Zaka makumi awiri zapitazo awo omwe sankagwira ntchito, chinali chizoloŵezi choyitana mavitamini. Lero, mwachisangalalo, palibe amene angaganize za kutsutsa mkazi yemwe amakhala pakhomo nthawi zonse. Ndipo zifukwa izi zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri. Koma mosasamala kanthu za momwe zinthu ziliri, eni nyumba onse, posachedwa, amakumana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kulankhulana, kutayika kwa luso laumisiri, kudzichepetsa.
Mwana wa pinki-cheeked
Tsambali kakang'ono, kameneka kozizwitsa kameneka ndi zolembera, zakhala zofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wanu. Nthaŵi zonse mumangokhala ndi nkhawa zambiri za iye. Chotsatira chake, mawu anu okha, omwe amalankhulidwa tsikulo, ndi moni wochepa kwa mwamuna wobwerera kuntchito. Pambuyo pa chaka chokhalapo, mumatha kuona kuti mawu anu akuwuma kwambiri ndipo amatembenuzidwa ku mawu akuti "bu-bu", "a-ta-ta" ndi "agu". Pakuyankhulana kwa foni ndi mnzanu, mumakhala ndi ziganizo zosavuta, komanso ngakhale mayankho a monosyllabic "inde-ayi." Ndipotu phokoso losayembekezereka limabwera pamene, mutakhala ndi kampani yokondana, simungathe kuyankhulana. Ndipo muli ndi mantha olankhulana. Inu mukuwopa kusokoneza chinachake chovuta ndipo chikuwoneka ngati chopusa.
Vuto ndiloti: Kutaya luso la kulankhula ndi kuchepetsa mawu ochepa chifukwa chosowa kulankhulana.
Yankho: Musatayike buku lakale la mawu lidzakuthandizani kuwerenga mabuku apamwamba kapena kuphunzira chinenero china. Pamene mwanayo akugona, mudzatha kugonjetsa masamba angapo a bukhu losangalatsa.
Ndipo komabe, palibe chomwe chimatha kusintha malo oyankhulana. Ali mu chipatala kapena pa malo owonetsera, yang'anani pozungulira. Zoonadi, padzakhala amayi ambiri omwe ali pafupi, omwe angasangalale kusinthanitsa mawu ndi wina. Ndi bwino kugwirizana ndi ena mwa kuthandizana komanso nthawi ndi nthawi kuti "mutengere" kwa maola angapo mbalame zonse kuti ena onse azikhala mwakachetechete ndi kukambirana pa kapu ya tiyi. Njira iyi imakulolani kuti muphe mbalame ziwiri ndi mwala umodzi: pamene amayi akugawana nkhani, ana awo amadziwa zoyamba za chiyanjano.
Mwa chifuniro cha tsogolo
Nthawi zina munthu amadzimangiriza ku nyumba osati mwa kufuna kwake, koma chifukwa cha matenda, matenda. Zomwe zinachitikira: Mtsikana wina adakakamizidwa kuti azikhala miyezi iwiri pafupi ndi kuchoka pakhomo, atalandira mndandanda wovuta kwambiri. Kuwonjezeranso kwina kunapangidwa ndi mfundo yakuti madokotala anamuletsa nthawi yowerengera kuwerenga ndi kuonera TV. Kugwirizanitsa kokha ndi kunja kwa kunja kunali foni ndi amayi, omwe adamubweretsa chakudya pambuyo pa ntchito. Patangopita sabata, iye adamva kuti alibe chimwemwe ndipo adachotsedwa.
Vuto ndiloti: Kudzipatula ndi kusalumikizana.
Yankho: Chinthu choyamba choyenera kuchita ndicho kuganizira za kuchira ndikuchotsa maganizo onse okhumudwa. Dziwani kuti matendawa ndi mwayi wopuma ndikusonkhanitsa maganizo anu. Kuthamangitsidwa "kophweka" kungapangitse kukhala opambana m'tsogolo. Dzikonzekere wekha gulu lothandizira. Musazengereze kufunsa anzanu kuti awathandize. Koma iwo ndi abwenzi kuti akhale ndi ife mu chisangalalo ndi mwachisoni. Mutatha kuyimbira abwenzi anu onse, simudzakhala nawo otulutsidwa kuchokera kwa alendo. Zotsatira zake, mudzapita ku chiwonetsero mofulumira kuposa momwe madokotala adaneneratu.
