Pakati pa nyundo ndi chikumbutso. Choncho mwachiwawa amamva mkazi, kukakamizika kuthetsa mikangano pakati pa amayi ake ndi mwamuna wake. "Hammer" ndi "chivundi" zingasinthe malo, nthawi zonse imakhala pakati, pakati pa moto wachiwiri.
N'zoona kuti kukangana kwa mabanja kunayamba nthawi zambiri pamene apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo ankawonekera kokha katatu patsiku: pa tsiku la Petrov, pa tsiku la Ilin ndi Pulezidenti. Ndipo mpongozi wanga anali ndi mpongozi wake - mwana wanga wokondedwa, mlamu wanga anali mlendo woyamba, ndipo panali papa patebulo, ngati apongozi ake anali pabwalo, ndipo zikondamoyo zinali zokoma. Koma musafulumire kuchitira nsanje makolo athu. Nzeru zofanana ndi zaka zikwi zisanu zaumunthu, zomwe zalembedwa m'zinthu zamatsenga, zimatsimikizira kuti nkhondo ya pakati pa apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo ndi akale. Ndipo palinso mkangano wina wophunzira, mwinamwake munthu wovutika kwambiri - mwana wamkazi, nayenso ali mkazi. Mayi wosasangalala ayenera kuponyera pakati pa magulu awiriwa, pakati pa mwamuna ndi mayi, osadziwa yemwe, ndi liti komanso amene angateteze. Nkhani zomwe nditi ndikuuzeni, wina, mwinamwake, adzathetsa pang'onopang'ono - "osati ine ndekha", koma kuti wina atulutse njira yooneka ngati yovuta - kuchokera kumbaliyo ikuwonekera.
Mlamu wake wa mpongoziyo adapatsa ruble, ndipo atatha kupereka ndi theka kuti atenge pambali
Ane kwa nthawi yaitali adachitira nsanje gulu lonse la amayi athu. Sanagone tsiku limodzi ndi apongozi ake, koma anabweretsa mwamuna wake ku chipinda cha amayi ake atatu. Pamene pamsonkhanowo panali kukambirana pa nkhani yoyaka za ubale pakati pa achibale, Anya nthawizonse anali chete. Koma tsiku lina adaitana: kodi ndingamuthandize pofunafuna nyumba yake ndi mwamuna wake.
Nchiyani chinachitika?
Monga tonse tinkadziwira, amayi a Anina ndi munthu wabwino kwambiri. Anamulera yekha mwanayo, anam'patsa mpata wopita kumaphunziro apamwamba, atathandizidwa ndi ndalama, adamuwuza wophunzira wake, adakondwera kumva kuti anawo adzakwatirana ndi kukhala naye. Zowopsya zinayamba mwezi woyamba wa mgwirizanowu. Mkazi wanzeru anakhala mkazi wonyansa komanso wamwano. Mlamu wake wotchedwa "iye", ngakhale pamaso pake. Kukhala chete, kumangirira chitseko, kulumbirira mwamuna wa mwamuna wake kunakhala kovuta. Palibe kanthu kokha kudandaula kwa mpongozi wake, kuchokera kwa amayi ake a Anya sanamve: "Anayenda mu nsapato za msewu pansi pa khola kupita kuchimbudzi; Anamwa mkaka wotsala - osati yekha m'nyumba; Iye, monga mwiniwake, akutembenukira pa TV, amagwiritsa ntchito foni. " Kulankhulana momasuka ndi mwamtendere ndi amayi anga sikunapangitse chirichonse. Mipikisano pazithunzithunzi zotukulidwa ndi zowonjezereka zatha kwa Ani ndi kuwonongeka kwamanjenje ndi njira ya mankhwala kuchipatala. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mpongozi wake adanyoza apongozi ake, akunyengerera mkazi wake, akupereka zosankha kuti apulumuke.
