Pamene mwana wazaka zinayi akuti: "Ndimakonda Sonia," ndipo mtsikana wa zaka 9 akugona ndi chithunzi cha woimba kapena woimba nyimbo, timangokhalira kuganiza mofatsa: kodi ndi chikondi chotani chomwe chiri m'zaka zawo? Inde, kumverera kwakukulu kwa ana kudzabwera ngakhale kuti koma ndizoti simungathe kuchita zomwe zimakhala ngati kuseka mwanayo, ngakhalenso wachikulire kapena mwana wa sukulu sangakonde kuti musamvetsetse bwino maganizo ake, adzakhumudwa ndipo sadzakhalanso ndi inu ku zinsinsi zake zakuchokera mumtima. Choncho, palibe chifukwa choyenera kutsekereza zochitika za wokondedwa wamng'ono, ndipo uchshe kuyensa longosola chikuchitidwa pa iye tingati. Tiyeni tiwone chikondi cha ana pa mibadwo yosiyana ndi zimene tingachite kuti akulu.
Ndi kusanthula chikondi pereporschivat pa siteji iyi sikofunikira. Zosakaniza za makanda zimangopangidwa ndipo tsiku lirilonse lingasinthe: ana a msinkhu uwu satha kukonzekera kwa nthawi yayitali. Romeo yosangalatsa lero imapatsa Katya maswiti ake, ndipo tsiku limodzi kapena awiri samachoka ku Masha.
Koma pali ana ndi chikondi china, choopsa kwambiri - chikondi cha makolo awo omwe. Anyamata aang'ono akulota kukwatira amayi awo, ndipo atsikana - pitani papazamuzh. Ngati mumva mawu amenewa, simukusowa. Iyi ndi gawo lachilengedwe lachitukuko. Pakati penipeni ali ndi zaka zisanu, makanda samakwatirana pakati pa makolo awo.
Zochita zanu panthawiyi ziyenera kuchepetsedwa kukhala zosagwirizana. Zolemba za ana sizoipa kwambiri, mukungokuvulazani tsopano. Ngati chikondi chimanyalanyaza iwo, sichichita mantha, m'masiku ochepa adzapeza china chatsopano.Koma kukondana ndi makolo ndi nkhani ina: apa mukuyenera kuchitapo kanthu. Mwachifundo ndikufotokozera mwana wanu momasuka, kuti adzakumana ndi mkazi wake pamene akukula pang'ono, ndipo ali ndi mwamuna wokondedwa.) Ndi bwino kuti mwanayo akhale ndi abambo apamanja akufotokozedwa ndi papa, mwinamwake akhoza kumchitira nsanje kwathunthu ngakhale mwana, ndipo adzapeza zovuta kuti apeze osankhidwawo. Onse opempha sichidzakhala kwa iye wokondedwa - bambo wokondedwa.
Chikondi cha ana m'zaka 5-7
Ana a msinkhu uwu akugwira ntchito mwakhama m'dziko lachikulire, komanso maganizo awo. Ana azaka zisanu ndi chimodzi akhoza kubwezeretsa, kubwezera ndikupsompsona ndi cholinga cha chifundo chawo. Koma musakhale wamanjenje. Pambuyo pake, mpaka chilakolako ichi chikadali kutali. Ndipo ngati mwana wanu akulankhula ndi mtsikana yemwe amakonda kupsompsona "" - izi sizili chilakolako cha kugonana, ndi momwe amalume ndi abambo ake amakulira. Ngakhale chikondi cha ana omwe ali ndi zaka zisanu kapena zisanu ndi ziwiri chingakhale champhamvu kwambiri. (mawonedwe, mphete, mabokosi a chokoleti, etc.) Ayi, mwana wanu wakhala wakuba, koma amangofuna kupereka mphatso kwa mtsikana amene amamukonda ndipo ndikuti angapeze kuti? Inde, mayi anga. "Ola ili pamthunzi, iye samadya maswiti. kuti apeze bwino ntchito yabwino.