Muulendo wodula
"Chifukwa chiyani sindiyenera kugwira ntchito panyumba?" - Funso limeneli nthawi zambiri limafunsidwa ndi okonza, atolankhani, omasulira ndi oimira ena ntchito zapanyumba. Ndiyeno umadza ufulu wodikira kwa nthawi yaitali: iwe ukadzuka, pamene ukufuna, umagwira ntchito pamene muli ndi maganizo. Zikuwoneka kuti tsikulo ndilokutalika ndipo zonse zingatheke. Koma nthawi zina zinthu zachilendo zimachitika mmoyo wa freelancer. Mwachitsanzo, mumakhala m'mawa kuti kompyuta ikugwire ntchito, ndipo madzulo mumadziwa kuti kufufuza makalata, kuyankhulana ku ICQ ndi kuyankha pamabuku a anthu ena chifukwa china chake chimatenga tsiku lonse. Pafupi pakati pausiku, muyenera kudzikweza ndi khofi ndikugwira ntchito mpaka m'mawa, ndikukulumbira ndikulonjeza kuti "izi sizidzakhalanso"!
Zovuta kwambiri, zomwe ojambula amamasewera amatha, zimagwira ntchito popanda masiku komanso maholide. Malamulo opindulitsa akamayendetsedwa wina ndi mzake, zingakhale zovuta kunena "imani". Ndipo anthu kawirikawiri amangokhalira "kuiwala" za kupumulira, kulankhulana ndi mabwenzi ndi achibale. Iye amachotsa ku moyo wakunja, amasiya kukhala wokhudzidwa ndi zomwe zikuchitika kuzungulira.
Vuto ndiloti: Kuponyedwa kwa zochitika pakapita nthawi, kusowa gulu, kulingalira kuti nthawiyo ndi "mphira", kapena, kutanthawuza, kusakhoza kulumikiza mzere pakati pa ntchito ndi moyo wonse.
Yankho: Chinthu chophweka chimene mungachite pa nkhaniyi ndi kupanga nthawi zonse. Ndipo mndandanda wa milandu iyenera kukhala yaifupi (ya mawa, ya Lachisanu yapafupi) komanso ya nthawi yayitali (kukweza malamulo kwa mwezi umodzi kapena awiri patsogolo). Kuwonjezera apo, ndizofunikira kupanga lamulo kuti muzichita zinthu mofulumira komanso zofunika pakuyamba komanso kuti musayambe ena asanamalize. Izi zidzateteza ntchito zonse komanso kugona usiku. Kaŵirikaŵiri amalankhulana ndi anzanu amakhala, kotero mudzavutika ndi mantha musanalankhulane.
Odzimanga pa chifuniro
Odala ndi amuna olemera komanso mwayi wosagwira ntchito, mochititsa chidwi, kuchokera ku mitundu yonse ya amayi akuvutika kwambiri maganizo. Poyamba moyo umawoneka ngati tsiku lopitirira lija! Salon yokongola, kampani yolimbitsa thupi, kukambirana ndi atsikana pachikale - ndilo tsiku lapita. Koma posachedwa imayamba kubereka. Maganizo okhudza kusaganizira kwawo amadza m'maganizo mwanga. Makamaka pakuyang'ana abwenzi ogwira ntchito, zokhutira ndi ntchito zamanyazi. Kuchokera pansi pa nthaka kumawoneka nsanje zopusa ndi zovuta zovuta. Pambuyo pa zaka zingapo za moyo wotero pali mavuto oyankhulana, maubwenzi apabanja amachepa.
Vuto ndiloti: Kudzichepetsa, kudzikhutira mkati.
Yankho: Dzifunseni nokha ngati chinthu chokondweretsa, kotero kuti mukamanena za izi, maso anu amawala komanso mumamva bwino. Kumbali imodzi, zidzakuthandizani kukhala kwanu kunyumba ndikudzaza moyo wanu ndi zochitika zatsopano. Pachifukwa china - zowona mtima zabwino zomwe zimabwera kuchokera kwa inu, zidzakopeka ndi kukondweretsa mwamuna wanu. Adzazindikira kuti simangokhala m'nyumba yokha, koma mumakhala moyo wokhutiritsa komanso wokondweretsa.
Ntchito yoopsa
Asayansi amati amayi omwe ali pakhomo nthawi zonse amakhala pangozi yotenga mphumu kusiyana ndi kugwira ntchito. Chifukwa chachikulu ndi kukhudzana nthawi zonse ndi fumbi ndi tsitsi la zinyama. Kuphatikizanso apo, amayi omwe amakhala pakhomo ndi ana nthawi imodzi ndi theka amakhala ovuta kukhala ndi mavuto a mtima.
Izi ndizo zitsanzo zokhazokha zokhudzana ndi kulankhulana. Pakhoza kukhala zambiri. Koma chifukwa cha njira zothana ndi mantha musanalankhulane, n'zotheka kuthana ndi mavuto aliwonse ndikukhalanso membala wamba.