Ndipo sititetezedwe ku maubwenzi otsutsana, ovuta komanso ovuta? Ubale pakati pa achibale apamtima ndi nkhani yofunikira lero.
Zoonadi
Tsoka, ah, koma mosiyana, mwachiwonekere, sizingagwire ntchito - willy-nilly timadzipeza tokha tikukhudzidwa ndi nkhondoyi ya abambo ndi ana, mpongozi wake ndi apongozi ake ... Koma bwanji? Ngati tikuda nkhaŵa kwambiri za tsogolo la ankhondo a ma TV, ndiye mkwatibwi wa mwanayo ndi mutu wokhazikika wa zochitika zosatha, misonzi, maulosi ndi mikangano. Ziwerengero zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni: maukwati oposa 60% amatha kupatula popanda amayi apongozi apongozi, apongozi awo, okongoletsedwa ndi odalirika, komabe amayi amatsogolera. Amayi a mkwati ndi amayi a mkwatibwi, ndiko kuti, apongozi ake ndi apongozi awo. Iwo akujambulira magawo awa pakati pa magazi awo ndi "ichi" kapena "ichi", omwe anabwera kuchokera kunja ndi charter yosiyana mu "monastery" yawo yamtendere ndi yokhazikika.
Nzeru za akulu
Pali mabanja okondwa kumene achibale a okwatirana, ngakhale ngati sakonda kwambiri mwanayo "mwana" kapena "mwana", amalemekezedwa ndikuganiziridwa ndi maganizo awo. Momwemonso, izi ndizokwanira, koma momwe mungayanjane? Nthawi zonse timadikirira nzeru ndi chilungamo kwa anthu omwe ali okalamba. Akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi otsimikizika: m'mabanja awo kumene apongozi awo adakalowetsa chibwenzi cha mwana wawo ndi atsikana kuyambira pachiyambi, koma adatsata ndondomeko yowonongeka, palibe zowonongeka, mikangano yoipa ndi mikangano pambuyo pake. Ndipo osati chifukwa chakuti amayi aluntha ndi pambuyo paukwati wa ana awo adakhalabe "osayanjanitsika" pamoyo wawo, koma chifukwa chakuti adatsogolera zochita za mwana wawo m'njira yoyenera. Ndinayamba kukondana, mwachitsanzo, ndi mwana wamwamuna yemwe sagwirizane ndi makolo ake pamalo alionse. Ndipo amayi amakolo otaya thukuta amachita chiyani? Sichiyambitsa nkhondo yovuta - pazifukwa izi sizothandiza chabe, koma ndizoopsa: mzimu wopanduka udzawuka mwa mwana, adzachita zonse zotsutsana ndi zilakolako ndi chifuniro cha makolo, ndipo zinthu sizidzatha. Mayi wokongola, koposa zonse, amayesa kulankhula mwamtendere ndi mwana wake ndikupeza zolinga zake. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo fotokozani momveka bwino malingaliro anu pa izi. Pali njira ziwiri zokha zokhazikitsira zochitika zina: kaya mwanayo adzagawana zikhulupiliro za amayi ake, kapena sagwirizana. Ndiyeno m'pofunika kumvetsa kuti ndi zopanda phindu kuti tipitirize kumenyana, tifunika kuwerengera ndi kusankha kwake ndi theka lake lachiwiri. Mukufuna kuti mwana wanu akhale wachimwemwe?
Kukhala mwamtendere kukhala pamodzi
Koma apa maulendo a Mendelssohn adasewera, ndipo masabata ovuta kwambiri anadza. Ndi amayi a ana akuluakulu, metamorphoses imayamba kuchitika: ngati iwo asanalota kuti ukwati wa mwana wawo ukhala wosangalala komanso wautali, ndiye atatha kulembetsa ndi ofesi yolembera, apongozi ake 70% amayamba kuyembekezera kuthetsa mgwirizanowu. Kaŵirikaŵiri si funso lopatsa mwana wanu kukula ndi kukwatira "mwayi" wokonzekera tsogolo lanu. Chabwino, akadali wamng'ono komanso wodalirika! Banja ndi mikangano zimatha kutsogolo. Ndipo mzimayi wamng'ono ayenera kuganizira za momwe angabweretsere vutoli, osatha kusudzulana. Kuti tichite zimenezi, tifunikira kupeza zomwe zimatsogolera apongozi ake, ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira zoyenera.
