Komabe, musachedwe kusiya chinachake chimene simukugwirizana nacho. Mwinamwake mungapeze malingaliro atsopano pa chinthu chomwecho chomwe chimawakonda akazi. Pambuyo pake, ngati mutaphunzira kumvetsetsa malingaliro, malingaliro ndi khalidwe la amuna, chifukwa cha kumvetsetsa kotereku, mungathe kuyankhulana mosavuta ndi oimira amuna kapena akazi ndipo mwinamwake mukwaniritse bwino kwambiri amuna omwe mumakumana nawo.
Momwe munthu amakhala, khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake, makamaka zimadalira kulera komwe analandira. Tsopano, kuyambira masiku oyambirira a moyo, mnyamata amalamulidwa ndi kutsogoleredwa ndi amayi. Uyu ndiye mayi, aphunzitsi, aphunzitsi ku sukulu, omwe nthawi zambiri amatchula akazi theka la umunthu. Kuwonjezera pa aphunzitsi kusukulu, mnyamatayo amalankhula ndi anzake a m'kalasi. Kumbukirani zaka zanu za sukulu: Panthawi imeneyo inu ndi atsikana ena mudakula pamaso pa anzanu akusukulu, iwo amamvetsetsa bwino zomwe zinanenedwa m'maphunziro. Zonsezi zinali zosadziwika chifukwa iwe ukhoza kuvulazidwa ndi kunyada kwa munthu.
Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, mnyamatayo akuyamba kupanduka, kuphatikizapo akazi. Koma pa nthawi yomweyo akupitiriza kuwachitira ulemu, chikondi, ndi kuyesetsa kumisonkhano ndi Dona Wokongola. Mkhalidwe wotsutsana ndi akazi ndi zofooka za amphongo "I" akuwonetsedwa mu khalidwe la amuna akulu mu zotsatirazi:
- Amakhulupirira kuti ndi wapadera.
- Afuna kukwatira mkazi amene amamvetsetsa ndikumva kuti ndi wodabwitsa komanso wapadera.
- Amakonda kutamandidwa ndi kuyamikiridwa. Iye sakonda kutsutsidwa, koma ali wokonzeka kumvetsera ku adilesi yake.
- Ali ndi chigoba chimene amachivala kunja, ndipo chimakhala chosiyana ndi nkhope yake yeniyeni.
- Iye amawona kuti anthu ena amadziposa yekha ndipo nthawi zambiri amalingalira za izo.
- Amakonda kulankhula za iye mwini ndi kumvetsera akamayankhula za iye.
Mchitidwe waukwati si wokondweretsa kwa munthu, koma ambiri a iwo amaganiza za moyo wa banja ndi chiyembekezo chosangalatsa, ndipo mwinamwake, mu moyo iwo angasankhe kuti azisamalira. Pamapeto pake, mwamunayo akufuna kukhala ndi ana. Wina angakhale nazo kale, wina adzalandira mtsogolo. Kawirikawiri, amuna amakonda kukondana. Ngakhale iwo amakonda kuseka ma TV ndi mafilimu okhudza chikondi, koma palibe munthu amene safuna kupeza "theka lake" kuti atenge nyenyezi zake kumwamba. Mosiyana ndi zikhulupiliro zambiri, amuna amayamba chikondi mofulumira kuposa akazi. Amakhala odziwa bwino, ayambe kulankhulana ndi mkazi, akutsogoleredwa ndi chilakolako chofuna kupeza chikondi chawo. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna ambiri amai amakonda kukonda zomwe amakonda. Koma ayeneranso kuchita mbali yowonjezereka m'chikondi, mwinamwake kuthana ndi zopinga zambiri, ndipo izi zimafuna mphamvu zambiri, zomwe amuna amachokera ku chidwi cha zabwino. Pokhala ndi chikondi iwo ali ndi umwini wokhazikika, chifukwa chake, pamene malingaliro awa akuwonekera kwa mtsikana kapena mtsikana, mwamuna ali wokonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zambiri kuti asunge wokondedwa wake. Chifukwa cha kulenga kwa amuna, aliyense mwa iwo, mwinamwake, amatha kukhulupirira zozizwitsa.
Kotero, tiyeni tifotokoze:
- Amuna ambiri amakhala ndi "I" omwe amatha kuteteza, kuteteza komanso kubisala.
- Amuna mu kuya kwa moyo nthawi zonse amadikirira chisamaliro cha amayi.
- Amuna ambiri, ngakhale masks ovuta omwe amavala, amakhala okondana kwambiri.
Inde, munthu amakhala wovuta nthawi zonse. Chifukwa chake, zotsatirazi zimangotchula zikhalidwe zomwe zimafala kwambiri. Komabe, ndi bwino kukumbukira za chipangizo cha maganizo a amuna. Yesetsani kulingalira khalidwe lapadera la munthu yemwe mumamukonda kuti mumvetse zomwe zimasonyeza umunthu wamunthu umene amasonyeza. Njira yozama kwambiri kuti mudziwe bwino iyo idzabweretsa zipatso zake zabwino. Ngati mumasankha pasadakhale kuti muwone chidwi chanu pa umunthu wake, ndiye kuti mudzamva momwe moyo wake ukuonekera kwa inu.