Chomwe chimapangitsa chiphunzitsochi kukhala chachikulu komanso chosasinthika, malingana ndi zifukwa zambiri, kuyanjana kwa ophunzira ndi makhalidwe awo monga aliyense payekha.
Mofananamo, lingaliro la banja mumaganizo nthawi zambiri limawoneka ngati kagulu kaching'ono, kapangidwe kodzikonzekera, mu mapangidwe ndi chitukuko chomwe ntchito yapadera imasewera ndi nyengo ya maganizo. Ndipo ntchito yaikulu ya onse omwe amagwira nawo mbali pazochitika za m'banja ndi kudziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito chikhalidwe cha m'maganizo mu banja ndikuyendetsa mphamvu zake.
Kodi chikhalidwe cha maganizo ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, ganizirani zomwe zimachitika m'mabanja, ndipo chifukwa chake ndi zofunika kwambiri.
Tanthauzo la sayansi lomveka bwino la chikhalidwe cha m'maganizo moteronso palibe. M'mabuku, pofotokoza chodabwitsa ichi, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi "maganizo", "maganizo" ndi zina zotero zimagwiritsidwa ntchito. Choncho, tingathe kumaliza kuti izi ndi njira yomwe imasonyezera chisangalalo cha mamembala onse a m'banja, makamaka za okwatirana mbali zonse za moyo. Mwachidule, ichi ndi chisonyezero cha msinkhu wa chimwemwe ndi ubwino wa banja. Kuzindikira mlingo umenewu ndi kuusunga pamlingo woyenera ndi kofunika kuti zonsezi zikule bwino kwa onse okwatirana ndi ana awo. Popeza, nyengo yokhudzana ndi maganizo siigwirizano, ndipo sungagwirizanitsidwe, njira yodziwiratu kuti mkhalidwe wonse wa maganizo umatanthawuzidwa, ndipo zina mwazidziwitso zimadziwika kuti zimakonzedwa bwino.
Mkhalidwe wabwino wa maganizo umathandiza kuthetsa mavuto, kuyendetsa kuopsa kwa mikangano, kumapanga mgwirizano ndi kukhala ndi malingaliro ake enieni. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, zinthu zonsezi sizidzakhudza banja lonse ngati gulu lokha, komanso aliyense wa iwo omwe akukhala payekha. Mukakwatirana, okwatirana ayenera kukhala ndi maganizo ena, okonzeka kusamalana ndi kuchitapo kanthu, kukhala ndi chidaliro, ulemu ndi kumvetsetsa wina ndi mzake. Pokhapokha pa nkhaniyi, tikhoza kukambirana za kuthekera kwa ubwino wabwino wa maganizo pa selo yatsopano m'magulu.
Kupanga nyengo yamaganizo.
Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, nyengo yamaganizo ya banja siiganizo losatha, limene liribe maziko olimba ndipo limafuna nthawi zonse kugwira ntchito. Poyambitsa maganizo, anthu onse a m'banja ayenera kutenga nawo mbali, koma pokhapokha pokhapokha, zotsatira zake zingatheke. Kuchokera pa khama ndi kukhumba makamaka kwa okwatirana, kutha kwa ukwati, mphamvu zake, ndi moyo wabwino zimadalira mwachindunji. Poyerekeza ndi zaka chikwi zapitazo, anthu okwatirana kumene masiku ano akudziwika kwambiri pazochitika zawo zokhazokha kusiyana ndi maziko a chikhazikitso chaukwati, zomwe zimakhudzanso kukhazikika kwa ubale wa banja komanso zochitika m'mabanja. Choncho, tikhoza kunena kuti chinthu choyambirira chomwe chimayambitsa nyengo yabwino m'mabanja chidzakhala kukhudzana ndi maganizo. Komanso, banja lachibale la anthu onse a m'banja, malingaliro awo, kukhalapo kwa maganizo kapena nkhawa, kukhalapo kapena kusapezeka kwa ntchito, chitukuko chakuthupi, chikhalidwe cha malo omwe agwira ntchito kapena ntchito, komanso dongosolo lokonzekera lidzakhudza kuwonetsa nyengo kapena maganizo oipa m'banja kugwirizana pakati pa okwatirana, ndiyeno, pakati pa makolo ndi ana. Pambuyo pofufuza zinthu zonsezi tikhoza kukambirana za kukhazikika kapena kusakhazikika kwa nyengo mu banja, ndikulosera nyengo ya maganizo kwa nthawi yina.
Kulosera za nyengo yamaganizo.
Njira yofotokozeratu kuti nyengo ndizochitika mu banja ndizosiyana ndi kachitidwe kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri kawiri.
Choncho, tanthauzo la momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito chikhalidwe cha m'maganizo mwathu m'banja lachepetsedwa kukhala kachitidwe kachitidwe kaŵirikaŵiri, pamodzi ndi mathero ena. Choncho, mutatha kuchotsa zotsatirazi, mkhalidwe wamumtima wa banja ukhoza kunenedwa kuti ndi wabwino komanso wosasangalatsa.
Kulosera za nyengo yabwino ya maganizo, kukhalapo kwa zizindikiro zotere n'kofunikira: kukhala ndi chitetezo, chisomo, kukakamizika kwakukulu, kuthekera kwa chitukuko chokwanira, mgwirizano, kukhutira mumtima, udindo, kudzikuza kwa banja. Motero, chifukwa chake, timapeza banja lodalirika lomwe limakhala lokonda ndi kulemekeza, kulimbikitsidwa kuthandizira, kufunitsitsa kuthera nthawi pamodzi ndikulankhulana.
Koma n'zotheka ndi zotsatira zina, pamene kwa banja, kunenedweratu kuchepetsa msinkhu wa chikhalidwe cha maganizo kuti chikhale chosavomerezeka. Zizindikiro zazikulu za dziko lino ndizo: nkhawa, kupatukana, kusokonezeka, nkhawa, mantha, nkhawa, kusowa chitetezo ndi ena. Pankhaniyi, ali ndi vuto lachilendo lakale m'banjamo, nyengo yowonongeka imatchulidwa, zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolomu kuti zidzasokoneze maganizo, kukangana kukangana, kukhumudwa, kupsinjika maganizo komanso kudzakhudza thanzi lonse labwino, osati mwamakhalidwe komanso mthupi.
Ngati kusokonezeka kwa umoyo waumoyo wa banja, zotsatira zake zoipa zimakhudza aliyense wa iwo. Sinthani nyengo ya maganizo, ndizotheka kokha ngati onse a m'banja akufuna kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo, kuti athetse vutoli.