Monga momwe zimakhalira, pambuyo pa zinthu zosangalatsa, kaya ndi khate, mawu otukwana kapena kupatukana ndi wokondedwa, kwa kanthawi, komwe kungayambitse, malingaliro osiyanasiyana amatha. Ndipo ndibwino ngati kuwuka kwa kanthawi kochepa chabe kwa chikumbumtima kapena zina zotero, koma vuto ndiloti nthawi zambiri limakula ndikuwonjezereka: chiwonongeko chomwe chikuwoneka chosatheka kupirira. Ndikumakumbukira chimodzi chochitikacho mwamsanga mukugwedeza mtima, ndipo kotero mukhoza kuthetsa nthawi yaitali kuti mukhale ndi maganizo ovutika maganizo, ngati simukuchotsa mphamvu ya maganizo osakondweretsa.
1. Ng'ombe kapena kupatukana ndi wokondedwa
Chitsanzo:
Mtsikanayo adasweka ndi mnyamata wake. Tsiku ndi tsiku iye adamva chisoni kwambiri, amadya ndi kugona molakwika, nthawi zonse ankayang'anitsitsa zithunzi pamodzi, akulira, amakwiya ndi wina aliyense amene anakumana naye, ndipo sakayiwala zowawa zake, ndikuganiza za iye mobwerezabwereza.
Kutaya kuchokera kumutu kwanga lingaliro la gawo langa lachiwiri ndi lovuta, makamaka kwa atsikana, koma nthawi zina anyamata akhoza kuvutika chifukwa cha iwo, ngakhale kuti sakuwonekera poyera. Kuiwala za wokondedwa wanu (ngati kungopatukana, osati kutsutsana), muyenera kusintha maganizo anu ku china. Chofunika pa nkhaniyi chidzakhala chidziwitso chatsopano. Ndibwino kuti munthu watsopanoyo asadziwe bwino ndi wanu wakale, ngati simungayambe kuchita zonse mwachiwonetsero, mukuyesera kuti muyambe kumuchitira nsanje. Mwina kudziwa kwa kanthaŵi kochepa kudzera pa intaneti ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutoli: choyamba, simungasunge ndi munthu watsopano tsiku loyamba kuti mumve zolakwika; Kachiwiri, simungathe kupitirira apo, pamene kumverera kumakhala kolimba, koma nthawi zina munthu watsopano amachotsedwa, ndipo izi zingakuthandizeni kuiwala zakale.
Pankhani ya mkangano, chirichonse chimakhala chophweka kwambiri: ngati simungathe kudzigonjetsa nokha ndikuyamba kupanga mafilimu. Makanema abwino amatha kusokoneza chilichonse, kuchoka kulimbana: ndi bwenzi, makolo, abwenzi. Izi zikuphatikizapo mabuku ndi zokondweretsa zomwe muli nazo (kugwiritsira ntchito, kujambula, kujambula, etc.). Koma ndi bwino kuzindikira kuti si bwino kukangana, ndikukumana ndi wokondedwa wanu poyamba. Zimakukweza m'maso mwake.
2. Mawu osasangalatsa, mwangozi adagwetsa munthu
Chitsanzo:
"Ndimadana nanu, ndikudani inu!" Sindikusowa inu, sindinakukondeni, tsiku lina ndidzasiya nyumba yanu ndi kubweranso! Analira mwana wamwamuna wazaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zitatu ndipo anakhomerera chitseko mokweza komanso mopepuka, atasweka m'chipinda chake. Mphindi khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu kenako, mayi ndi mwana anayanjanitsa, koma kuchokera mutu wa boyishnikak sanabwere mawu otsutsa a chidani, ndipo anazunzidwa usiku womwewo ndi chidutswa.
