Ayi ndithu. Komanso, mndandanda wa amuna poyerekeza ndi abale awo ang'onoang'ono si njira yokhayo yodziwira mgwirizano weniweni wa kugonana molimba kwambiri, komanso kuyesedwa kovuta kuti akhale ndi chisangalalo. Kukhalapo komwe, mwa njira, kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wochepa pang'ono ngati mwamuna wamwamuna wa nyama yokhudza mtima, kuti akhale monga iye momveka alibe ludzu.
Sizomwe zilizonse zomwe akatswiri a maganizo amalingalira kuti munthu - onse mwamuna ndi mkazi - amasiyana ndi khalidwe lapadera: anthu ambiri amakhumudwa ndi makhalidwe amenewa mwa ena omwe amawononga khalidwe lawo. Choncho, tingathe kunena kuti munthu amene amakhumudwitsidwa poyerekeza ndi nyama amakhala m'maofesi, kapena ali ndi malingaliro olakwika ponena za nyama inayake, kapena kungogwirizana ndi kukhalapo mwa khalidwe lake la makhalidwe oipa a nyama. Mulimonsemo, izi sizingapangitse kukhala ngati munthu wakukhala padziko lapansi. Komanso, izi ndizovuta kwa amayi omwe amadera nkhaŵa kwambiri zinyama kusiyana ndi amuna amphamvu, omwe ali ovuta kwambiri kuwonongera kuchepa kwawo, ngakhale poyerekeza ndi nyama.
Nanga ndi mitundu yanji ya zinyama zomwe mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya amuna ikuwoneka?
Inde, palibe mtundu umenewo umene ungapangitse kutsutsana momveka molingana ndi mfundo iyi yofanana ndi nyama inayake. Munthu aliyense akhoza kukhala wopanikizika ngati bulu wodalitsika, komanso wokondweretsa nthawi yowonetsana, ngati khate lodziwika bwino, komanso wamwano mu nthawi yosagwirizana, monga chimbalangondo chakukwiya, ndi wokhulupirika, ngati galu. Koma chifukwa cha kupezeka kwakukulu kwa zinthu zina mu chikhalidwe cha munthu, wina amatha kumuika mu gulu lina lofanana ndi zinyama.
Choncho, poyamba, munthu yemwe khalidwe lake limatsatira kwambiri zizoloŵezi za galu. Imodzi mwazoipa kwambiri poyerekeza amuna ndi zinyama, ngakhale kwa iwo omwe samasangalala, ndi kumvetsa kusalunjika kwa fanizoli akukana kufotokoza kanthu. Amuna amakonda kukhala ngati agalu. Choyamba, chifukwa ndi chinyama ichi chomwe chimagwirizana kwambiri ndi munthu aliyense chogwirizana ndi kukhulupirika komanso kukhala ndi anzake ndi theka. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, amuna amitundu yambiri amadziyerekezera ndi mnzawo wapamtima kwambiri: motero akazi onse apadziko lapansi amakhalanso olemekezeka, ochenjera, okhulupilika komanso mwachibadwa.
Ndiye nchiyani chomwe chimasiyanitsa galu wamwamuna?
Iye ndi wokhulupirika ndi wokhulupirika, amakonda chakudya chokoma, kulimbikira ndi eni nyumba. Mkazi kwa iye si dona wa mtima yekha ndi chinthu choyamika, komanso mnzanu yemwe mosakhulupirika amakhulupirira malingaliro apamtima kwambiri. Amuna amenewa ndi amodzi okha ndipo ali okonzeka kudikira okondedwa awo kwa zaka zambiri. Komabe, atangomva kuti wina ali wachikondi kwambiri ndi wokondana naye, iye mwiniwake amadzikweza m'manja mwake mwakumudziwa mosayembekezereka: monga lamulo, amuna otere sakudziwa kukhala okongola, kawirikawiri wokondedwa wawo amangokhalira kukonda kwambiri iye sakudziwa. Ndicho chifukwa chake sakuganiza za kugonana. Amuna oterowo nthawi zambiri amakwatirana kamodzi kokha pamoyo wawo, ndipo musatengeke ndi zochita: ndizokondweretsa kuti anthu onse amaopa mgwirizano wa banja.
Chachiwiri, mphaka wamphongo.
