Munthu nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha m'moyo wake, kotero kuti kumverera kumakhala kozoloŵera. Ndikwanira kamodzi kuti muwone mantha, momwe angathamangire munthu m'moyo wake wonse, kudziwonetsera yekha wamphamvu kapena wofooka. Munthu wamkulu akamakula, amayamba mantha. Munthu amawopa ndi zochitika ndi malingaliro omwe adayamba kuchita m'maganizo mwake, anasokoneza moyo wake.
Kodi tingachite chiyani kuti mantha asakhudze moyo wamtsogolo wa ana athu?
Zomwe zimayambitsa mantha aunyamata
Chifukwa chimodzi chodziwika kwambiri ndi chochitika, nkhani yomwe inamuopseza mwana. Mwamwayi, mantha oterowo akhoza kusintha. Ndipo si ana onse omwe amawopa kwambiri zochitika zotsatila pambuyo pa chochitika chosasangalatsa - mwachitsanzo, ngati mwana walumidwa ndi galu. Mtundu wa mwanayo, mbali yake idzakuthandizani kulimbana ndi mantha, ngati ali wodziimira yekha, mwachitsanzo. Ndipo mosiyana ndi izi, muyenera kuyesetsa kukhala ndi makhalidwe ena monga: kudzidandaula, nkhawa, nkhawa, zomwe zingawoneke ndikukula mwa mwana, ngati kuyambira pa kubadwa kukawopseza mwana Baba-Yaga, wolusa, yemwe amulanga chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa.
Mu ubwana ife tonse ndife olota, omwe ali ndi mbali ina ya ndalama - malingaliro aunyamata angabweretse mantha atsopano. Pambuyo pake, kumbukirani kuti ambiri a ife tinkachita mantha ndi mdima kapena ngodya yamdima? Ndi chifukwa chanji ichi? Ndipo ndi zomwe tikhoza kulingalira, ngati kuti kuchokera mu chipinda chamdima chomwe sichisiyana mwa njira iliyonse kuyatsa, pangakhale kuponyedwa kapena kukhala ndi moyo wa chilombo choopsa. Komabe, mmodzi wa ana, pakapita nthawi, amaiwala za mantha awa, ndipo wina wa zaka zambiri okalamba amawona mantha akuyandikira pamene akusunthira kuchokera kuchipinda kupita ku khitchini pakati pa usiku.
Kuopa anthu akuluakulu muubwana kungakhazikitsenso moyo. Kawirikawiri makolo osamala, akuyesa kuphunzitsa ana kuti azichita mwanzeru ndi zinthu ndi zochitika zapadziko lozungulira, akudandaula kuti: "Musakhudze - mudzadziwotcha nokha", "Musati mugwe", "Musadwale - bite," muiwale kuti izi zidzasokoneza kwambiri ndikudziwopsyeza: zinthu kapena zoopseza za akuluakulu. Mwanayo sakudziwa zomwe zingachitike ngati atachita njira yake, koma ndemanga yeniyeniyo ili kale pamutu pake. Kuopa ndi mantha koteroko kumakhalabe kosamvetsetseka kwa moyo wonse
Kukhala ndi mantha ndi zachirengedwe, koma ndi iti mwa iwo omwe angatchedwe zachibadwa? Mwana aliyense akhoza kuona mantha omwe ali nawo m'zaka zinazake.
Zambiri za zaka za mantha
Ali ndi zaka zoposa 1-2 mwanayo amaopa china chake chosadziwika - kaya ndi nyama, munthu watsopano kapena chinthu chachilendo kwa iye. Mpaka chaka chimodzi, ana amaopa pamene mayi alibe, amasintha m'maganizo ake kapena kusintha kwake kunja kwa chilengedwe - mkokomo waukulu, nyali zowala kwambiri.
Ali ndi zaka 2-3, mwanayo amayamba kuopa mawonekedwe atsopano a danga: kutalika, kuya, kutchire, kumtunda, kumtunda, komanso usiku (usiku wapatali, madzulo amodzi), pali mantha a ululu (inoculation pa dokotala ), kulangidwa (kuika pa ngodya!), kuopa kuti asiye yekha. Kodi mukukumbukira m'mene sitinakonde makolo athu atachoka nthawi yaitali ndikuyembekezera kuti iwo abwerere mosaleza mtima?
Kuwopa komwe kumagwirizanitsa ndi chitukuko cha malingaliro a mwanayo kumawonekera ali ndi zaka 3-4. Ana amabwera kapena akumbukira pa zojambulajambulazo, nkhani yachinthu chowopsya kwambiri chomwe "chikhoza kuwaopseza" ndipo amawalondera pansi pa kama kuti agwire phazi laling'ono.
