Mgwirizano wosagwirizana umatsutsidwa, koma anthu amakono akuponya "vuto" ku lingaliro la anthu, kutsimikizira mwachitsanzo chawo kuti kusiyana kwa msinkhu sikofunika ngati anthu amakondana.
Mkhalidwe wovuta wa chiwerengero ndi kusudzulana kwakukulu kumasonyeza kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi samadziwa momwe angamange maubwenzi. Ngati awiri apeza ndipo ali bwino, ndiye kuti kaya ndi wamkulu ndani, munthu ayenera kungosangalala nawo. Mulimonsemo, banjali lidzakhalapo momwe zilili zonse.
Pali achinyamata amene amakonda kwambiri pamene amayi ndi achikulire kusiyana ndi amuna pachibwenzi, ndipo si alfonso. Mwina ndi zovuta zomwe zinapangidwa ali mnyamata. Aliyense amadziwa kuti kutha msinkhu kumachitika mtsogolo mwa anyamata kuposa atsikana. Atsikana sachita chibwenzi ndi anyamata ndipo amayesa kusankha mnzawo wamkulu kuposa iwowo. Osanyalanyazidwa ndi chidwi cha anthu a m'nthaŵi, mnyamata woteroyo adzapeza chitonthozo ndi mkazi wamkulu.
Kulephera kuyesa kugonana koyamba ndi anthu amasiku ano kumapangitsa kuti munthu azidziona kuti ndi wofunika. Mtsikana wosadziŵa amatha kuchita khalidwe lake lokha, komanso mawu akuti "kuvulaza" mnzanuyo. Zitatha izi, mnyamata angayang'ane naye wokondedwa, womvetsetsa, womvetsetsa ndipo adzafika paubwenzi ndi mkazi wachikulire kuposa msinkhu wake. Chibadwa cha amayi chidzathandiza mkazi kumvetsa mnyamata wotere ndikuthandizira kumumbula munthu mwa iye. Amuna mu maubwenzi ndi akazi oterewa amamva ngati olimba enieni, ndipo panopa, kusiyana kwa msinkhu sikofunika, sikudziwikanso. Awiri awiriwa amapambana mu chibwenzi. Mwamuna amalandira caress, chisamaliro, chikondi, amawona chimene mkazi akusowa. Mzimayi amene ali ndi zibwenzi zimenezi amatha kugwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru mwamuna, kumuthandiza kuti akhale ndi udindo waukulu ndikukumana naye mwamuna weniweni. Ngati mkazi ali wamkulu, ndiye kuti, pokhala pafupi ndi mnyamata, amayesera kukhala wabwino, zomwe zimamuyendera bwino. Pali ubale wodalirika pakati pa anthu.
Chikhalidwe cha anthu chinasiya umboni wawo pa gulu lachimuna. Amuna awonongeka, koma bwanji? Chifukwa ife akazi, chifukwa cha kusowa kwa amuna mu msinkhu wawo, timayamikira ndi kuwasamalira, osazindikira kuti tikudzivulaza tokha.
Mkaziyo, pokhala ndi udindo wapadera muyanjano ndi mwamuna, akunyengerera lingaliro la "munthu" kumbuyo, amaika chirichonse pa mapewa ake osalimba ndi mwiniwake, popanda kuzindikira izi, watayika monga mkazi. Mwamuna, amene amasamaliridwa ndi amayi aakazi, mwachidwi "amakhala pansi pamutu pake" ndikukonza khalidwe lake kale palibe amene angapambane.
Mkazi wanzeru yekha ndi amene amatha kumanga ubale ndi mnyamata, kotero kuti kusiyana kwa zaka zakale sikungakhudze kudzidalira kwake, ndipo kumuthandiza kukhala mwamuna weniweni.
Lolani anthu kuti azitsutsa mgwirizano wosagwirizana, koma ndi chiyani chomwe chiripo ngati anthu awiri akusangalala. Mkazi amadziwika ndi anthu monga wolowa m'banja. Mankhwala amakono amachititsa kuti mkazi athe kubereka mwana wathanzi pafupifupi pafupifupi msinkhu uliwonse. Mnyamata, pokhala naye wokondedwa kwambiri, angathandize kokha kubereka ana abwino. Mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ngakhale okalamba, mkazi ayenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti iye ali, poyamba, mkazi yemwe ayenera kukhala wokondwa!