Chizolowezicho ndi chinthu chowopsya, ndipo nthawi zambiri chimakhala chosadziwika ndi chikondi. Pambuyo pa chiyanjano chanu ndi munthu wokwera mtengo, chikondwererochi chimakondwerera kale, nthawi zambiri sichikudziwika kuti ndi maziko otani omwe amathandizira. Ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri maubwenzi ambiri amayamba kukuchepetsani ndipo amakwiya, ndipo nthawi zambiri pamakhala lingaliro losautsa: "Mwinamwake, mokwanira?". Kodi mumadziwa bwanji nthawi yothetsa mgwirizano, ndipo ndi liti pamene lingaliroli lidzakhala kulakwitsa kwenikweni?
Pali nthawi pamene anthu awiri, omwe kale amakondana kwambiri, amakhala pamodzi osati omasuka. Kodi ichi ndi chikondi chotaika kapena mavuto osakhalitsa? Chimachitika zonse. Mwinamwake, chikondi si zoona, ndipo anthu amakhala pamodzi ndi chizolowezi. Kapena mwinamwake iwo amatha kutopa wina ndi mzake, ndipo tikuyenera kuwapatsa mpata wopuma.Yesani kugawanika kwa kanthawi. Osapatukana, osasokoneza mgwirizano - zidzakhala zopweteka ngakhale pa maubwenzi omwe alibe chikondi - kutanthauza kuti, kupatula pang'ono. Sikoyenera kuti chaka chithamange ku malekezero ena a dziko lapansi. Kungokhala pang'ono pokha (mwachitsanzo, pita kwa wina kwa masiku angapo) kapena, kuchepetsa, kuchepetsa kuyankhulana. Lingaliro lakuti "Ali bwanji (a) kumeneko popanda ine?" Adzawonekeranso. Koma samverani chinthu chachikulu: kodi mungaphonye wokondedwa wanu? Mwina chikondi chanu chidzatha ndi mphamvu zatsopano pambuyo pa tsiku lolekanitsa, kapena mwina mukudabwa kuona kuti sabata lathunthu lapita kale. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa - kokha moona mtima - kaya muli omasuka pamene palibe theka lachiwiri. Kodi mungathe kuganizira mofatsa zinthu zanu, kuganizira za zinthu zakuthupi? Ngati nthawi yolekanitsa ikudutsa mwakachetechete, ndiye, mwinamwake, simungasowe kampaniyi. Koma ngati simukupeza malo, ndikuiwala zokhumudwitsa komanso zosakhutira, ndiye kuti maganizo anu akadali amoyo ndipo ali ndi mwayi wokonzanso. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa pamene mumakhala bwino - palimodzi ndi munthu kapena popanda.
Mfundo ina - tamverani, kodi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi amakukopa? Izi sizingakhale pamlingo wa chilakolako chofotokozedwa, koma pazingowonjezereka monga "Ndipo iye (a) akhoza kundikonda". Munthu amene amamukonda kwambiri sakhala ndi chidwi ndi anyamata kapena atsikana - amatha kulankhulana ndi oimirira ake, koma samangowazindikira ena osati abwenzi, osati kuti awone chidwi chawo. Koma ngati nthawi zambiri mumadziganizira nokha kuti "ngati palibe kanthu ..." ndipo amafuna kukondana pang'ono, ndiye kuti izi ndizisonyezero kuti chidwi chanu pazogonana chinachititsanso chidwi - chifukwa chakuti maganizo anu amachotsedwa.
Kodi muli ndi nsanje? Inde, pali anthu omwe alibe nsanje, onse ali ndi zosiyana. Koma ngakhale mutakhala nawo anthu oterowo, zimakhalabe zovuta kukhulupirira kuti nthawi zonse simunayanjane ndi komwe munthu wosankhidwayo amathera nthawi ndipo ali ndi chidwi. Tangoganizani kuti tsopano, panthawi ino, ndi munthu wina ... Inde, nsanje imamwalira kawirikawiri chifukwa cha chikondi chifukwa cha kukhumba komwe kumakhala kofala kwa anthu ambiri, koma ngati malingaliro omwe atchulidwa pamwambawa sakukuvutitsani konse, ndiye izi ndi zoona chizindikiro chakuti zonse zatha.
Kodi mumakopeka ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu? Pakapita nthawi, chilakolako cha maubwenzi chimasokonekera, koma nkofunika kudziwa ngati kukopa kumakhalako kapena kutsekedwa. Chikondi chikamwalira, nthawi zambiri mumatha kuona chithunzi chomwe munthu amafunikira kugonana, koma poganiza za munthu wina, moto umatha nthawi yomweyo.
Mwina, tinalingalira zizindikiro zazikulu za chikondi, zomwe sizomwe zimagwirizana ndi chiyanjano "mwachizoloŵezi". Mvetserani kumverera kwanu, ndiyeno mudzatha kupanga chisankho cholondola. Zikuchitika kuti nkofunikira kuthetsa nthawi yayitali, ndipotu ubale wosafunika, ndipo zimachitika kuti mutha kuzunzika kwambiri chifukwa chakutsitsa nkhuni. Muzochitika zilizonse ndizofunika kudziwa momwe mumamvera za munthuyo, ndiye mukhoza kumvetsetsa ngati mukusunga ubale wanu wachizolowezi kapena ayi.