Pa zaka zazing'ono za sukulu, zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi mpaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, kuopa imfa kwa achibale awo, amayi kapena abambo akuyamba kuwonekera. Mwana wam'badwo uno amadziwa kale kuti munthu angamwalire, motero, atakhala kutali kwa makolo madzulo, zochitika zina zachibadwa (mabingu, mitambo yamdima masana), ana angakhale ndi mantha aakulu.
Pokhala okalamba, mantha awa aubwana amapereka njira yakuopa kuwalanga, kutha kwa sukulu, kupeza chizindikiro cholakwika. Ana amakula, ndipo panthawi imodzimodzi "maginito" amapezeka - ana ayamba kukhulupirira mu Brownie, Mfumukazi ya Spades, mizimu yoyipa, kukumbukira zizindikiro zoipa, ziwerengero zosautsa. Pazaka izi, mantha amawonjezeredwa ndi maumboni, mantha, nkhawa ndi kachitidwe ka msinkhu wotere.
Ana akayamba kukhala achinyamata, mantha awo enieni nthawi zambiri amawopa imfa ya makolo komanso nkhondo yomwe ingatheke. Pa nthawi yomweyi, mantha otero amathandizana. Pali mantha a moto, kusefukira, kuukira, imfa yawo. Atsikana amakhala oopa kwambiri kuposa anyamata. Komabe, chiwerengero cha mantha chikuchepa kwa ana a sukulu ndi a zaka zachinyamata poyerekeza ndi msinkhu wao wa msinkhu.
Yankho lolondola liri kuti?
Mu moyo wa mwana tsiku liri lonse pali zinthu zatsopano, zosazolowereka. Amafuna kupirira nawo, kumvetsetsa momwe akukonzekera, kuchotsa mantha a zosadziwika - ndipo mwanayo amapita kwa makolo ake.
Amakhulupirira kuti ngati makolo athandiza - perekani zofunikira, asonyeze mwachitsanzo ndikupita ku "maphunziro a dziko" ndi mwanayo, motero, athandize mwana wawo kuthana ndi mantha alionse aumunthu.
Izi zimachitika kuti chisanachitike chochitika chachikulu mu moyo wa mwana, mwachitsanzo, "nthawi yoyamba m'kalasi yoyamba" ndikofunikira kuthandizira ndikufotokozera momwe munachitira chochitika ichi m'moyo ndikupereka zambiri. Thandizani kumverera mwana wanu kuti siyekha muzochitikira zake.
Nthawi zina, kubwerera ku sukulu, ana amabwera ku chipinda chopanda kanthu, chomwecho chokha ndi chachilendo kwa iwo. Awalole kuti atsegule TV, atenge kamba, galu kapena buluti - yemwe angamuyankhule naye, amve kuti siye yekha mnyumbamo.
Kuopa kusintha kwa ana ndiko kusamukira kumalo atsopano, kuwoneka kwa oyandikana nawo atsopano, khoti latsopano. Yesetsani kutenga chinachake kuchokera kumalo ammbuyo omwe angakumbutse ndi kukhazikitsa lingaliro la kudalirika, chitetezo. Mwinamwake izo zidzakhala mtundu wina wa chitsamba chimene inu mumabzala mu malo anu okhalamo.
Mwana akamakhala ndi mantha, ndikofunikira kuti akhale mnzanu womvetsetsa, kumumvetsera ndi kumutsimikizira kuti ali otetezeka, makamaka ngati achibale onse ali pamodzi ndi pafupi naye. Mlingo wa chikhulupiliro umatsimikizira kupezeka komweko kapena kupezeka kwa mantha m'moyo wa mwanayo, kambiranani zonse zomwe zingamuvutitse. Ndikofunika kumvetsa kumene mantha amachokera, chomwe chimachokera. Makolo ayenera kuthandiza mwanayo kuthana ndi mantha omwe ali nawo. Ngati zotsutsa ndi zotsutsana sizikuthandizani - zimuchotseni - yang'anani kudutsa pazenera, muthamangire. Inde, ingomulangiza kuti mwanayo atenge mantha ake papepala - zidzatsimikizika kuti sizowopsya.
Ndipo, ndi kofunika kulankhula nthawi zonse ndi mwanayo, kumuphatikiza naye pokambirana. Ichi ndi chida champhamvu kwambiri polimbana ndi mantha a ana.