Munthu wotero amapezeka mu moyo wa pafupifupi mkazi aliyense. Chimake chake ndi chikondi chosatha cha kugonana kokongola. Amakonda aliyense kamodzi, koma akhoza kukhala wokhulupirika kwa nthawi yayitali kwa yekhayo amene angamukwiyitse, atapangidwira msuzi wofewa m'mimba mwake. Chikondi cha munthu-cat chimasokoneza kwenikweni mafunde. Osati chifukwa chakuti ali ndi chidwi ndi ubwenzi wake wapamtima kwambiri. Izi ndizo zomwe amachiona ngati osati gawo lofunika kwambiri pa chiyanjano. Kuyambira kale, kukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi, kukonda maseŵera, kuwonetseratu chikondi cha lero m'maganizo osiyanasiyana - ndizo zomwe amuna amakonda amphaka. Iwo amakhalenso mafani a ukhondo. Ndipo muzinthu zonse: mnyumbamo ayenera kumangirizidwa, makina - otsukidwa, suti yawo kapena jeans - osambitsidwa. Ndipo iyeyo azisambitsa zonsezi, kuyeretsa ndi kupitiriza kuti asachite manyazi. Ngakhale, ngakhale, iye angakonde kuti mkazi azichita izo. Pambuyo pake, munthu wamphongoyo amangoganizira za munthuyo. Choncho, ndi kovuta kutcha icho chosapsa. Adzafulumira kukangana naye chifukwa choopa kutaya wokondedwa wake kapena kuopa kukhala wosayenera mokwanira pamaso pa anthu. Ayi: zambiri zimakhumudwitsidwa ndi kuyembekezera kutaya kwathunthu.
Chachitatu, mwamuna ndi ngulu.
Ziribe kanthu momwe anthu amasiyana mosiyana ndi zinyama, ndipo izi sizingatheke kuti munthu akhoza kukhumudwitsa kwenikweni. Chabwino, ndani safuna kukhala ngati chonchi, chothandiza, champhamvu ndi chodziimira yekha? Osati ngakhale nyama, koma chizindikiro cha nzeru, kuzindikira, mphamvu ndi liwiro la kuchita. Zoonadi mumagulu amphongo amakopeka pafupifupi aliyense. Koma nthawi zambiri amakhalabe osiyana ndi amai. Mofananamo, iwo moona mtima sangazindikire kuti mitima yambiri inathamanga bwanji mwamsanga pamene adawonekera. Ngati sakuwonetsa udindo wawo wa "Elvis Presley". Ndiyeno iwo sadzakhulupirira pomwepo. Zizolowezi za Tigir mu khalidwe ndi khalidwe la munthu ndi zochitika zazing'ono. Kawirikawiri amatha msinkhu, ndipo munthuyo amachoka ku gulu la akambuku kupita ku gulu lina. Koma palinso oimira amphamvu ogonana omwe samasintha chikhalidwe chawo. Kuti akhale paubwenzi wamuyaya, iwo sakusintha konse: ndi kovuta kwambiri kuti azindikire kuti mbuye wina tsopano akukhudza zinthu zawo popanda kufunikira. Mofananamo, mwini nyumbayo. Koma iwo sadzasowa pokhala kwawo ndi tiger: pano, mochulukirapo, pali zipsyinjo zamkuntho ndi zachifundo zonse, mphatso zopatsa ndi kulephera kuvomereza mphatso yowonongeka, ndi kusagwirizana nthawizonse kwa anthu, ndi chisokonezo pa nthawi ya chiyanjanitso. Mwachidule, chovala chokwanira chakumveka kwambiri chikuyembekezeredwa ndi mkazi amene anasankha tiger.
Chachinayi, njovu yamphongo.
Wamphamvu kwambiri, sakonda kuima, osagwedezeka pamaso pa mavuto - uyu ndiye mwamuna yemwe mkaziyo akuwoneka ngati kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala. Ponena za iye, tinganene motsimikiza kuti ali ndi moyo wogwiritsa ntchito njirayi "Ndikuwona cholinga, sindikuwona zopinga." Munthu woteroyo ndi wopatsa chakudya, ndi mwamuna wokhulupirika, ndi bambo wanzeru wachikondi, ndi mwamuna weniweni. Inde, kwa mkazi wokonda ufulu, kugwirizana naye sikungakhale kosavuta: iye amangopangidwa kuti ateteze okondedwa, kuteteza zofuna zake ndi kumupatsa iye chirichonse popanda khama pa mbali yake, zomwe nthawizina zimamusiya iye kukhala wosayanjanitsika.