Zinthu zosasangalatsa, palibe kutsutsana, komabe, chitsanzo ndi chododometsa kwambiri, ndipo mawu si mpheta, kotero mawu osiyidwa akhoza kutsogolo. Koma nthawi zambiri, munthu wodzikonda. Pali njira ziwiri zomwe zingakwaniritsire zochitika:
a) Nthawi zina anthu samatha kumvetsera ngati akunena chinachake chosasangalatsa, chifukwa amamvetsa kuti sizinagwire ntchito kapena mwadzidzidzi. Mwina akhoza kukhumudwa, koma osati kwa nthawi yayitali. Kotero, apa mukuyenera kukumbukira kuti ngati simunamve kuti mukusintha pa tsiku kapena atatu, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti munthuyo wasiwala kale zomwe zachitika kale ndipo zomverera ndi zopanda phindu.
b) Inde, pali umunthu wowonjezera. Ngati simudziwa kuti chinachake chalakwika, sabata lapita, ndipo nthawi zina mumatha kuyang'ana kuyanjana, kuyankha zoipa, kukwiyitsa pa nthawi yochepa, ndi zina zotero, ndizofunikira kulankhula. Ziyenera kuwoneka ngati mwadzidzidzi kukambirana, osati kukonzekera kukambirana pasadakhale. Muyenera kukumbukira zomwe munanena kale (munthu akhoza kunena kuti wamuiwala kale, koma ngati mwamva kuti kusintha kosasintha - sizowona), ndiyeno - pemphani kupepesa, kunena momwe mulili, komanso kuti iwe ukuzunzidwabe chifukwa cha zochitikazo.Ngati iwe unena zonse moona mtima, munthu adzakukhulupirirani, ndiyeno mudzamva kuti chirichonse chabwezeretsedwa. Ndipo ngati sakunakukhululukirani - chifukwa chiyani muli ndi abwenzi otere (makolo, monga chitsanzo, kukhululukirana, alibe chisankho)?
3. Kusayamika, manyazi kapena kuchita zoipa
Chitsanzo 1:
Msungwanayo anabwera ku yunivesite, adatenga malo ake, kumene anzake omwe anali "abwino" a m'kalasimo ankatsanulira chokoleti chosungunuka. Chifukwa chake, mathalauza a mtsikanayo samayang'ana bwino, ndipo wophunzirayo sanabwere ku chipatala kwa sabata, akuwotchedwa ndi manyazi m'nyumba yake.
Chitsanzo 2:
- Ndipo tiyeni tiwatsanulire chokoleti pa mpando, ndipo pamene [Dzina] abwera ndipo akukhala pa mpando, iye aphimbidwa! - amapereka wophunzira wophunzira mwansangala kwa mnzake.
- Ndipo bwerani! - adagwirizana chachiwiri, ngakhale kuti sanafune kwenikweni kuchita zimenezo. Chifukwa chake, "kudabwa" kunapambana: mtsikanayo anaseka mtsikanayo, ananyozedwa ndipo anasiya ku yunivesite. Ndipo bwenzi lachiwiri linali ndi nkhawa, mantha, ndikudandaula zomwe adachita ndikufuna kubwezeretsa chirichonse.
1) Pachiyambi choyamba, muyenera kukhala ozama mu psychology. Choyamba: anthu onse ndi odzikonda. Iwo ankayang'ana pa chinachake choseketsa, kuseka ndi kugunda, ngati panalibe chifukwa chotsatira cha kuseka kwatsopano kapena zifukwa. Kuchokera apa zikutsatira chachiwiri: pamene munthu akuwongolera zochitika zosasangalatsa, kuwala kumawonekera. Tiyerekeze kuti mtsikana wabwerera ku yunivesite, amachita manyazi, koma mwadzidzidzi amadziwa kuti aliyense waiwala kale chirichonse. Inde, pakhoza kukhala wina yemwe amakumbukira zomwe zinachitika, koma apa zonse zimadalira pa iye, pa wophunzira: ngati sachita kapena kuseketsa mokoma, aliyense samusamala. Palibe amene adzaseka kachiwiri ndikumukumbutsa chaka chonse za zomwe zinachitika. Ngati amathyola, amayamba kuvutika kapena amawonetsa kuti ndi zopweteka, zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa, aliyense akhoza kumenyana ngati piranha. Izi sizingaloledwe.
