Mmene mungachitire zinthu zofanana? Mwina imodzi mwa njira zofunika kwambiri zopezera kusamvetsetsana m'banja ndizomwe mungapeze chinenero chimodzi ndizokha. Kotero, chifukwa momwe mwamunthu mungakhalire ndi khalidwe kapena izi, banja lanu lidzakhala losangalala kwambiri.
Pokonzekera banja lililonse, mkati mwake limakhala lokha. Lero, mungathe kukumana ndi mabanja ambiri, kumene pakati pa banja likulamulira mzimu wolekana ndi kusamvetsetsana. Zotsatira za maubwenzi oterewa angakhale osiyana: kuchokera pa chisudzulo cha makolo, ku mavuto ofunika kwambiri a maganizo a ana.
Mudzanena kuti banja silingathe kukhalapo popanda kukangana konse. Inde, ndizofunika, koma ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi malonda komanso zoperewera, choncho muyenera kuphunzira kukhululukira ndi kupereka. Kukhala nthumwi kumatanthauza kuyankhula ndi anthu. Msilikali sayenera kugwira ntchito, koma kunyumba.
Ubale wathanzi m'banja laling'ono ungathandize kupewa kuwonongeka kwa mabanja. Musazengereze kukambirana mavuto onse omwe akubwera - pokhapokha mutha kupeza yankho lolondola kwambiri. Osakwiya mukamabwera kunyumba mutatha kugwira ntchito yovuta, simunapeze chakudya chamakonzedwe mwatsopano ku khitchini, mwinamwake amayi anu analibe nthawi yoti aziphika, chifukwa mwanayo ankafuna kuti azisamalira kwambiri kuposa momwe ankachitira. Musapange scandals, ngati lero mwamuna samatsuka chophimba, mwinamwake ali wotopa kuntchito, kuti sangokhala ndi mphamvu kuti achite izi ndipo ayenera kupuma. Yesetsani kukhala mwamtendere, mwadzidzidzi mudzifunse nokha, chifukwa chake chakudya chamadzulo sichikonzekera, ndikumvetsa. Izi zidzasunga mitsempha yanu ndikusunga maubwenzi abwino mu banja. Pamapeto pake, chophimbacho chikhoza kusambitsidwa pamapeto a sabata, ndipo pa chakudya chamadzulo mungathe kuphika msuzi. Ubale wathanzi m'banja lachinyamata ndi njira yokhala ndi moyo wabwino mu selo limodzi la anthu, komanso njira yowonjezera yothetsera chiyanjano komanso chikhalidwe cha ubale wabwino.
Zimadziwika kuti mikangano ya m'banja ndi yoopsa kwa mwana amene akukula. Kulankhulana kolakwika pakati pa makolo kungapangitse mwanayo kukhala wopanda chikhulupiliro pokhala ndi ubale weniweni komanso wachikondi. Kusamvana pakati pa okwatirana kumawonetseredwa mu kukula kwa maganizo kwa mwanayo. Ngati makolo sangathe kuchita zinthu mwachindunji ndikuletsa, pali mwayi waukulu kuti mwanayo akakula, adzamanga ubale m'banja lake monga momwe adaonera pakati pa makolo ake. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, zochita zolakwika zomwe makolo amaganizira komanso nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuti ana azikhala osakhazikika.
Pachikhalidwe, mwanayo nthawi zambiri amayesetsa kutsanzira munthu amene amamuona kuti ndi wamphamvu, wovomerezeka, wachikondi komanso wachikondi. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti apange mgwirizano wanzeru, wofunda ndi wolimba m'banja. Muloleni mwanayo adziwe kuti mumamukonda komanso mumayamikira kwambiri kuposa china chirichonse. Njira zodzikongoletsa komanso zachinsinsi zowonetsera kusagwirizana nazo zimathandiza kuti mwanayo azitha kugwira ntchito bwino. Makolo okha omwe amasangalala ndi ufulu wodzipereka komanso wodziwa ana awo angadalire kumvera kwawo.
Ubale wathanzi m'banja lachinyamata umakhala mwaulemu, kumvetsetsa, kulekerera ndi chikondi. Banja lotero limapatsa ana zinthu zamtengo wapatali pa chitukuko chawo cha chikhalidwe, maganizo ndi maganizo.
Kondanani wina ndi mnzake, kuyamikira ndi kulemekeza.