Lingaliro la "banja" liridi labwino kwambiri. Ndipo zomwe zimawoneka zopanda pake ndi zosayenera kwa ena, kwa ena - chikhalidwe chokwanira. Pali mitundu yambiri ndi mitundu ya mabanja padziko lapansi, koma mitundu yayikulu ya maubwenzi apabanjapo yakhala pansipa.
Chikwati chachikhalidwe (chikhalidwe kapena zipembedzo)
Mchitidwe uwu waukwati kwambiri umateteza ufulu ndi kumasuka kwa ana, koma uli ndi chiwerengero chachikulu choletsedwa kwa onse awiri. Ukwati wa Tchalitchi kapena ukwati ndi Sakramenti yapadera ya Chikhristu, momwe okwatirana amalandira chisomo cha Mulungu kuti banja likhale losangalala, komanso kubadwa kwodalitsidwa ndi kulera ana. Mpaka kumayambiriro kwa zaka za zana la 20, ukwati wa tchalitchi ndiwo mtundu wokhawo umene unali ndi zotsatira zalamulo. Ukwati nthawi zambiri umagwirizana ndi chiyanjano - chilengezo cha anthu ena za chisankho chawo chokwatirana.
Ukwati wosakalata kapena cohabitation
Ukwati woterewu (molakwika timutcha "usilikali") umasiyana ndi ubwenzi wamba mwa kugwirizanitsa chuma. Pansi pa lamulo latsopanolo, limaphatikizapo udindo womwewo monga banja lolembetsa. Ngakhale kuti kuchokera pa malo owona kuti ndi oyenerera kuyanjana kotero ndizomveka kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "cohabitation". Ubale wosagwirizana ndi boma unayamba kuitanidwa kwa nthawi yoyamba m'zaka za zana la 19 mu Ufumu wa Russia, popeza mtundu wokha wa ukwati unadziwika, ndiye, unali ukwati wa mpingo. Anthu omwe ankakhala mosakwatirana mu tchalitchi ankakonda kutchula ubale wawo kukhala pachikwati cha boma.
Banja lopanda nthawi
Ena amakonda kukwatira kwa kanthawi, mwachitsanzo, kwa zaka zitatu. Ukwati pambuyo pa nthawiyi umangowonongeka kuti watha. Pambuyo pake, okwatirana akale amayeza zotsatirazo ndi kusankha ngati achoka kapena ayi, kapena kuti apitirize palimodzi. Otsatira za mtundu uwu wa chikwati amachokera ku mfundo yakuti anthu amakonda kusintha, kuti chikondi chosatha sichipezeka, kuti chibwenzi chogonana chidzatha msanga kapena mtsogolo, ndipo okwatirana pakatha zaka zingapo sakondwera wina ndi mzake. Ndiye kodi ndi bwino kudzizunza nokha ndikuzunza mnzanuyo ngati moyo wanu udzakhala wozunzidwa pang'ono? Kawirikawiri anthu oterowo, akangomaliza kukwatirana, amakhala okonzeka komanso omasuka kuti azikhala nawo nthawi zonse, kugonana ndi chikondi chatsopano. Anthu omwe amalowa muukwati wotere, monga lamulo, samaganizira za kukula kwa banja, kapena za katundu, zogwirizana pamodzi.
Ukwati wamakono ndi mawonekedwe osavomerezeka. Amasankhidwa ndi anthu omwe ali ndi malo osungirako zinthu, omwe amachititsa kusintha pang'ono pa miyoyo yawo, kapena anthu omwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana chokhazikika. M'kupita kwa nthawi, maukwati a nyengo zina amatha kukhala achikhalidwe, kapena kusokonezeka.
Kuthetsa ukwati
Izi ndi pamene okwatirana amakhala palimodzi, koma nthawi zina mpata ukhalepo kwa nthawi ndithu. Zifukwa zingakhale zosiyana: kutopa kwa wina ndi mzake kapena kufunika kolemba. Mumtundu wotero, kuyendayenda sikuli tsoka, koma chizoloŵezi. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kukwera ulendo, zomwe zimakhudzana ndi zokondweretsa. Nthaŵi zina amachititsa kuti banja liwonongeke. Othandiza a banja losokonezeka amayamikira ufulu wawo ndipo amafunikira malo ndi nthawi yawo "yokha."
Msonkhano wa banja
Mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amalembedwa mwalamulo, koma amakhala mosiyana ndi wina ndi mnzake, aliyense kunyumba. Pali kangapo pa sabata. Pamene ana awoneka, amaukitsidwa, monga lamulo, ndi amayi. Nthawi zina abambo amakambirana ndi ana pa zofuna kapena nthawi. Mtundu umenewu umakhala wotchuka kwambiri m'mayiko otukuka. Ngakhale zachilendo kwa ife mawonekedwe, ndi otchedwa "alendo" maukwati molingana ndi chiwerengero, motalika kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amatha kuthetsa banja.
Banja lachi Muslim
Chikhalidwe m'zinthu zonse banja limene mwamuna yekha ali ndi ufulu kukhala ndi akazi angapo. Kusintha mkazi kumafanana ndi kudzipha. Ngakhale kuti masiku ano nthawi zambiri anthu amatsutsana ndi kugunda pakati pa anthu. Koma kusudzulana kungakhale kosalephereka. Ana nthawi zonse amakhala ndi bambo awo.
Banja lachi Sweden
Banja lapadera, limene muli amuna ndi akazi angapo nthawi yomweyo. N'kulakwitsa kuganiza kuti ubale wawo umangodalira pa kugonana. Ndi chinthu chofanana ndi tauni yaing'ono, yomangidwa ndi mabwenzi ndi khalidwe la chuma chimodzi.
Tsegulani banja
Mtundu waukwati umene mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amavomereza pazochita zodzikongoletsera ndi kugwirizana kwa wokondedwa kunja kwa banja.