Komabe, ndi anthu wamba, mwinamwake chimwemwe! Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndikofunikira kulekerera zolephera zawo poopa kukhala otsala okha. Zofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna kapena akazi ndizofunikira mwa ife mwachilengedwe: kusankha wosakwatirana, timasankha mwachangu bambo wa ana athu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ayenera kukhala wathanzi, wogwira ntchito, wokoma mtima, wodalirika, wodalirika ... Ambiri amalingalira kuti mwamuna wabwino ndi mkazi wabwino mwazigawo izi intuitively, popanda kuphunzira mbiri yake ya zachipatala ndi chilemba chochokera kuntchito yake.
Nthawi zina kuyesa "ukwati" wa wokondedwayo ndi maola ochepa chabe olankhulana. Gawo lachiwiri la "matenda" limatenga miyezi ingapo mpaka chaka ndipo limayesa kuyesa khalidwe la wosankhidwayo. "Mwinamwake mukuganiza kuti ndimakonda maluwa, osati mabala" kapena "Ndinamva chisoni kwambiri, koma simunazindikire!" - Kwa amuna onse izi zimawoneka ngati zosamvetsetseka. Ndipotu, oimira zachiwerewere amachita zinthu motere mwachilengedwe: ndikofunikira kudziwa ngati munthu angathe kupereka nsembe chifukwa cha okondedwa ake? Kodi mwamuna wokongola kwa mkazi wokongola akhale pafupi, ziribe kanthu? Kotero pulogalamu yachisankho ya amayi ikugwira ntchito.
Koma zimakhalanso kuti, palibe mwamuna wowoneka ngati wabwino kwa mkazi wokongola samaweruzidwa kuti ndi woyenera - aliyense ali ndi zolakwika zomwe "sizigwirizana" ndi ukwati.
Amayi Ovomerezedwa
"Palibe amuna wamba," anatero mkwatibwi wotchuka. "Pali kulephera mu pulogalamu yachisankho ya amayi," akuganiza za psychologists. Ndipo zifukwa zogwira ntchitozi ndizosiyana.
Matenda a nyenyezi
Sikoyenera kukhala wopambana pa mpikisano wokongola kapena wopambana pa mphotho ya "Discovery of the Year" - matenda oyamba ndi nyenyezi amayamba kuyambira ali mwana, pamene mwanayo sali wokondedwa basi - amadzipereka. "Ndiwe wokongola kwambiri komanso wochenjera kwambiri," - kubwereza izi ngati spell, achibale amachititsa mtsikanayo kuti alipo anthu ambiri omwe ali osayenerera. Pafupifupi chirichonse! Msungwanayo amayamba kukwatira, koma wokondedwayo amamuona kuti ndi wovuta kwambiri. Pomalizira pake, akuganiza kuti: "Ayi, sindingathe kupirira makhalidwe ake." Ndiyenerera bwino, "ndipo akupitiriza kufunafuna mwamuna wake wokongola kwa mkazi wokongola.
Kudzichepetsa
Njira zotsutsa njira zoleredwa zingathenso kutsogolera zotsatira zofanana. Mtsikana yemwe sanaphunzitsidwe kudzikonda yekha, amaopa kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mwamuna. Iye wakhala akuwopa moyo wake wonse kuti iye akhoza kutayidwa, kunyengedwa, kuleka kukonda. Ndipo izi ndi zopweteka kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, chidziwitso chake chimapanga chitetezo - kufunafuna zolakwa mwa mwamuna wabwino kwa mkazi wokongola. Mkazi atangomva kuti amayamba kukondana kwambiri ndi mnzawo, kuopa kuti amusiyidwa kumakhala wotanganidwa kwambiri ndipo kumam'pangitsa kukhala wotetezeka: "Sindingasangalale ndi mwamuna yemwe ..." - ndipo amasiya chiyanjanocho.
Chifundo
Kamodzi pa nthawi iye sanali mwayi ndi amuna. Ndipo, mwinamwake, chokhumudwitsa choyamba chinabweretsa abambo ake. Mwanayo sangakumbukire kukangana kwa makolo ake, koma amadziwa zomwe amayi ake ndi agogo ake amamuuza nthawi zonse kuti: "Amuna onse ndi mbuzi!" Msungwanayo amakula poyamba kumenyana ndi amuna. Kuyambira pa nthawi yodziwa, samayang'ana ku makhalidwe abwino, koma kwa oipa. Musanene kuti: "Mnyamata wotere!" kapena "Ndangotaya mutu wanga kuchokera ku chithumwa chake!" - chifukwa ndi mwadala kukayikira. Izi zimachitika kuti ndi zonse zomwe akunena kuti amakwatirana, amabereka mwana, ndipo amayamba kupeza cholakwa ndi mwamuna wake m'njira iliyonse, kumukakamiza kuti achoke. Ndipo atachoka, akugonjetsa: ndithudi, sangathe kudalira anthu! Chikondi choyamba chopanda phindu kapena kupatukana kowawa, nayenso, kukhoza kukakamiza moyo kukhalabe ndi zokakamiza kwa wokondedwayo. Choncho, akazi awa amakhala nthawi zonse pofufuza mwamuna wabwino kwa mkazi wokongola.
