Ngati mayi wa mnyamatayo ali wokoma mtima, womvetsetsa komanso mwana wamwamuna wokonda, ndiye kuti, ndibwino kwambiri, kuti akhale ngati iyeyo. Inde, muyenera kungoonetsetsa kuti mnyamatayo sakuyamba kukuchitirani ngati inu amayi ake. Pachifukwa ichi, ayamba kufotokozera zomwe timakonda kuti tibwerere kwa makolo athu, podziwa kuti sangatayike ndikukwaniritsa zovuta zonse. Iyi si njira yabwino kwambiri yokhalira ubale pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana, chifukwa sikuti amafunikira yekha, koma mukusowa. Ndipo timakonda amayi kwambiri kuposa momwe timasamalirira. Ndipo timachita zochepa kwa iwo kuposa zomwe amatichitira. Ziribe kanthu momwe timayesera kuthandizira ndi kuthandizira, mofanana, zomwe makolo athu amafuna nthawi zonse zimakhala zopambana kuposa kubwerera. Choncho, ngati munthu akunena kuti mumakumbutsa mayi ake, kondwerani, koma samalani. Zoona zake n'zakuti amayi anga sakanatha kutenga malo ake. Komabe, ngakhale amayi abwino komanso omvetsetsa, ngakhale pang'ono, komabe amachitira nsanje ana awo kwa atsikana ndi akazi awo. Amayi onse amakhulupirira kuti adzachita zabwino kuposa inu. Mmodzi yekha alibe nzeru zoti azidziganizira okha, pamene ena akuyesera kuti alowe mu nyumba ya amonke yachilendo ndi chilemba chawo. Koma, mwinamwake, ngati mwamuna amakonda ndi kulemekeza amayi ake, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi kuti mumamuwone. Malingaliro ake abwino kwa amayi adzapita kwa inu. Pankhaniyi, mnyamatayu sadzamukhumudwitsa mkazi wake ndipo sadzamukweza, chifukwa ndi mayi ake sangachite zimenezi. Ana omwe anakulira pansi pa phiko la Amayi otentha nthawi zonse amasiyana ndi banja, kukoma mtima, chifundo ndi kumvetsetsa. Choncho, kwa inu. Mwinamwake ngakhale kuyamikira pang'ono podziwa kuti mukuwoneka ngati mkazi yemwe anakulira munthu wokongola chotero. Pambuyo pake, kuvomereza, ngati sakanakhala, simukanamukonda kwambiri. Njira yabwino kwambiri ndi pamene amayi anu amakukondani. Mumapeza chinenero chofanana ndi iye, monga ndi wachibale kapena mnzanu. Pachifukwa ichi, kufanana kwanu kumakuthandizani kuti mupeze chinenero chimodzi mofulumira ndipo simukukangana pazinthu zochepa. Gwirizanani, chifukwa ngati akazi ali osiyana kwambiri, nthawi zonse amatsutsana, pakhomo ndi pa uzimu. Pankhaniyi, ngakhale anthu abwino ndi ovuta kumvetsetsana ndikubwera ku njira yodziwika. Koma ngati muli ndi malingaliro ofanana ndi zofanana, ndiye kuyankhulana ndi amayi a wokondedwa wanu kudzakhala kwa inu mosangalala. Mutha kumvetsetsana ndipo simukudziwiratu mogawana mnyamatayo. Mkhalidwe uwu, kufanana kwa amayi a mzimayi kukupatsani ubwino wambiri pokhudzana ndi chitukuko cha maubwenzi, onse apongozi anu ndi aang'ono, monga adziwa kale mfundo zambiri ndi kuyang'ana pa chitsanzo cha amayi ake.
Pali vuto linalake pamene mzimayiyo alibe kumvetsetsa ndi amayi ake. Apa chirichonse chiri chovuta kwambiri ndi chosagwirizana. Chifukwa cha mkangano pakati pa mayi ndi mwana sichikhoza kungokhala kusagwirizana pa zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe zimachitika kuzungulira. Ndipotu, pali mavuto aakulu komanso ozama kuposa awa. Pali nthawi pamene mayi yemwe sali wokonzeka kulera mwana amapereka kwa achibale ake kapena makolo ake ndipo amatheratu kwa kanthawi, kuwoneka kangapo pachaka. Akazi oterewa sakula pang'ono kukhala amayi pamene ana awo akufika msinkhu ndikupita kunyumba zawo. Apa ndi pamene mkangano wa zofuna ukuyamba, womwe umakula kufikira udani wachinyamata. Mayi amene anaphonya zaka zambiri kuchokera pa mwana wamwamuna wake amayamba kumuphunzitsa ngati akadali wamng'ono, wopusa komanso wopanda nzeru. Iye samvetsa kuti iye asanakhale umunthu wapangidwe umene ukuyenera kuti umvetseke. Kawirikawiri, amayi oterewa samayesa kumvetsa ana awo, kuphunzira za zokonda zawo ndi zomwe akumana nazo, yesetsani kupeza njira yowonjezera. Powona mtima umenewu, anyamatawo amayamba kutseka ndikudziunjikira makilogalamu odana ndi amayi awo. Iwo sangakhoze kuweruzidwa chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa kusawoneka kwa mayi wamoyo, kawirikawiri, kumapanga zambiri zovuta ndi zosatetezeka. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ana otere amakula mokwiya komanso osakhulupirira. Amawona moyo ngati nkhondo. Izi zimayambitsa mavuto a anthu. Mwatsoka, nthawi zambiri amayi awo sazindikira ngakhale kuti iwo sagwira ntchito yolakwika pamoyo wawo wa ana awo. Iwo onse amakana ndi kupitiriza kuumiriza khalidwe lawo pa mnyamatayo, osasamala kwenikweni za malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake.
Ngati munthu akunena kuti: Ndikukumbutsa amayi ake, choncho muyenera kukhala osamala kwambiri ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mumamukumbutsa. Chowonadi ndi chakuti achinyamata omwe amagwera muzochitika zotero, kwa amayi ndi amodzi. Amawakonda, chifukwa mwana aliyense amalandira chikondi ichi mwa chirengedwe, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amadana, amakwiya komanso amakwiya chifukwa cha mavuto onse omwe ali nawo chifukwa cha khalidwe la amayi. Choncho, n'zotheka kuti amakukondani kudana. Kuti mukhale ndi mavuto angapo monga momwe mungathere mu ubale wanu, yesetsani kumvetsetsa chomwe akupeza chimodzimodzi pakati pa inu ndi mayi. Mwina ndi maonekedwe kapena zofanana zofanana ndi khalidwe, nkhope, manja. Ndiye, palibe choopsa kwambiri pomwepo, koma ngati sichiri chovuta kwa iwe, yesetsani kuchichotsa icho, kuti usakwiyitse munthuyo kachiwiri. Ngati zokambiranazo zikukhudzana ndi khalidwe ndi kulingalira kwa dziko lapansi, ndiye kuti muyenera kuganizira, chifukwa kuchokera pazimene wokondedwa wanu amasiyidwa wopanda amayi. Choncho yesetsani kumvetsa momwe izi zimakhudzira chibwenzi chanu, malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro anu. Ngati inu nokha mumvetsetsa kuti zofotokozedwazo ndizolakwika - zichotseni. Khalani okoma ndi achikondi kwa mnyamata, osati konse ngati amayi ake, ndiyeno inu nonse mudzakhala okondwa.