Anthu okonda sayenera kulola kuti mtima uzipha kwambiri - Chikondi! Palibe amene samakhala ndi mikangano pansi, kotero aliyense ayenera kudziwa momwe angamange maubwenzi atakangana ndi wokondedwa wake. Ndife olenga moyo wathu, ndipo ngati tikufuna kuwononga chilichonse, tidzachichita mosavuta, koma zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kubwezeretsa chirichonse.
Kuti tipeĊµe mikangano, mikangano iliyonse, nkofunika kudziwa chifukwa chake kusamvetsetsana konseku, ndiye kuti tidzatha kumvetsetsa momwe tingakhazikitsire mgwirizano pambuyo pa mkangano.
Muyenera nthawi zonse kuyankhula mumtima ndi mtima, simungazisunge nokha. Pambuyo pa zonse, pamene zili zoipa kwa ife, kuchokera kuchitidwe chilichonse cha wokondedwa, tikungoyenera kumuuza izi, musamadziyese tokha. Mulimonsemo n'zosatheka kuti matemberero omwe timadya, amangotitengera ife ndi ubale wathu. Aliyense, mwamtheradi munthu aliyense pa dziko lino, ayenera kudziwa kuti chomaliza cha mkangano uliwonse ayenera kukhala mofulumira, osati kubweretsa chisokonezo, chiyanjanitso. Kuyanjanitsa, osati kubisala zodandaula.
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti fungoli, lingayambitse mgwirizano wanu, musasokoneze nthawi yake ndipo chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi mitsempha.
Koma ngati muwona kuti chifukwa chake ndi chachikulu. Musadzipulumutse nokha, musachedwe mawa. Podziwa kuti zokambiranazo zidzakupangitsani kukangana, dzifunseni nokha zomwe mukufuna kuchokera ku zokambiranazi, zomwe mungakane, zomwe mungapereke kuti mupange mgwirizano, zomwe mnzanuyo akuyenera kumvetsa, zomwe ayenera kupirira chifukwa cha nkhondoyi.
Ndipo wina ayenera kukumbukira nthawizonse - kukumana ndi mkwiyo, sudzakhala ndi ubwino uliwonse. Ndi mkwiyo, sipadzakhalanso chiyanjanitso. Ngati ubalewu ndi wolemera kwa inu, simukufuna kutaya wokondedwa wanu. Musanene chilichonse chotentha. Musakumbukire zolakwa zakale, musayerekeze ndi abwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito, ambiri ndi aliyense. Inde, aliyense amadziwa zofooka za okondedwa awo, koma simukuyenera kuwagunda, simungakhululukidwe. Chifukwa munthu adzalandira ngati akupereka, chifukwa amakukhulupirirani, ndipo mwakhala mukudalira. Musapange zolakwitsa.
Kulakwitsa kosavuta kwambiri kwa awiri awiriwa ndikuti pakakangana iwo amati "Ndikukusiyani," ndithudi m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, ambiri samatsutsa. Chifukwa kukangana, chifukwa chosamvetsetsana, chifukwa amadzimva okha, kapena inu muli ndi mlandu. Pambuyo pazinthu zoterezi, munthu amayamba kuganiza za kupatukana ngati njira yothetsera mkangano. Musati muwakwiyitse ngati mukufuna chiyanjanitso.
Musati muikepo zotsirizira, musati muzizunza. Sizingatheke kuti izi zithandiza kuthandizana.
Musakhumudwitse, musakhumudwitse wina ndi mzake. Pogwiritsa ntchito mawu achipongwe ponena za wokondedwa wanu, mumamukwiyitsa, amawulukira kwa inu ngati boomerang.
Ndipo musamaope, musazengereze kupita koyamba kwa okondedwa anu. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhazikitsa mgwirizano pambuyo pa mkangano!
Popeza mwamva mawu oipa omwe akuuzidwa kwa inu, musayesere kuwapweteketsa, mungonena kuti ndizosangalatsa kuti mumve izi kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu. Yesetsani kumveketsa kuti mumamvetsa zonse, koma pali zina koma zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Lankhulani mau ambiri monga: "Ndikulemekeza, ndikulemekeza maganizo anu, koma", "kwa ife zikanakhala zabwino ngati zilipo." Mawu onsewa akunena kuti mumamvetsetsa anu, mumasonyeza kuti mwakonzeka kulankhula, mwakonzeka kuthetsa vutoli.
Kumbukirani, mwamsanga mutagwirizanitsa, mwamsanga mu moyo wanu kudzakhala bata.
Koma ngati palibe chothandiza, ndiye njira yokhayo yothetsera vutolo ndiyo yotsutsana.
Ndipo musazengereze kutengapo mbali pa chiyanjano. Apo ayi mukhoza kutaya wokondedwa wanu.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhazikitsa zibwenzi pambuyo pa mkangano! Pachifukwa ichi, mutagwirizanitsa, nkofunika kulimbikitsa zotsatira. Thandizani mphatso, zodabwitsa, mawu okhudza chikondi, chifundo, muyenera kumudziwitsa munthuyo kuti ndi wofunikira kwambiri kwa inu komanso wokondedwa wanu kwambiri.
Ngati mkangano unachititsa kuti mnzanuyo asamve kuti sakufuna, yesetsani kulemba mawu okhudza chikondi patsogolo pa nyumba pa asphalt, kufalitsa mawu okhudza chikondi ndi mawu okhululukidwa pa wailesi, kuuza dziko lonse kuti wokondedwa wanu amatanthauza zambiri moyo wanu, tamandani. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musachite mantha, chifukwa chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhala pamodzi.
Musaiwale kuti ndizosangalatsa kuti mulekerere, ndipo kumbuyo kwachisokonezo ndi mphindi yosangalatsa ya chimwemwe, chimwemwe chenicheni, maminiti omwe amasonyeza okondedwa, momwe amakondana.
Lankhulani wina ndi mnzake. Chikondi, kuyamikira, kulemekezana wina ndi mzake. Mvetserani, mnzanuyo ndiye chithunzi chanu. Mukufuna kusintha, kusintha nokha.
Kondanani wina ndi mzake ndipo musadzilole nokha ndi okondedwa anu kupanga zolakwitsa zomwe zingachititse kuti mutayika wokondedwa wanu.