Anya adandiuza kuti amamvera chisoni amayi ake ndipo amakhulupirira kuti m'chaka chake choyamba cha banja iye adasankha kuthetsa mwamuna wake wokondedwa: ndizosatheka kusiya amayi ake okha, n'zosatheka kusintha mgwirizano womwe ulipo, n'zosatheka kukhalapo kwambiri ... Zaka zitatu iye ndi mwamuna wake anasiya nyumbayi ndi mawu otsiriza a Ani, omwe analembera amayiwo, anali: "Ndimadana nawe!".
Wachiwawa? Inde. Mwinamwake, sizinali zofunikira kuti zithetse vutoli, ndipo zinali zoyenera kuyamba kuyang'ana nyumba zosiyana pang'onopang'ono, popanda kuwononga nthawi pa zokambirana zopanda pake. Mwa njirayi, izi ndizolakwika molakwika (ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi ana aakazi omwe amakhalapo asanalowe m'banja ndi amayi awo) kuti sikoyenera kusiya mkazi wachikulire yekha. "Amayi adzakhala oipa kwambiri, sangathe kukhala yekha," abambo okonda amakangana ndipo nthawi zambiri amalephera (ngati, mayi sangadwale ndi chinthu chachikulu). Nzeru ya tsiku ndi tsiku imanena kuti achinyamata amafunika kuti azikhala mosiyana - ndibwino kwa iwo komanso achikulire. Komabe, chizoloŵezi chimasonyeza kuti kukhala ndi moyo wosiyana sikutsimikizira kotheratu za kugonana bwino.
Palibe mu seramu kirimu wowawasa, kapena mpongozi wa fukolo
Tinagwira ntchito limodzi ndi Tatyana Petrovna. Iye anali mkazi wa pulofesa, nthawi zonse ankakamba za anthu achikulire ndi anzeru a banja lake, atavala bwino ndi ovala bwino, adanyadira kukongola ndi kulera mwana wake wamkazi. Iye anakwatira mnyamata, yemwe malingaliro ake, chithumwa ndi makhalidwe abwino analibe kukayikira. Mnyamata anakhazikika padera.
Patapita kanthawi, tinazindikira kuti mutu waukulu wa malemba a Tatyana Petrovna unali vuto la kusagwirizana kwa mabanja osalinganizana. Iye anali ndi nkhawa kwambiri: mwana wake wanzeru ndi wokongola, wochokera ku banja lolemera ndi wanzeru, adalumpha kukwatira mwamuna amene makolo ake ndi ovuta kugwira ntchito. Ndipo chiyani? Malo a kunja kwa antchito, "Khrushchevka", njira yopanda nzeru, osati kulankhulana kwathunthu. Ukwati wosafanana ndi wovuta! Amachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti atenge mwana wake wamkazi komanso mdzukulu wake. Kusudzulana kokha!
Maloto a Tatyana Petrovna anakwaniritsidwa, tinaphunzira kokha pambuyo pa ukwati watsopano wa mwanayo. Sizinali zophweka, malinga ndi mayiyo, kubwezera mtsikanayo pamodzi ndi mwanayo kunyumba kwa makolo ndikumukakamiza kuti avomereze cholinga chake chatsopano. Tatyana Petrovna anapeza mpongozi wabwino komanso mwamuna wake chifukwa cha mwana wake wokondedwa. Wolemba wotchuka, mwiniwake wa nyumbayo, magalimoto, nsomba zazing'ono, maulendo, chuma chinakhala mwayi ... Othandizira ma laboratory a dipatimenti yathu sanali aulesi kuti ayang'ane mu "Literary Encyclopaedic Dictionary" ndipo adapeza kuti "wamng'ono" ali wamkulu kuposa apongozi ake kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, kupatulapo kumudzi.
Sindikudziwa momwe moyo wa mwana womvera umakhalira wokondwa, koma ndikuganiza kuti izi sizili choncho pamene adayenera kusonyeza kudzipatulira. Zoonadi, kukhala pakati pa nyundo ndi chivundi kungawonongeke kukhala chitsulo chopanda kanthu. Koma ziyenera kupeŵedwa, kusonyeza mwini wake. Izi, zowona, zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa zochitika zomwe apongozi awo amachita ngati chokhumudwitsa. Tangoganizani, zimachitika ndi zoterezi.
