Amuna abwino amadziwana ndi mtsikanayo kuti azikhala naye limodzi, kenako amakwatirana ndikupanga banja lolimba, losangalala. Amuna amenewa amalemekeza mkazi mwaulemu osati pokhapokha panthawi ya ubwenzi, koma miyoyo yawo yonse. Atsikana owona mtima amakhala ndi ubale wachikondi ndi munthu mmodzi yekha ndipo nthawi zonse yesetsani kupanga banja limodzi naye. Lero tidzakambirana za momwe tingasinthire ku chiyanjano chatsopano cha chikondi. "
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimachititsa kuti anthu azigwirizana kwambiri. Munthu aliyense amalota malingaliro akuti kuyandikana kwa mizimu kumapereka. Tikakhala m'chikondi, timamva kuti moyo uyenera kukhala wotani komanso zomwe tidazipewa. Ngakhale titakhala ndi zokhumudwitsa zambiri mu chikondi, timapitiriza kufunafuna chikondi chenicheni. Palibe amene angathe kuthetsa chilakolako cha chikondi chowonongera komanso chenicheni.
Koma pazifukwa zina, nthawi iliyonse yomwe timayamba kukondana, pali zifukwa zina zomwe zimatilepheretsa kukhala ndi maganizo enieni. Tasintha zibwenzi zambiri, tikuwona kuti chiyanjano chatsopano chimatha mofulumira. Ndi chikondi chatsopano, "kukwatirana" kumakhala kofupikitsa komanso kofupikitsa. Chotsatira chake, mwachidziwikire, chidzatha ndipo ndi maloto ake kuti apeze chikondi chenicheni, mungathe kuyankhula kwanthawizonse. Tikamakonda, timakhala otetezeka kwambiri. Pambuyo poyesedwa zokhumudwitsa mwachikondi, timasankha kuti tisadziulule tokha.
Ngati tiyang'anitsitsa tokha kuchokera kunja, tidzatha kuona kuti pazochitika zonse zomwe sitinachite bwino tili ndi mlandu. Popeza takhala tikukondana ndi munthu wina, timayang'anizana ndi mantha ndikudzichitira manyazi. Tiyenera kuzindikira ndi kuyang'ana mawonetseredwewa mu moyo wathu. Ngati sitidzikonda tokha, palibe amene atikonda. Pamene tidzipusitsa tokha, timaganiza kuti ena amawonanso ife. Kuti mupewe chikondi chosasangalatsa, muyenera kugwira ntchito payekha, pa mantha anu ndi kunyoza nokha.
Ngati tidziwa ndikudzikonza tokha, zidzatithandiza kukonza maubwenzi athu. Kawirikawiri, timachitira anthu momwe timadzichitira. Ngati mwamuna ali wokondwa, ndiye kuti amadzikonda yekha. Banja losangalala limatanthawuza kuti ndife oyenera paokha.
Ambiri nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kupeza wokondedwa weniweni ndikuiwala za malamulo a ubale wawo. Lamulo ili ndilo kuti mnzanuyo si kanthu koma galasi lokha. Anthu amayesa kumvetsetsa ngati wokondedwa wawo amakonda kapena sakonda ndi kuiwala za mphamvu zawo pa ubale wawo, aiwala kuti zonse zili m'manja mwao.
Munthu aliyense amasankha mgwirizano wachikondi mwa njira yodziwika ndi yosankha. Kawirikawiri mnzathu amene timamulowetsa mmoyo wathu ali ndi khalidwe lomwelo ndi lanu. Koma ife sitikudziwa kapena sitikufuna kuti tizindikire izi. Ndipo pamene mnzanu akuyamba kutikhumudwitsa ndi makhalidwe ake, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti izi ndi makhalidwe anu omwe simukufuna kuwazindikira.
Timasankha ndendende omwewo omwe angakupangitseni kukhala osangalala komanso abwino pakali pano. Tengani galasi ndikudziyang'ane nokha. Galasi ikuthandizira kudziwa kuti ndife ndani komanso zomwe tikufunikira kuphunzira. Timakopa anthu omwe amasonyeza malingaliro athu, malingaliro ndi zochita zathu. Kuti muwone mwa wokondedwa, ndi khalidwe labwino bwanji, ndikuzindikira kuti khalidwe ili liri mwa inu, limapatsa chisangalalo chachikulu.
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mumakopeka ndi munthu wina ndi makhalidwe osiyana ndi anu. Koma pambuyo pa zomwe munakopeka nazo, zimayamba kukhumudwitsa. Anthu osiyana mosiyana sangathe kukhalira pamodzi ngati sakupeza mpata wa zofuna zawo. Pa zabwino, iwo amakhala mofanana wina ndi mzake, nthawi zonse akukangana, omwe njira yawo ya moyo ili bwino. Ubale umalola kuti tisamangodziwa munthu wina, komanso kutipatseni kumvetsa mavuto athu ndikumva ululu. Ndipo apa ubale umatithandiza kuchiritsidwa ku mavuto athu akale.
Kufuna kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo zonse zomwe mukufuna, mumagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ya mgwirizano. Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri m'banja. Ngati chinachake sichigwirizana ndi ubale wanu, gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu. Ngati mumalota ubale wabwino, palibe yemwe angakulepheretseni kuchita zimenezo. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kusonkhanitsa mphamvu zanu zonse ndikuziwongolera bwino.
Ambiri samafuna kudziwa za iwo eni ndikumakhala m'dziko lawo lopangidwa. M'dziko limene zinthu zabwino komanso osati zochitika kwambiri zikugwera pamitu yathu. Kumene tili odala kapena otsutsana ndi otembereredwa ndipo sitingathe kuchita chilichonse kuti tikhale osangalala. Koma zonsezi ndi chabe chinyengo. Ndipotu, tikukumanga tsogolo lathu, ndipo tikhoza kudzidzudzula tokha chifukwa cha zovuta zathu. Komanso chifukwa chachisangalalo tiyenera kudziyamikira tokha. Awa ndi elixir ya matsenga, yomwe idzatsegulire iwe usanakhale ndi mwayi wapadziko lonse.
Ngati muli nokha ndipo mwalingalira kuyamba mgwirizano watsopano, ganizirani ndikuganiza momwe mukuganizira mnzanuyo. Zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira, koma mudzakopeka munthu amene mumalota. Kulongosola mnzanu wapamtima, maganizo anu ayenera kukhala olondola komanso enieni. Musaiwale kuti timalenga dziko lozungulira ife ndi maganizo athu. Zonse zomwe zinakuchitikirani mumoyo zinali malingaliro anu kapena zikhumbo zanu. Choncho gwiritsani ntchito mkhalidwe uno ndikudzimangira nokha moyo womwe mukuuyembekezera, ganizirani zokhazokha.
Chofunika kwambiri pa ubale, ndipo makamaka apamtima, ndi kuyankhulana. Musachite mantha kuwonetsa zakukhosi kwa mnzanuyo. Ngati simukuzindikira malingaliro anu, muli ndi mwayi wochepa woyanjana ndi mnzanu. Koma musataye mtima, aliyense angaphunzire kudziwa zomwe akumva. Izi zimafuna kuchita ndi kutsimikiza. Yesani kutsegula moyo wanu wonse kwa mnzanuyo. Ngati sakumvetsetsani ndikusankha kuchoka, zimatanthauza kuti simukugwirizana. Mudzakumana ndi mnzanu wina, ngati mungadzipatse mwayi ndikukhala nokha. Tsopano inu mukudziwa momwe mungadzisankhire nokha ubale watsopano wa chikondi.