Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mwamuna adziwana ndi mtsikana, amamukonda kwambiri, ali wokonzeka kukhala naye pachibwenzi, ndipo akuwoneka ngati nayenso. Iwenso, nditha kale kukhala awiri abwino, ndipo sakuletsedwera pano. Koma mwamunayo, chifukwa cha zifukwa zosadziwika, akulowa mu "pause", kumene iye alibe, koma malingaliro ake pa mtsikanayo akupitiliza kukula. Koma, m'moyo, zinachitika kuti asungwana alibe ulamuliro wotero, ndiko kuti, alibe "pause". Ndipo izi zikutanthauza chiyani?
Popeza mtsikanayo sangatengere yekha, palibe chomwe chidzachitike, koma malingaliro ake pa iye ... Adzakhala bwenzi lake basi. Ndipo ubale woterowo sungakonzere. Adzakhala mabwenzi abwino kwa zaka zingapo, koma patapita zaka zingapo adzayesetsabe kuyandikira kwa iye, mosasamala kanthu za zovuta zake zosiyanasiyana. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Chifukwa mwamunayo amamuwona kale mtsikanayo, amamudziwa bwino kwambiri tsopano. Zikhoza kuthandizira panthawi yovuta, koma mtsikana samasowa ... Pali mfundo yokondweretsa yomwe imafotokozanso chifukwa chake abambo akufuna kubwerera kumbuyo.
Ndikoyenera kuti mumvetse kuti amai amakonda kuphunzira chinachake chatsopano, ndipo amuna ndi osiyana kwambiri, ali okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana pokhapokha atamudziwa bwino, chifukwa izi zimayambitsa mavuto.
Musaganize kuti anthu onse amakumana ndi okondedwa awo mwa njirayi - si. Amuna angayambe kuchita masewera olimbikitsa komanso pachiyambi - izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri. Ndipo ndi awiriwa omwe akutsutsana, ndipo mtsikanayo akuyamba kudzifunsa funso atachoka pamnyamatayo: "Nchifukwa chiyani munthu akufuna kubwerera kumbuyo? ".
Amuna amakonda kubwerera ku zifukwa zoyenera. Pali zifukwa zambiri za izi, koma tsopano tiyesera kuzindikira zomwe zikubweranso kwa ife pambuyo pake.
Ife poyamba sitinanene mozindikira za zofooka za amuna, kumbukirani? Za momwe amakhalira bwenzi ndi nthawi ndi zinthu. Momwemonso amakhalanso osudzulana. Tiyeni tiyerekeze mkhalidwe wabwino: mumakhala ndi mwamuna wanu kwa zaka ziwiri, zonse ziri bwino; Zakhala zaka 6 tsopano, mukuyamba kunjenjemera, mwamuna wanu akuyamba kukulimbikitsani, chabwino, ndi zina zolakwika zomwe zingabwere pa moyo wautali wina ndi mzake. Pambuyo pa zaka khumi ndikukhala limodzi, mumadziwa kuti simukugwirizana. Pali mitundu iwiri ya kukula kwa zochitika: muli ndi ana, ndinu nokha. Ndicho chinthu chachikulu chomwe chimachititsa kuti banja likhale losudzulana. Ngati muli ndi ana, muwamvera chisoni, ndipo simudzasintha, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzazindikira kuti mwachita bwino. Koma ngati mulibe ana ... zonse zingathe kuthetsa banja.
Choncho, tsopano tikufunikira kufufuza momwe moyo wa banja lirilonse ukatha pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Msungwanayo ali ndi mwayi wochuluka wokwatiranso, iye sadzaimitsidwa. Iye, nthawi zambiri, adzachita zomwezo. Kwa amuna, ndiye kuti zonse ziri zovuta kwambiri. Koma ngati angakonde izi, chifukwa banja lake loyamba linatha, palibe kuthekera kuti ndichiwiri chidzatha motere. Iye sakonda izi, amayamba kuganizira momwe angaperekere moyo wake. Amayamba kukumbukira nthawi zabwino za moyo ndi bwenzi lake lakale, momwe zinthu zinalili bwino, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo amadziwa kuti iye yekhayo ndi amene amamufuna. Amayamba kumuyitana, amayamba kuyankhulana ndipo zonse zimayamba kukhala bwino, ndipo ngakhale ali ndi mwayi, adzayambiranso ukwati wawo. Ndiye chirichonse chiyenera kupita "ngati ma clockwork," choncho nthawi zambiri zimachitika. Iyi ndiyo njira yoyamba.
Palinso chifukwa china chimene inu mumathetsera, chabwino, amuna amakonda kubwerera kumbuyo. Zonsezi ndi mfundo yomweyo. Atakhala limodzi kwa nthawi ndithu, amadziwa kuti wakuphunzitsani bwino, akhoza kuchita chilichonse chimene chingakhale chabwino kwa inu. Anaphunzira zonsezi kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo adakwanitsa. Tsopano iye, kwa nthawiyo, akukhala yekha ndipo akumvetsa kuti ndi msungwana watsopano adzayenera kudziunjikira mfundo izi kachiwiri. Koma chifukwa chiyani, chifukwa alipo kale mtsikana amene amamudziwa bwino, nayenso? Pambuyo pake, mutha kubwereranso ndi ubale ndikupitirizabe kukhala ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika. Kotero nthawi zambiri zimachitika, ndipo zimagwirizana ndi aliyense, chifukwa sizimapangitsa wina kukhala woipa kwambiri.
Zomwe zimayambitsa chisudzulo ndizokhala ngati "kusokoneza". Mukukhala motalika kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake, mwatopa wina ndi mzake, mukufuna zina zosiyana. Pali chisudzulo, ndipo kuyambiranso, nthawizina, sikungatheke. Pofuna kupewa izi, muyenera kukhala mwamtendere m'banja. Pangani zosangalatsa zosiyanasiyana pamoyo wanu palimodzi. Yesani chinthu chatsopano. Ndipotu, amuna ndi owona mtima, amafuna kukhala ndi mtsikana wina pabedi, koma sangathe kuchita izi. Ndipo inu, ndithudi, musamulole iye achite izi. Ndiye iye, mwakuya mu chidziwitso, ali ndi lingaliro. Ine ndigawana nanu kwa kanthawi, kuyenda pang'ono, ndikubweranso kwa inu. Izi ndizoonekeratu kuti mwamuna wake akufuna kubwerera, chifukwa adazichita kwa kanthawi. Iye ankayenerera chirichonse muukwati, iye ankangofuna kusintha, ndizo zonse.
Ndicho chifukwa chake abambo omwe ali pachibwenzi chachikulu ayenera kumvetsera zofuna za mwamuna wake. Ndipotu, osati zanu zokha, komanso zikhumbo zake ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa. Ndiye mwayi woti kugwa kwa banja kukhale kochepa. Mungapewe mikangano yosafunika yomwe imachokera ku zinthu zazing'ono.
Tapenda zifukwa zikuluzikulu zomwe amuna amasiya amai ndikuyesera kubwerera. Zifukwa izi ndi zoyenera kwa maanja omwe ali ndi chiyanjano, ndipo amakwaniritsa pamodzi, koma maukwati aatali tsopano akusoweka. Malangizo akulu: Pambuyo pa chisudzulo musachedwe kuiwala za okondedwa anu, dikirani kuti ayitane, kapena, ngakhale kuti kunyada kwake sikulola, muitane nokha. Kambiranani naye za moyo, funsani zomwe sakusangalala nazo pokhala ndi inu, mwinamwake mungathe kuwongolera zolephera zanu ndipo zonse zidzakuyenderani bwino.