Chilengedwe chokweza
Anthu ambiri amavomereza kuti posakhalitsa gawo loyamba la ubale weniweni likuchitika. Pali mikangano, kukhudzidwa, mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, koma okwatirana amapeza chithunzithunzi chapadera pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma anthu omwe ali ndi khalidwe lapamwamba amafunika kukhala ndi tchuthi nthawi zonse. Atsikana oterewa sangathe kukhala ndi wokondedwa wawo ngati atasokonezeka nazo: kukhumudwitsa mawu alionse, chizindikiro chirichonse! Monga lamulo, madona achichepere enieniwo saganiza kuti iyi ndi vuto lawo. Iwo amayamba kufunafuna mwamuna woyenera kwa mkazi wokongola mwatsopano, ndipo nthawi iliyonse changucho chimalowetsedwa ndi zizoloŵezi.
Mnyamata wamng'ono
Inde, nthawi zina zimachitika, ndi kulakwitsa kwake. Mwana wamkazi wamkulu m'banja nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi kusamalira mng'ono wake. Kotero iye pa msinkhu wosadziwika amadziwa kuti anyamata amayenera kuyang'ana nthawi zonse, kuwatsitsa pansi, kuphunzitsa malingaliro.Ayamba kuyang'ana amuna ngati mphunzitsi wa makalasi apamwamba -chiwiri-graders. Zizoloŵezi zake zophunzitsa zimapangitsa khalidwe loyenera, liwu la mawu, ngakhale kuyang'ana. Chimodzimodzinso kukwiya kwake ndi mwamuna ndi mchimwene wake wamng'ono adalangidwa ali mwana. Mwachitsanzo, "mlongo wachikulire" akhoza kugawa G ndi mwamuna chifukwa chakuti akuponya masokosi, kulikonse kumene ali kapena akugwedeza pamakona a masambawo m'bukuli.
Wachibwibwi ndi zomwe zinali
Komabe, sikofunikira chifukwa chake chinali chikhumbo chokumana ndi Mr. Perfection. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti chikhumbochi chikhoza (komanso chiyenera) kugonjetsedwa - chifukwa ungwiro sizimachitika m'chilengedwe. Ngakhale kalonga anali ndi nthano, padzakhala zofooka zomwezo monga munthu wamba. Simukufuna kupatula moyo wanu wonse? Onetsetsani kuti mupatsidwe mpata wa zofunikira.
Kusankha wokondedwa mnzako m'moyo, ndibwino kumangoganizira za amene sakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, amakukondani, ndipo ena onse ... pangani nokha! Inde, inde! Monga mu nyimbo: "Ndinamuchititsa khungu kuchoka ku chimene chinali, ndiyeno chinali chiyani, ndiye chinagwera m'chikondi," - chitsogozo chabwino chochita!
Lembani zabwino zonse, mukuchita naye mwamuna yemwe, makamaka, ali wokondweretsa kwa inu. Kodi, muyenera kutseka maso anu ku zolakwa zanu? Ayi, ndi bwino kuwachitira movuta. Izi sizikuphatikizapo malingaliro anu ndi ndemanga, zolakwitsa sizingasokoneze malingaliro a munthu.
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani nkhani yomwe inakupatsani kuganiza bwino za munthu uyu. Mukangoganiza kuti: "Mulungu wanga, momwe ndikukhalira ndi izi ... Zisokanso zimafalikira pakhomo ponse!" - Nthawi yomweyo kumbukirani chinthu chabwino. Kumbukirani mwatsatanetsatane: zowawa, zomveka ndi fungo, yang'anani zinthu zakumbukira nthawi yabwino. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumayambira pa mapulogalamu a chizunguliro - zimagwira ntchito ndithu. Wothandizana naye kachiwiri amakhala kwa ife mbadwa ndipo timafunidwa.
Pezani chifukwa
Kawirikawiri chinthu chilichonse chabwino chimene munthu amachita, timachiona ngati chizoloŵezi, ndi zolakwa zomwe timayang'ana. Yesetsani kufotokoza zolakwika ndi zochitika zosasangalatsa, koma muziwakonda anthu abwino nthawi zonse.
Kutsegula ziganizo ndizothandiza - Zimatithandiza kumvetsetsa bwino. Anthu akhoza kugwirizana pamodzi ngati chiŵerengero cha makhalidwe abwino ndi osayenera ndi pafupifupi 5: 1. Ndipo chiwerengero cha zomwezo ndi chimodzimodzi. Lero inu mwatamanda kale okhulupirika anu kasanu? Ndiye nthawi imodzi ndi inu mukhoza kuwombera.
Mwamuna woyenera kwa mkazi wokongola sizongopeka. Mutamandeni ndi kumusangalatsa mnzanuyo, ngakhale ngati sakuyeneradi. Kawirikawiri, auzeni mwamuna kuti ndi wokoma mtima, wowolowa manja, wowusamalira. Kanthawi pang'ono - ndipo iye adzakhala chomwecho.
Amuna ambiri amadziwa zofooka zawo ndipo alibe chotsutsana ndi zomwe akunena. Mwamuna adzachita zomwe mukufuna: iwe uyenera kuika zikhumbo zako m'mawu osamveka - samvetsa "zowoneka". Iwo akhoza, mwachitsanzo, kuyang'ana zinyalala zikhoza kudzaza pambali ndipo samvetsa kuti ndi nthawi yakupirira. Choncho ndiuzeni! Ndipo chirichonse chidzachitidwa modzipereka.
Amuna ali osasinthika pokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa zizoloŵezi zawo. Chifukwa cha okondedwa, iwo ali okonzeka kusintha, ndipo pa nthawi iliyonse! Musawope zofooka za amuna - pangani mwamuna wanu wabwino kwa mkazi wokongola.