Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa mfundo yakuti ngakhale ubale wabwino ukhoza kuvunda. Komabe, chilichonse chimene chimachitika, chisankho chothetsa chiyanjano chimaperekedwa movuta kwambiri. Timaganizira kwa nthawi yaitali za funso, lomwe ndibwino, kukhala kapena kuchoka. Ngati simungathe kusankha mwanjira iliyonse zomwe mungasankhe - yesetsani kuchita zonsezi zotsatirazi.
Khwerero # 1. Khalani nokha, osati zomwe mukufuna kumuwona mnzanuyo
Ngati mukufuna kuchita chinthu chosadziwika kwa inu, kodi mumachita ngati akufuna, kapena mumateteza malo anu? Ngati nthawi zonse mumabisa maganizo anu ndikuyesera kukondweretsa ena, ndiye kuti izi zimakhudza kwambiri ulemu wanu, ndiko kuti, mungathe kunena, pamaganizo anu onse. Choncho, ngati muwona zochitika zoterezi, yesetsani kuyesa - kuvomerezana ndi mnzanuyo kuti kwa nthawi inayake mungalankhule zokhazo zomwe mumaganiza, pamene mutenga mbali yonse yamaganizo ya mabotolo. Kuyesera kudzawonetsa ngati n'kotheka kubwezeretsa mgwirizano wakale kapena kuti ubale uyenera kuimitsidwa.
Khwerero nambala 2. Lekani kudandaula za zomwe ena amaganiza za inu.
Mu chiyanjano ndikofunikira kunena, kuganiza kapena kuchita zina. Izi ndi zanu ndipo ndizokha lingaliro lanu lovomereza ndi kulandira udindo, zomwe mudzakhala nazo zokha. Angakupatseni malangizo osiyanasiyana, koma ndi bwino kukumbukira mawu akale akuti "mverani kwa aliyense - dzifunseni nokha". Musapangitse zovutazo, kutenga mantha ndi mantha a anthu ena. Njira yosavuta yothetsera mavuto a ubale udzakhala ngati mukhala chete ndikuganiza mofatsa.
Khwerero # 3. Tengani mbali imodzi ya "mphamvu" yanu
Kawirikawiri, pamene pakufunika kupanga chisankho chovuta, m'malingaliro a munthu pali zokayikitsa zosachepera ziwiri pa nkhaniyi, yomwe imanena mosiyana kwambiri. Kawirikawiri, maganizo amodzi oika pangozi, cholinga chake chachikulu "zonse zomwe zimachitika ndi zabwino." Pamene liwu lina likuti mwina mwa kupanga chisankho, mudzalakwitsa, kapena kuti sichidzasintha kanthu. Ngakhale kuti simukudziwa kuti kulimbana kumeneku, ndiye kuti mukuponyera pang'onopang'ono, osadziwa choti muchite.
Kuti muthane ndi izi, khalani pansi ndi kulemba zifukwa zonse zomwe zimatsogola ku lingaliro loyambirira, ndipo mosiyana ndi iwo alembetseni zifukwa zachiwiri. Lembani chithunzicho mpaka mutatha kufotokoza chithunzi chonsecho, zabwino ndi zolakwika zomwe zilipo panopo ndipo simukufika pamapeto omveka bwino. Monga lamulo, pambuyo pa ntchito yotereyi, kutsutsana kumeneku kumaonedwa kuti ndi njira imodzi yokha yothetsera.
Khwerero # 4: Umvetsetse kuti njira yabwino yothetsera vuto ilipo
Tiyeni tilingalire kuti muli ndi uphungu wopereka chisudzulo ndikusiya ana anu kwa mwamuna wanu. Nthawi zambiri yankho la izi lidzakhala "sindingathe kuchita izi". Tsopano yesetsani kutulutsa mawu omwewo, koma musinthe "sindingathe" ku mawu akuti "Sindidzachita." Ndizodabwitsa, koma m'malo mwake ntchito - mlengalenga mu maubwenzi ndiwoneka pamene anthu akuzindikira kuti kwenikweni akufuna kusunga ubale wawo. Kumalowa kumalola munthu mmodzi kumvetsa kuti makamaka ali omasuka kuchita zomwe akufuna, ndi ena - kuti nthawi zonse amasankha zomwe akufuna.
Khwerero # 5. Ganizirani zofuna zanu
Musaganize kuti wina kuchokera kumbali adzabwera ndipo nthawi yomweyo adzakuuzani momwe mungachitire bwino, izi sizidzachitika. Musayese kutsata uphungu wa anthu ena ndikukwaniritsa zolinga ndi miyezo. Musawope ndipo musazengereze kuchita monga momwe mukuonera.
Khwerero # 6. Ganizirani momwe mungachitire ngati mukudziwa kuti muli ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yokhala ndi moyo
Tangoganizirani kuti mukuyenera kukhala osapitirira miyezi isanu ndi umodzi - pokhapokha mutakhala mukudandaula ndi zofooka zing'onozing'ono za ubalewu, ngati mikangano madzulo. Ngati mwatsimikiza kuthetsa ubale - chitani pomwepo. Ngati mwasankha kuwapulumutsa - ingoyamba kukonza zinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Ntchitoyi imathandiza kuona zochitika zenizeni ndikuyamba kuchita.