Choyamba.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti kusunga mkazi ndi thandizo la kubereka sikuthandiza, sikulimbitsa ubwenzi, koma kufulumizitsa kuwonongeka. Komabe maonekedwe a mwana akadatha kukhazikitsa chiyanjano - njira yodzigwirizanitsa ya mavuto a ana imabweretsanso mikangano yawo kumbuyo. Koma mwanayo amakula ndipo zonse zidzakhalanso m'malo, makolowo adzabwerera kumatsutsana awo, pomwe kuthekera kwa kulankhula kwatha. Nthawi zambiri pamene banja likutsutsa, mwanayo amayamba kudwala nthawi zonse, mavuto amapezeka. Izi ndizotsutsana ndi kusudzulana kwa ukwati wa makolo, zomwe zimakopa chidwi. Mosakayikira, ichi ndi mtengo wapatali pa kuchoka kwa banja nthawi yovuta. Nthawi zina makolo omwe ali pamapeto pa chikwati amadziwa kuti posachedwapa adzakhala makolo ndikusankha kuti mphatso yotereyi ndi mwayi wokhazikitsa ubale wawo. Nthaŵi zambiri, maanja amapambana.
Chinthu chachiwiri.
Chowopsa cha moyo wa banja ndizokwatirana. Iwo amaonedwa kuti ndi ofooka, chifukwa pamapewa a achinyamata okwatirana muli mavuto ambiri omwe ayenera kuwathetsa: zakuthupi, zinyumba, akatswiri. Maukwati pakati pa anthu omwe "amaima molimba mapazi" akunenera za moyo wautali. Pambuyo pa moyo wautali wautali, zidzakhala zovuta kusinthana ndi kusintha kwa moyo wa banja, kusintha kwa wokondedwa wanu, kusintha moyo wanu. M'mabanja oyambirira mmalo mwake, nthawi ya kusintha ndi "kugaya" ndi mwamuna kapena mkaziyo zimakhala zovuta mosavuta ndi chithandizo cha maganizo, omwe ndi achilendo kwa achinyamata okha.
Chachitatu.
Ambiri amaganiza kuti ngati banja likukakamizidwa kuthana ndi mavuto kuthetsa mavuto, limangowonongeka mofulumira, osati kutsutsana ndi kukakamizidwa koteroko. Ena amakhulupirira kuti chimene chimayambitsa mavuto m'banja ndicho chomwe chimatchedwa "kugonjetsedwa", kudzikweza, kufanana, ndipo mavuto akugwirizanitsa. Vuto la m'banja lingakhumudwitse onse mkhalidwe wa moyo ndi kukhazikika kwake.
Patapita nthawi, gawo lachitatu likuwonekera m'banja lililonse, ndipo izi zimabweretsa kusintha kwakukulu. Choyamba, makolo akuyembekeza mwana woyamba kubadwa ndi chiyembekezero chachikulu ndi chimwemwe, ndipo patatha miyezi ingapo atabadwa, pali mavuto m'nyumba.
Mimba, kubala, maola 24 kusamalira matayala a mwana mayi wamng'ono. Mkazi wolefuka nthawi zonse amavomereza zodandaula za mwamuna wake, amamuneneza chirichonse, amatsutsa kumuthandiza ndi banjalo. Bamboyo sakhala chete: nthawi zonse amakumbutsa kuti akugwiranso ntchito komanso akutopa, ndipo ngati sangakwanitse kupirira ntchito zapakhomo, ndiye kuti ambuye ndi amayi ake oipa. Malingaliro a munthu woterewa za mkazi wake si abwino kwambiri, amaganiza kuti ndilo vuto lake kuti pali mavuto mu kugonana. Ndipo kuyambira pamene theka lachimwene safuna kuti apeze mgwirizano, ndiye chifukwa amayesa, angawonekere bwanji kunyumba. Kawirikawiri ndi panthawiyi chigololo choyamba cha mwamuna wake - samayang'ana kwambiri kugonana, koma kwa makutu ambiri aulere, amafunika kutsanulira madandaulo kwa mkazi wake, kudziwonetsera yekha kuti akadali munthu.
Kusokonezeka pakati pa maubwenzi ndiko kukulirakulira, mavuto a banja ayamba kukula monga snowball. Thandizo la achibale (agogo, agogo aakazi) kwa kholo lachichepere limakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino, pamapeto a sabata mayi wamng'ono wotopa amatha kupuma ku nkhawa za tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma nthawi zina, izi zimaphatikizapo mgwirizano wa okwatirana: Mbadwo wakale umakonda kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina sungathe kulepheretsa kusonyeza maganizo awo, kufufuza makolo omwe ali achinyamata. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta. Kuwonjezera apo, pazochitika zotero, bambo wochepetsetsa sakhala wochezeka ndi kucheza ndi kusamalira mwanayo, amayamba kudzimva osayenera, pakapita nthawi, amaganiza kuti ndalama zimayenera kuyembekezera. Nthawi zonse zimanyozetsa munthu aliyense. Zotsatira zake - nthawi yochuluka ndi abwenzi, yowonjezera nthawi yowonjezera, mwayi wonyengerera ukuwonjezeka. Poyankha, amalandira zowonjezera zowonjezera kuchokera kwa mkazi wake.
Moyo wa banja wa banja lachinyamata ndi wofanana ndi ngalawa. M'chaka choyamba mwana atabadwa, "boti" lao ndilokuyenda mofulumira kuti lifike pansi. Malingana ndi chiwerengero cha nthawi ino, maukwati ambiri a achinyamata omwe akugonana akutha. Ngakhale kunali chiyambi chodabwitsa kwambiri.