Izi zimachokera ku chikhalidwe cha anthu a Chirasha, omwe nthawi zonse amamvera chisoni opusa opatulika, ndipo amadana ndi anthu opambana.
Kukanidwa kwa maganizo, kaya kuganiza bwino kapena kugwedezeka, monga uchidakwa, m'dziko lathu kumapweteka kwambiri kuposa mantha. Ndipo kugonana kwa amayi, ngakhale kuti kuchuluka kwa magazini okongola, sikukhala ulemu ndi chizindikiro cha kupambana kwa mkazi. Choncho zimakhala zachilendo pomwe kufunafuna chifukwa cha nkhanza za kugonana kwa amayi kumatayika. Pali zifukwa zitatu zomwe zingatheke chifukwa cha zovuta izi - mwamuna, mkazi komanso anthu ena. Ku Russia, si zachilendo kunyalanyaza udindo wa amuna m'zochitika zosasangalatsa izi, koma udindo wa akazi ukutha. Tidzayesa kusunga zolinga ndikuganizira zinthu zitatu zomwe zingayambitse chiwawa.
Munthu ngati gwero la chiwawa
Kuphunzira za mavuto a nkhanza za kugonana kunathandiza kuti zidziwike bwino za chiwerengero cha anthu okwatira. Ena mwa anthu ozunza ndi amuna omwe alibe amuna omwe ali ndi chidziwitso chochepa, ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwira ntchito yolemetsa. Pakati pa antchito ndi abusa, ogwiririra ndi ochepa kwambiri.
Amuna amene amachitira zachiwawa nthawi zambiri amatsutsana kwambiri ndi abambo awo ndipo amaonetsetsa kuti amayi ali ndi udindo waukulu m'banja. Mutu wa munthu wotere, phala amatengedwa chifukwa cha udani wa abambo ndikuyesera kutsutsa khalidwe lake lachimuna. Chitsanzo cha chikhalidwe ndi nkhanza ndi mayi, amene mwakutanthawuza sangakhale mkhalidwe woyenera wa khalidwe lachimuna. Kusakaniza kosaneneka kosazindikiritsa kolakwika ndi ntchito za kugonana, chidani ndi zionetsero zotsutsana ndi bambo zimapangitsa munthu kudalira njira zomwe zimatchedwa hypermasculine khalidwe. Mwachidule, iwo ali otsimikiza kuti mwamuna wachiwawa yekha yemwe sadziwa chifundo, angakhale mwamuna weniweni. Chiwawa chogonana kwa amayi ndi njira yowunikira malingaliro otere a udindo wamwamuna ndi njira yothetsera kugwirizanitsa mkati komwe kumachokera ku mikangano yosamvana ya ana.
Kawirikawiri amuna, omwe amachitira nkhanza, amavutika ndi zochitika zogonana (zopotoka). Amakonda kugonana pakati pa magulu, pakati pawo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ana apamtima, azimayi, achibwana obisika komanso omveka bwino. Zoona, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pakati pa amuna omwe amamenya nawo nthawi zambiri kumakhala chinthu choloweza mmalo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amachichita pokhapokha ngati palibe mwayi wolumikizana ndi amayi, mwachitsanzo, kundende kapena asilikali.
Mzimayi amachititsa zachiwawa
Chifukwa cha chiwawa cha kugonana kwa amayi chikhoza kuikidwa mu psychology ya akazi okha. Amayi omwe ali pachiopsezo kwambiri kwa ophwanya malamulo ndiwo omwe adakali ana akudziwika ndi zochita zolakwika kuchokera kwa akuluakulu ndipo amakhala ndi mavuto amphamvu okhudzana ndi kugonana. Azimayi oterewa amakopeka ndi apolisi, podziwa kuti angathe kuchita zachiwawa. Amayi ambiri amatsutsa ozunza mpaka omaliza ndikuwathawa bwino, koma palinso ena amene amafunika kuwopsya, momwe amadziperekera. Khalidwe la nsembe limeneli ndilo lofunika kwambiri kwa anthu omwe angapulumuke, ndipo amatha kusiyanitsa momveka bwino amayi omwe amatha kupereka nsembe, ngakhale m'gulu lalikulu.
Anthu amitundu itatu ndi zochitika zomwe zimayambitsa chiwawa
Chiwawa chogonana chingakhale ndi zifukwa zina osati kupotoka maganizo pamutu wa mwamuna kapena chizoloŵezi chokopa okwatira pambali ya mkazi. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka m'magulu a anthu, omwe akuphatikizapo anthu osauka omwe sanakhazikitsidwe kapena kuwononga moyo wawo, mwachitsanzo, achinyamata, osokoneza bongo kapena akaidi.
Zomwe zimayambitsa chiwawa zingakhale mafani a BDSM-themed. M'madera awa, ndizozoloŵera kusewera masewera omwe amaphatikizapo zinthu zachiwawa, kunyozetsa ndi kupweteka. Pali onse othandizira mokwanira nkhani za sadomasochistic, komanso anthu amisala akubwera kumidzi izi. Atagwirizana ndi mkazi yemwe ali wokonzekera kusewera masewera olimbitsa kugonana ndi kalembedwe ka BDSM, sangathe kuima nthawi zonse, ndipo akhoza kukhala okwatulidwa enieni kwa mkazi yemwe wapsezedwa kuyesa.
Ndikoyenera kutchula za mowa, zomwe zimapangitsa anthu ena kuti achite zinthu zomwe sakanati achite mofulumira.
Zirizonse zomwe zinali, ndipo vuto lirilonse la chiwawa chogonana limafuna kufufuza kosiyana. Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zosiyana kwambiri, ndipo musanyalanyaze ena kapena ena oposa ena. Komabe, mdziko lathu - nkoyenera kuvomereza izi - mkazi yemwe adagwidwa ndi nkhanza za kugonana, ndizovuta kwambiri. Pambuyo pa zonse, mosasamala kanthu za kukula kwa maganizo kwa wogwiririra, maganizo a anthu nthawi zambiri amachitika pa iye, osati pambali ya womenyedwayo. Ndipo izi zimapweteka kwambiri kudzidzimva kwa amayi kale.