Mwatsoka, funso la chifukwa chake amuna amataya akazi popanda kufotokoza, amayendera mitu yabwino kwambiri mobwerezabwereza kuposa momwe angafunire. Amayi ambiri amasiya amuna omwewo, osapereka yankho lililonse lodziwika bwino. Ndipo amayiwo amangoganizira za zochita za munthu, zomwe sakufotokoza. Ndipotu, zimachitika kuti banjali likuwoneka kuti likuchita bwino, ndipo kenako mosayembekezera, achinyamata amataya akazi ndikupita kwa ena kapena kukhala okha. Nchifukwa chiyani ziri choncho, bwanji mwamuna ataya mkazi wopanda tsatanetsatane?
Khalani chete chifukwa cha chisoni
Njira yoyamba, yoyenera kwambiri - mkaziyo anakhala wosasangalatsa mwamuna. Koma chifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika, mukhoza kufunsa chifukwa, ngati mayi sakufuna mnyamata, samasiyidwa kamodzi? Mwinamwake mfundo ndi yakuti poyamba kwa mwamuna yemwe anali wokondweretsa, koma patapita nthawi, iye anazindikira zolakwa zimenezo zomwe sanazione poyamba. Mwa njira, kwa amayi ambiri kufotokoza uku kumakhala kovuta. Koma kwenikweni, musakhumudwe. Mungofunika kuganizira za khalidwe lanu ndi khalidwe la mnyamata. Mwinamwake muli ndi zosiyana, zokonda ndi malingaliro pa moyo. Ndiye musati mudandaule. Mwinamwake, simunayandikire wina ndi mzake ndipo mnyamatayo anaganiza kuti atha, kuti asakukhumudwitseni mwa kupereka ndemanga kapena kungoganizira kuti ndi kofunikira. Ngati mumvetsa kuti muli ndi zofooka zomwe sizili khalidwe la amai ambiri, ndiye ganizirani za iwo ndikuyesani kuwongolera. Pakapita nthawi, mudzawona kuti maganizo a achinyamata omwe angasinthe kwa inu adzasintha ndipo simudzasiya.
Khalani chete chifukwa cha kulemekeza
Njira yachiwiri - mwamuna amawona mwa mkazi yekha chinthu chogonana. Pankhaniyi, anyamatawa amasiya atsikana akamangodzivutitsa kapena pali "wodwala" watsopano. Pankhaniyi, inu nokha muyenera kumvetsa zomwe muli. Ndipo musanene kuti iwo anali kuyembekezera kuti mwamuna angakukondeni inu ndi kuyesa kumumanga iye ndi kugonana. Aliyense amadziwa nthawi yaitali kuti njirayi sinagwire ntchito ndipo sizidzagwira ntchito. Ndiyeno momwe mnyamata amachitira iwe (monga wogonana naye kapena mtsikana yemwe angakhale mtsikana), mukhoza kudziwa nthawi yomweyo, pokhapokha mutadzipusitsa. Choncho, kuyamba chiyanjano ndi mnyamata, tangoganizirani moyenera maganizo ake kwa inu. Ndiye simukuyambitsa naye konse, kapena simudandaula pamene achoka opanda tsatanetsatane. Chifukwa pa nthawiyi, achinyamata nthawi zambiri samangoona kuti ndizofunika, popeza sakulemekeza atsikana. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani izi.
Khalani chete "zabwino"
Njira yachitatu - munthu mwiniwake samvetsa mmene akumvera kapena amakhulupirira kuti sizowoneka bwino kwa mtsikana. Inde, panopa, ndikufuna kukumbutsani achinyamata kuti sikuli koyenera kupanga ena omwe angakhale bwino. Koma, mwatsoka, sikuti aliyense wogonana ndi abambo amamvetsera izi. Kotero, ngati chirichonse chinali chabwino mu ubale wanu, koma mukudziwa kuti mnyamata amayamba kudzikonda yekha ndi kudzichepetsa, pakadali pano mungaganize kuti wasiya popanda kufotokoza, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti zidzakhala zosavuta kuiwala ndikuyamba moyo ndi wina zabwino. Mnyamata yekha angakhoze kuchita pamene samvetsa zomwe akumva kapena amaopa maganizo ake. Iye, nayenso, akhoza kuyamba kusanthula chirichonse, koma pamene akuganiza kwambiri, amatha kusokonezeka. Amuna oterewa amatha kamodzi mu malangizo osadziwika.
Koma chifukwa chilichonse chokhalira opanda tsatanetsatane sichinali cha mwamuna, amai akhoza kulangizidwa - osayesa kupeza mnyamata ndi kupeza mayankho ochokera kwa iye. Kotero iwe umangodzidetsa wekha osati mwa iye yekha, koma payekha. Kumbukirani kuti ngati munthu akufuna kufotokoza chilichonse, adzabwera ndikupereka mayankho a mafunso anu. Inde, pokhapokha chinachake chitacitika, ndiye kuti munalakwitsa kuti adakhumudwa ndipo sakufuna kulankhula. Koma pakadali pano, mukudziwa kale kufotokozera. Ndipo mwa ena onse - chitani zinthu mwakachetechete ndikumbukira kunyada kwa akazi.