Mulibe khalidwe mu nyumba - tengani mpongozi wanu
Galina Ivanovna adagwira ntchito zaka zambiri pa ntchito yomanga, nthawi zonse ankafuna kupeza ndalama zowonjezerapo, kuti mwana wake asamavulazidwe ndi chirichonse. Olga anamaliza maphunziro awo ku yunivesite, ankayenda kwambiri, atavala bwino, anasonkhanitsa laibulale yabwino, yolankhulana ndi anthu ophunzira komanso ophunzitsidwa bwino. Amayi ankanyadira mwana wake wamkazi, kumupatsa ufulu wathunthu mu khalidwe komanso kusankha mnzanu m'moyo. Anagwirizana bwino, amachitira wina ndi mzake chikondi ndi chikondi.
Olga anakwatiwa ndi mnyamata wabwino mu malonda. Iwo atangokwatirana kumene, anapanga ndalama zogona m'nyumba m'nyumba yatsopano, koma nthawiyi anakhala ndi Galina Ivanovna. Mwamuna wa mwana wamkazi yemwe ali ndi mwayi wothandizira banja, pazifukwa zina, akuganiza kuti n'zotheka kukhazikitsa dongosolo lake mmenemo. Kuitana Galina Ivanovna pamaso pa akunja "apongozi ake", iye kuchokera kumapamwamba a wopindulayo ndi mbuye wake "adamulola" kusamba ndi zovala zachitsulo, nsapato zoyera, kutumikira chakudya chamadzulo komanso kusamba galimoto yake. Mkazi wosauka, yemwe nthawi zonse samagwiritsa ntchito mpweya wokondweretsa wa mpongozi wake wokondedwa, amayesa kuti asamukhumudwitse iye, ndipo chofunika kwambiri kumuthandiza mwanayo mnyumba komanso osayambitsa mikangano m'banja. Abwenzi ake atabwera, adayankha mawu a apongozi ake akumuuza kuti: "Inde, mungatumikire" khofi yotentha, "koma osati makapu a tiyi, monga dzulo; Inde, aliyense amafuna kuyesa saladi, koma "musamalekere" ... Olya muzochitika zotero adatayika, akuphwanyika ndikuyesera kuchotsa mchitidwe wa nthabwala. M'khitchini, iye adalimbikitsa amayi ake mwachikondi, ndipo usiku adamuuza mwamuna wake kukonza mapepala pamene amayi anali ku dacha kapena atasamukira ku nyumba yawo. Poyankha, ndinamva kuti apongozi anga amatha kukhala moyo wake kwa dacha.
Ngakhale asanakwatirane, Olya anandiuza kuti adzamutcha dzina lake wamkazi m'malo mwa mayi ake. Pamene ndinabwera ndi mphatso kwa iwo m'nyumba, ndikuyenda ndikukonzekera mawu oyamikira - Katyushka anabadwa. Nchifukwa chiyani anasintha maganizo awo? Olya anachita manyazi, anangokhala chete, ndipo Galya Ivanovna, wokondwera ndi chimwemwe, anafotokoza kuti: "Anapitirizabe kutchula dzina limeneli, popeza apongozi ake alibe mwana wamkazi ndipo adzasangalala kudziwa kuti mpongozi wake adamutcha mtsikanayo pambuyo pake. Kenako Olya anandiuza kuti mwamuna wake, popanda kumufunsa, anaganiza choncho, mofulumira kuti alandire kalata ya msungwanayo asanabwererenso kuchipatala. Olya ndi misonzi ndi kupepesa chifukwa cha ntchito ya mwamuna wake anauza amayi ake onse. Mkazi wachikulire wanzeru ankayerekezera kuti sanakhumudwitse konse, ndipo analonjeza kuti adzakondanso atsikana ake. Sindikutha kuzindikira kuti apongozi anga, omwe adakhutidwa ndi zochita za mpongozi wake, anali pa tsiku lake loyamba ndi mayina ake patangopita miyezi itatu.
