Inde, funso loti ngati "mkazi wamkazi" ndilofunika kwa amuna ndi loyenera, chifukwa amayi akufuna kumvetsa ngati kuli koyenera kusintha. Kotero, choyamba, tiyeni tiwone kuti mkazi ndi "nyumba" ndi chifukwa chiyani. Chabwino, poyamba, palibe amene angamuyitane mkazi wotchi, tigress, vamp. Mkazi wotero sakudziwa momwe angafunire kuchita mwanjira imeneyi. Ndipo, palibe amene akunena kuti asungwana otero sakudziwa kuti azisamalira okha, kukhala azimayi komanso okongola. Mwamuna yekha wa mtundu wake wa mkazi nthawi zonse amayesera kupanga moyo kukhala wokoma ndi womasuka. Ali ndi nkhawa kuti mnyamatayo amasangalala nthawi zonse. Ndipo izi zikuwonetseredwa mu chirichonse. Mwamuna wake, amadya chakudya chokoma, amayenda zovala zoyera komanso zowonongeka ndipo akhoza kutsimikiza kuti nthawi zonse amadikirira m'nyumba yoyera ndi yowala. Akamalankhula za amayi oterewa, mtsikanayo amavala zovala zambiri nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe amathandizira kuti azikhala womasuka komanso wotonthoza. Koma kodi mwamuna amafunikira mkazi woterowo? Pambuyo pake, zimadziwika kuti anyamata amakonda kukhala osaka, kufunafuna malo ogona osadalirika, kuthana nazo zonse mwaulere komanso m'njira iliyonse kuti akwaniritse mtima wa mfumukazi. Mwamuna samapindula mtsikana wotero kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndipo sikuti iye sakudziwa yekha kukhala wofunika. Msungwana wotere wa "kunyumba" amadziwa momwe angawonere zabwino mwa anthu omwe amamukonda, ndikuwakhululukira zolakwa zambiri. Mosiyana ndi "ogwedeza" amene amang'amba ndi kuthamanga mozungulira ndi opanda chifukwa, msungwana wa "nyumba" amayesa kumvetsa chifukwa chake mnyamatayu anachita, kulankhula naye, kupeza chiyanjano kapena kuwalingalira m'maso mwawo. Koma, kodi kuyesa kotereku kwazofunikira kwa munthu?
Kuphatikiza apo, atsikana ameneĊµa angathe kuthandiza munthu kuthetsa mavuto. Sasowa chilimbikitso chapadera pa izi. Amangokonda ndikukhulupirira kuti nkofunika nthawi zonse kuthandiza ndi kuthandiza omwe ali okondedwa kwa inu. Koma, nthawi zina, amuna amayamba kuchita zimenezi mopepuka, ndipo, motero, "khala pamutu pako." Ndicho chifukwa chake, posankha kuti musinthe kapena ngati mukufuna kukhala momwemo, mkazi ayenera kumvetsetsa chomwe mwamuna wake ali. Kapenanso, ndi munthu wotani amene amafunikira. Pambuyo pa zonse, pali mitundu yambiri ya khalidwe la atsikana, palinso mitundu yambiri ya amuna. Pali anyamata amene amafunika kukwaniritsa zinthu zonse ndikuwonetsa dziko lonse kuti ndizo zabwino komanso zoyenera. Mnyamata woteroyo sangakhale ndi chidwi ndi msungwana wokoma mtima komanso womvetsetsa. Amafuna moyo kuti nthawi zonse ukhale wodzala ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana komanso zowawa. Mzimayi yemwe amasamala za coziness ndi chitonthozo, sangathe kumupatsa mnyamata kuchuluka kwa maganizo amene akusowa. Mwinamwake, amayamikira ndi kulemekeza mkazi woteroyo, ndipo nthawi zonse amabwerera kunyumba, koma adzayang'ana maganizo kumbali, ndi amayi omwe sangamupatse ulemu, koma, mosiyana, adzayambitsa mavuto, kuwakakamiza kufunafuna. Ndi mkazi woteroyo, mwamuna samadziwa konse zomwe ayenera kuyembekezera mumphindi wotsatira. Izi ndi zomwe zimayendetsa. Choncho, ngati mumakopeka ndi anyamata oterewa, simuyenera kukhala okoma mtima komanso osavuta. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumangokhalira kupukuta amatsenga ndikupeza ubale wawo. Mwachidule, mwamuna ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti sangathe kugwiritsa ntchito kukoma mtima kwanu, ndipo mumadziwa bwino mtengo wanu, muli ndi chinsinsi komanso simungathe kutero, ndipo ngati akubwezeretsani, adzakutengani mopepuka, kenako adzatayika.
Komanso, pali gulu la anyamata omwe, chifukwa cha maofesi awo, akuyesera kupeza zonse zabwino kuti atsimikizire zachilengedwe zomwe iwo amafunikira chinachake. Ndipotu, mwamuna wotero amafunika mkazi wachikondi ndi wokoma mtima yemwe amuthandiza kuchotsa maofesiwa, adzathandiza, ndipo, ake, achifundo, oteteza. Anthu oterewa ali ndi zofooka ndipo amafunika kumbuyo. Koma, chifukwa cha maofesi awo, amanyengerera akazi oterowa ndipo amawapeza kuti sangakwanitse. Mnyamata wotere ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ndiwe msungwana yemwe anzake amamuyamikira. Ngakhale, nkoyenera kulingalira ngati mukufuna munthu yemwe sangathe kusankha yekha moyo ndikuyang'ana maganizo a anthu pa chilichonse. Koma, ngati mukufunabe kukhala ndi munthu uyu, musasonyeze poyera momwe mumawayamikira komanso kuti mwakonzeka kuti achite zonse. Muyenera kukhala osakwanira ndipo nthawi zonse mudzidziwe nokha mtengo. Koma, panthawi yomweyi, nokha, muyenera kukhala mkazi yemwe adzatha kuthandizira ndi kuthandizira, koma, panthawi yomweyi, simuyenera kuthetsa mavuto ake. Amuna otere sangathe kutsegulidwa kwathunthu ndikuwalola chirichonse. Ndi nawo njira yodziwika bwino ya "karoti ndi kumamatira" ikugwira bwino ntchito. Ngati mungathe kuona mbali imeneyi mu ubale ndi iye, zomwe simungathe kupita, mukhoza kukhala osangalala naye.
Koma, palinso gulu lina la amuna. Iwo ndi amayi amasiye omwe amakonda kukhala mwamtendere kunyumba kwawo, ku "harbour" lawo. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri ndi amai omwe amachititsa chidwi komanso omwe palibe amene amadziwa zomwe angayembekezere m'kamphindi wotsatira. Anyamatawa akungofunikira atsikana "kunyumba". Adzayamikira kukoma mtima ndi kumvetsetsa, komanso chitonthozo chimene mudzalimbikitse. Amuna amenewa nthawi zonse amadzinyenga okha, amayesa kukonza zinthu mwamtendere ndi kudana nazo pamene akazi ayamba kupeza chiyanjano. Choncho, ngati mukudziwa kuti nthawi zonse mumakonzeka kukonda ndi kumuthandiza mwamuna wanu, ndiye kuti munthu woteroyo adzakuthandizani. Amuna awa ndi owona mtima ndi osakwanira kuti asayambe kukugwiritsani ntchito. Amayamikira kwambiri zomwe mukuwachitira, ndipo musawapeputse. Amuna awa adzakhala amuna abwino kwa iwo omwe angalimbikitse chitonthozo, komanso kuteteza moyo, mtima ndi mitsempha ya wokondedwa ku zovuta, zochitika ndi mikangano.