Kukulitsa ubale pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana sikungakhale nthawi imodzi panthawi imodzi.
Kutsutsana kaŵirikaŵiri pa zopanda pake kumatsimikizira kukhumudwitsa kumene kumawonekera pambuyo pa okonda kuyamba kuphunzira zambiri za wina ndi mzake ndi kukhala pafupi, ndi pamene osati kuwala kokha, komanso mbali zamdima za osankhidwa anu zimawoneka.
Vuto lachiyanjano ndilo nthawi zambiri ndipo sindiyenera kubisala kumbuyo kwa matemberero opanda pake, ayenera kuthetsedwa. Zimadziwika kuti ndikosavuta kuthetsa ubale kusiyana ndi kuupulumutsa.
Chifukwa cha kusagwirizana? Mwachidule, kuyambira ubwana tiri ndi katundu wambiri wa zizolowezi zathu ndi malamulo, omwe nthawi zambiri amachotsedwa m'banja, ndipo nthawi zambiri sagwirizana ndi zizolowezi za mnzanuyo.
Dziwani kuti anthu onse ndi osiyana, ndipo wokondedwa wanu sali wanu, choncho musayembekezere malingaliro, malingaliro ndi makhalidwe omwewo kuchokera kwa iye, musayese kudzipangira nokha. Kawirikawiri ndi chifukwa cha izi kukangana kumabuka muwiri.
Komanso kusunga kusakhutira, komanso, sikuli koyenera, chifukwa zidzakulirakulira pomwepo zikhoza kupha chikondi chako. Ndikofunika pa nkhaniyi kuti tithe kumangokhalirana kumbali zonse, kuyesa kuthetsa zonse mwamtendere, popanda kulumbira. Kulankhulana ndi mnyamata ndikukambirana za vutoli, mungapewe zotsatira zomvetsa chisoni za kugawikana.
Kodi mukudabwabe kuti musagwirizane ndi mnyamata? Choyamba, ganizirani zifukwa zomwe mumalumbirira, ganizirani chifukwa chake ali maziko a mkangano. Musati mulangize wosankhidwa chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana kwake, chifukwa mwina ndiwe amene simukufuna kumumvetsera.
Bwinobwino dziko lochepa kwambiri kuposa kukangana kwakukulu. Ngati mungathe kupeŵa mikangano, yesani kuchita zimenezo.
Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumagwirizana ndi iye nthawi zonse, izi zimangokukhumudwitsani ndi kuyambitsa kutsutsana. Ngati pali mkangano uliwonse, mtundu wina wa vuto, ndiye kuti uyenera kuthetsedwa, koma osasiyidwa
Ngati mutasankha kulankhula mozama, musapfuule. Kufuulabe sikungapindule kanthu, anyamata samalola pamene msungwana akufuula ndikuyamba kulira. Anyamata akukhumudwitsa.
Ndipo musamukumbutse machimo ake ndi zolakwa zake zonse. Kotero simungathetse vutoli.
Imodzi mwa mikangano yotereyi ndi yapakhomo, nthawi zambiri imayambitsa mutu umodzi wopitirira. Inde, mukufuna kukhala ndi ubale weniweni, koma kukhala ndi munthu wina, simungapewe ku zomwe zimatchedwa "bytovuhi", zomwe zingasokoneze ngakhale ubale wamphamvu kwambiri. Muyenera kukhala olekerera, chifukwa ndinu mkazi, ndipo monga mukudziwa, mu ubale wa mkazi, payenera kukhala munthu wanzeru. Mwachibadwa, ngati wosankhidwa wanu ali ndi malingaliro a inu, ndiye kuti kulimbana kulikonse, kotchulidwa molondola, sikungopita pachabe.
Zolinga zazing'ono - izi ndizochepa chabe, mpaka muzindikira kuti ndi zopusa kuti mutaya nthawi pazinthu za mtundu umenewu, ndipo mukondwere kuyankhulana.
Muzitsamba zonsezi muli mphindi yabwino, iyi ndi nthawi ya chiyanjanitso. Zimakhala zodabwitsa pambuyo poti kufotokozera mvula kwa ubale kumangokumbatirana ndikukwera mpaka pachifuwa chanu, pozindikira kuti ndinu okondedwa kwa wina ndi mzake. Nthawi ino yowyanjanitsa ndi yokongola kwambiri pamene mukufuna kuuza aliyense momwe mulili wabwino. Ena amakangana mwadala, kotero kuti nthawi yowyanjanitsa imabwera. Ngakhale kuti izi ndi zopusa, muyenera kumvetsetsa mphindi iliyonse yomwe mumakhala pamodzi, bwanji mukuwononga nthawi pachabe.
Ngati mulibe malingaliro okwanira, chitani chinthu china chokhalira pamodzi, chidzakhala chothandiza kwambiri kuposa kusiyana kulikonse. Ndipo musakayikire momwe mungakangane ndi mnyamata!
Chikondi ndi kukondedwa!