Zochita zanu zikuphatikizidwa popereka malangizo kwa mwanayo momwe angayandikire chinthu chopembedzedwa osati kukhumudwa. Fotokozani kuti pali chikondi chosadziwika, koma m'moyo, padzakhalabe kugwirizana. Ngati mumakayikira zakuya kwake, ndiye kuti mukukhala wamkulu, adzaopa chikondi.
Chikondi cha ana m'zaka 7-12
Panthawi imeneyi, kumverera kwa mwanayo kumbali yake yosasinthika. Poyamba chikondi chimabisika. Ndiponsotu, ngati mnyamata wamng'ono wa sukulu ali paubwenzi ndi mtsikanayo, onsewo adzaseka. Pali njira imodzi yokha yalamulo - kukoka nkhumbazo, kutsanulirani kuchokera kutsitsi. Atsikana amakhumudwa, koma amadziwa kuti zonsezi ndi zophweka. Ana aang'ono aang'ono (onse azimayi ndi anyamata) ali okondana kwambiri. Zaka khumi ndi ziwiri, zikukhala zochepa. Maganizo a Plato amatengera kukopa kwa kugonana. Atsikana amakhala mochedwa motere, ndipo anyamata amamvetsa bwino zomwe akufunikira. Kukondana ndi ophunzira a sekondale, akufuna malo ena.
Zochita zanu zikuphatikizidwa m'mawu osamala. Chikondi chachinyamata chikhoza kukhala champhamvu kwambiri ndipo munthu angathe kuchichita zaka zambiri. Thandizani mwanayo kukwaniritsa zolakwitsa pa msinkhu uwu mochepa momwe zingathere. Kodi mudakangana ndi mnyamatayo? Ndiuzeni momwe ndingayanjanitsire. Ngati mwanayo sakudziwa kukonda wophunzira naye, mungamupatse malangizo othandiza.
Chikondi cha ana m'zaka 12-15
Achinyamata amakonda kwambiri. Iwo amamuyembekezera iye, amalota za iye, fufuzani ndi kupeza. Chikhumbo chowakonda ndi champhamvu kwambiri moti aliyense akhoza kukhala chomwe amamva. Ziribe kanthu kuti izo sizikugwirizana ndi zoyenera. Maganizo olemera amachititsa khalidwe losowa. Ndipotu, kukhala ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi pa msinkhu umenewu kumayesa "kukhala wathanzi." Mukakumana ndi munthu, mumalemekezedwa. "Sidishia, yemwe sasiya chidwi, amadziwa kuti physics imanyozedwa." Ngati palibe chibwenzi, achinyamata ambiri amapita kumalo. Mutu wawo umagwira ntchito imodzi yokha, komanso kunena kuti kusagwiritsiridwa ntchito kwapadera ndikutaya mitsempha, komanso nthawi. Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana ndi chikondi cha platonic kungalimbikitsidwe kwambiri. , kuti amakonda msungwana wina komanso wina, koma zosiyana zimakhalapo, pamene chikoka chogonana chimatengedwa kukondana.
Zochita zanu zachepetsedwa kuti zikupangitseni kukhala olimba ndi okondwa. Kuphulika kwa mahomoni kumayambiriro kamene kamangopitirira. Kwa zaka zingapo, mwanayo "perebesitsya" ndipo adzatha kuganiza mozama, koma simungabisire achinyamata pa intaneti ndi pa televizioni. "Atam" ounikira "koposa zofunikira. Sitingasinthe mkhalidwewo, ndiye ndikofunikira kusintha maganizo athu. Aphunzitseni njira ya kulera kwa mwana wanu, zotsatira za kugonana kosatetezeka. Mwanayo ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti kugonana ndi udindo waukulu osati udindo wokha, koma kwa mnzanuyo. Ndipo kuigwira pa mapewa anga nthawi isanakwane.
Zotsutsa zokhumudwitsa ndi zokambirana zochepa, komanso kutenga nawo mbali mwachangu. Mwanayo adzakukhulupirirani ndipo adzathe kumutsogolera njira yoyenera. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuyesa kukhala bwenzi lanu lapamtima kwa mwana wanu, ndipo mavuto ambiri amatha okha.