.
Dziwani kuti simukukangana ndi mayi ake amene anasintha mabala anu kwa mwamuna wanu, yemwe amadziwa komanso akhoza kuphika mbale yake yomwe amamukonda, yomwe imamudziwa bwino kwambiri kuposa inu. Simungayime pakati pa mwana wanu ndi mayi ake ngati amakonda amayi ake.
Kukhala woonamtima, ndi bwino kumanga ubale ndi mwamuna yemwe amalemekeza ndi kukonda amayi ake kusiyana ndi amene amanyoza amayi ake komanso omwe sangathe kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi wolimba ndi mkazi.
Mwachidziwikire, mukhoza kugwirizana ndi mwamuna ndi mayi ake, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo muyang'ane zomwe mungathe kulamulira pamene mukugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu yanu kukhazikitsa malamulo ndi zikhalidwe zomwe inu nonse mungasunge pamene mumanga banja lanu.
M'malo modandaula kuti adakusiyirani inu ndi ana ndipo anathamangira kwa amayi ake pakati pa usiku, nyamukani pa khomo lachipinda ndikumuuza kuti: "Ndikudziwa momwe mumamvera za amayi anu, ndikudziwa kuti mumamukonda Mudzachita zonse zomwe akufunseni, koma kuti mukuponyera ine ndi ana kuti ndithandizire kusuntha zovalazo sizolandiridwa. Ngati mupita tsopano, khalani kumeneko usiku wonse. "
Pankhaniyi, mumudziwitsa za miyezo yanu, mogwirizana ndi zomwe mukufuna kukhala ndikusankha, tsopano akhoza kupita kapena kufotokozera amayi ake kuti sangabwere lero, koma adzati mawa. Simungathe kulamulira malingaliro ndi zochita za mwamuna wanu ndi amayi ake, koma mukhoza kuthetsa malingaliro anu ndi ziyembekezo zanu kuchokera kwa amuna anu.
Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi chanu muthe kufunsa funso lokhudza kuti simukufuna kupikisana ndi amayi ake ndipo simukufuna kudzuka pakati pawo, choncho amafunika kuwuza amayi ake kuti:
- Zosowa za mkazi wake, mkwatibwi sayenera kutengedwa kumbuyo;
- Ayenera kulemekeza zosowa za mwanayo kuti akhale wothandizira komanso woteteza mkazi wokondedwa, amene amamusankha kukhala mnzake m'moyo wake.
Kodi mkazi ayenera kuchita chiyani?
Mwamuna aliyense weniweni amafunikira mkazi wokondedwa ndi amayi ake, ndipo amamvetsa izi. Amamvetsetsanso kuti ngati akufuna kukhala ndi ubale wabwino, wodekha komanso wamuyaya, ayenera kudula mutu wa umbilical umene umagwirizanitsa iye ndi amayi ake. Anakhala wamkulu ndipo thandizo limene mayi ake analandira: nyumba, zovala, maphunziro, chisamaliro, ndi zina zotero, ziyenera kutha.
Mukungofuna kumuuza zomwe mukufunikira kuti mutsimikizire ndikukutetezani inu ndi ana anu, kuwathandiza kuwathandiza, kuwapanga iwo chitsanzo kwa ana, kuti akhale mutu wa banja lino. Ngati mukunena choncho, malamulo anu ndi zofunikira nthawi zambiri zimaposa zofuna za amayi ake.