Kotero, pamene mukumva kuti aliyense sasamala za zomwe zachitika, mudzasiya kudzimangirira nokha.
2) Inde, zochita zomwe timanong'oneza bondo zikuchitika. Palibe chomwe chingasinthe, koma ichi si chifukwa chokhalira osadandaula ndikudandaula kosatha. Kupepesa ndi njira yabwino kwambiri. Pamene moona mtima ukuwoneka, ndibwino. Ngati n'kotheka - perekani mphatso yaing'ono pamene mupempha chikhululuko. Ziribe kanthu kuti kudzikonda kungakhale kotani, muyenera kukhala osayanjanitsika, moona mtima ngati mwakhululukidwa, ngati si mnzanu, amene mumalipira naye mtsogolo kuti mukhalebe paubwenzi. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iwe uuzidwe kuti, iwe wakhululukidwa (anthu ambiri amazinena izo). Zidzakhala zovuta mosavuta.
4. Maganizo oopsa
Chitsanzo:
Mwamunayo ankaopa kuchoka panyumbamo, chifukwa anali ndi vuto lalikulu. Zikuwoneka kuti ayenera kupita pakhomo la nyumba yake, monga chinthu chosakayikira kuti chidzamuchitikire: galimotoyo idzagwedezeka, mutu wa njerwa idzagwa, iye mwiniyo adzalowetsa pansi, ndi zina zotero. Chifukwa cha izi, awiriwo anakhala pamutu pa makolo awo, sanachite kanthu, koma ankaganiza nthawi zonse za momwe zikanakhalira zoipa.
Mwinamwake izi ndizo zanyalanyazidwa kwambiri. Nazi mavuto enieni m'mutu mwanga. Zoona, sizowona kuti izi siziri zovuta, chifukwa ena amakana kukwera ndege yomwe yawonongedwa, ngakhale kuti tikiti yagulidwa, koma nthawi zambiri imakhala pamutu.
Malangizo osadziwika omveka sangathe kuthandiza, muyenera kudzikakamiza kuchita chinachake. Ngakhale mukuopa, muyenera kudzikakamiza kuti mupite mumsewu. Limbikitsani kudutsa msewu. Nthawi zonse kukakamiza. Kawirikawiri mavuto oterewa sawakhudza kwambiri iwo omwe amapita nthawi ndi nthawi, maganizo amenewa amayamba mwa iwo omwe sachita chilichonse palimodzi. Munthu amafunika kupeza ntchito, kupeza mabwenzi ndi zokondweretsa zomwe amakonda, ndipo sadzazindikira mmene maganizo amodzi amachokera.
Malangizo ena omaliza omaliza
Choyamba, ndikufuna ndikukumbutseni kuti anthu ali odzikonda kwambiri. Zilizonse zomwe munthu wachita, ziribe kanthu momwe iye mwini sanadandaule ndi izo, sizingatheke kuti aliyense adzasinthidwa nthawi zonse pa zolakwika zake, chifukwa sakusamala. Pambuyo pozindikira izi, zimakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi moyo. Inde, kwa kanthawi, mwinamwake, aliyense adzakumbukiridwa zomwe zinachitika kuti adzinyoze kapena atulutse munthu, koma ngati simusamala za umunthu wofanana, zonse ziiwalika posachedwa.
Chachiwiri, njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera (ndi nthawi zina osati yachinsinsi) ndizovuta. Mutha kudzidodometsa ndi chirichonse kapena wina aliyense, kaya nyimbo, mabuku, mafilimu, anthu, zosangalatsa, kuyeretsa, ndi zina. Izi ndithudi zithandiza.