Inde, mtsikana ayenera kulingalira za kulimbikitsa banja lake. Koma pa mtengo wotani? Kusunthira - pa nkhaniyi poyerekeza ndi mwamuna wake - sikuli koyenera. Iye sangapangitse ulemu kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Ndiye momwe mungakhalire mtsikana, momwe mungapangire "ndipo mimbulu idzaza ndipo nkhosa ziri zotetezeka"? Izi zidzafuna khama linalake, luso lamakono komanso ngakhale ndichinyengo. Komanso chipiriro ndi bata - pambuyo pa wina aliyense ayenera kusunga mutu wozizira mu mkangano. Makhalidwe amenewa samawonekera msanga, koma m'moyo wonse.
Choyamba, tifunika kusiya kusinthana mlandu pa moyo, amayi, mwamuna, ndi modekha ndikuvomereza kuti m'njira zambiri mumadziimba mlandu.
Kuti athetse mayiyo ndi kumuletsa kuti asawonongeke, asonyezeni ndi zochita ndikuwongolera ulemu wake, chikondi chake pa iye. Khalani ndi chidwi ndi umoyo wake, kambiranani mobwerezabwereza ndi iye ndipo musayiwale, monga kale, kuseka ndi kumwetulira mukamakambirana naye.
Yesetsani kumuyang'ana ndi maso pa zonse zomwe zikuchitika mnyumba mwanu (nyumba yake), ndipo pambuyo pake zinthu zina zachilendo mu khalidwe lake zidzakupangitsani inu kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino a mayi wachikulire, mwina mayi wamwamuna mmodzi.
Musamutsutsane ndi kunyozedwa ndi kuopseza, musamupweteke maganizo ake a amayi. Zindikirani zolakwitsa zanu ndi zolakwa za mwamuna wanu, lankhulani molondola ndi mawu ochezeka ngati, mukuganiza kuti, sikulondola.
Tangoganizirani zopereka zake kuntchito zapakhomo ndi banja. Yesani pamaso pa anthu akunja kuti mutsimikizire kufunika kwa ntchito yake pakupanga chikhalidwe cha chikondi ndi kumvetsa m'banja lanu.
Ngati mumaganizira zonsezi ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito, ndiye kuti simukuyenera kulamula amayi kuti azikhala ndi makhalidwe abwino ndi apongozi awo, ndipo simudzasowa kukwaniritsa malamulo anu mu ubale wake ndi iye.
Mwazindikira kale kuti simuyenera "kusinthira" mayi anu, komanso simukuyenera kuphunzitsanso mwamuna wanu. Muyenera kuchita ndi kusintha nokha. Apo ayi, mavuto omwe amawoneka osatsutsika komanso osatheka kuthetseratu angakugonjetseni. Palibe chopambana chachikulu kuposa kugonjetsedwa - osati adani, osati matenda, koma imvi tsiku ndi tsiku ndi zodabwitsa. Ndikofunika kuphunzitsa, kuthana ndi mavuto a m'banja komanso kuti musapirire kachasu, komanso kufooka kwanu kwa anthu.
Mkazi wamphamvu ali wokondwa ndi chimwemwe ndi kumwetulira kwa vuto, chifukwa amamvetsa kuti ndizanthawi. Mwatsoka, zinaonekeratu kuti sizovuta kukhala pansi pa denga limodzi ndi makolo anu. Kodi ndizofunikira pa chifukwa ichi kukhala wokhumudwa, wokwiya, kuyenda ndi nkhope yowawa ndikufuula amayi anu ndi mwamuna wanu? Ayi ndithu.
Khalani, monga kale, mokondwera ndi mwamsanga, khalani anzeru, kupeza nzeru za moyo: kukhala odekha, okoma mtima kwa anthu ndi okongola, ndi okangana, ndi nthawi zowawa. Ndipo komwe kuli kudziletsa, komwe munthu wagonjetsa zokondweretsa zaumwini, aliyense nthawi yomweyo amamva kukhala wodekha ndi mpumulo. Mverani izo ndi okondedwa anu. Pambuyo pake, mobwerezabwereza, ndiwe amene unawakakamiza kukhala m'nyumba imodzi ndikuvutika.
Wolemba: Tatiana Porecki