Mitundu yambiri
Ngati apongozi ake kapena apongozi anu ali olamulira, ndipo akuwona kuti ndi udindo wake kusunga ndi kupenda mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wa mwana wake, ndibwino kuti nthawi yomweyo mukhazikitse mgwirizano, ndikuwonetseratu kuti njira zoterezi sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Poyamba, ubalewo ukhoza kuwonjezereka, komano iwo avomereza msinkhu ndi omasuka kwa inu khalidwe. Ngati amayi a abambo anu samakhala osamala kwa mphindi imodzi za mtengo wake wapatali ndipo paliponse paliponse akuika mphuno yake, yesetsani kukwiya. Muzimusamalira ndiyamiko. Mwamwayi, mayi woteroyo amakhala osavuta kuchita mlingo, amayamba kukondana ndi kunyalanyaza ndi kuvomereza zitsimikizo za chikondi ndi zofunikira pamtengo wapatali. Palinso njira ina: amayi ake amadandaula nthawi zonse chifukwa chosasamalidwa, nthawi zonse amakhumudwitsa chinachake, ndipo "ambulansi" ikugwira ntchito pakhomo pake. Izi ndizomwe zimakhudza mtima ndipo mumataya ngati mwangoyamba kugonjetsedwa. Ndi "mayi" wotero muyenera kukhala mosamala komanso mwamtendere. Monga ndi mwana. Kupanda kutero, mukhoza kumira m'nyanja ya misonzi yake ndikuphwanya ubwenzi wawo ndi mwamuna wake, yemwe ali wotsimikiza kuti mayi ake sanganame. Pali apongozi apamwamba - oterewa "m'moyo wa apongozi awo. Amakumba m'matumba awo ndi pa desiki, kumvetsera zokambirana za foni ndikuphunzira mosamala mtundu wa dothi pa nsapato za pamsewu. Kulimbana nawo sikungatheke, iwo amakhala osamala kwambiri komanso oopsa m'banja lanu. Zimakhala zomveka mwanjira yodabwitsa kunena izi kwa mwamuna wake, amene amadziwa za amayi ake osamvetseka.
Khalani okoma mtima
Eya, okwatirana a mtsogolo, omwe pamodzi ndi okondedwa awo, alinso ndi mndandanda wa achibale ake, mukhoza kulangiza kukhala osungika komanso okoma mtima. Kusiya izo mophweka, ndi kovuta kuchita. Ndi kovuta kukonda amayi a munthu wina amene sakusangalatsani. Koma ngakhale galu amaima akuwomba pamtengo umene unangoyendayenda mumphepo. Tsopano, swing, osamva kapena kumva zomwe simukufuna kumva kapena kumva. Pewani kukambirana kosakondweretsa, musalankhule mau omwe angathe kuwononga zomwe mwamanga ndi chikondi choterocho. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ndinu wamkulu bwanji, khalani anzeru ndi olungama kwambiri. Kuchitira nsanje mwamuna ndi mayi ake ndi kutha kwa imfa. Choncho, muloleni amukonde ndi mphamvu zake zonse, ndipo akhalebe yekhayo ndi wapadera, akumbukira kuti usiku cuckoo nthawi zonse perekukuet tsiku. Dzikani nokha za "mayi watsopano" ndipo mukhale ndi ogwirizana naye, n'zosavuta kuchita, simukuyenera kudzinenera malo ake oyera mu moyo wake, koma musamulole kuti alowe m'dera lanu.