Aliyense amafuna chimwemwe kwa achinyamata, moyo wautali pamodzi ndikukondwerera ukwati wokondwa ndi wokongola.
Ndipotu, moyo weniweniwo sungakhale wotalika kwambiri. Nthawi zina kusudzulana kumachitika mutangokwatirana. Zili zomvetsa chisoni komanso zomvetsa chisoni, koma zimachitika. Mungayesere kumvetsetsa zifukwa, koma zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri.
Izi zimachitika kuti achinyamata adadziwa nthawi yaying'ono.
Ndipo pambuyo pa ukwatiwo pakubwera nthawi ya choonadi chowawa, zomwe zikutanthawuza kuti abwenziwo sagwirizana kwenikweni ndipo iwo amatsutsana kuti akhale pamodzi mu chipinda chimodzi. Khalidwe - chinthu chovuta, ndipo mawu akuti "sanafanane ndi anthu" samangonena chabe, koma choonadi chenicheni.
Kusudzulana mwamsanga ukatha ukwati ukhoza kukhala chifukwa chakuti banja lachichepere likukumana ndi vuto la pakhomo, limene sali okonzekera kukumana maso ndi maso. Ndiye chikondi ndi zochepa zachisoni zimakula kuti zisakondwere ndipo chilakolako chimachokera kwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo mwamsanga kuthetsa ukwati kumachitika. Nthawi zambiri achinyamata amakumana ndi vuto la nyumba, zomwe sangathe kuthetsa pawokha. Kulephera kukhala ndi ngodya yake, monga lamulo, kukhumudwitsa kwambiri ndi mabanja omwe sali osowa angathe kuthana ndi mavutowa ndi kukhala pamodzi.
Kuphatikizanso, gawo lofunika muukwati pambuyo paukwati limasewera ndi achibale kumbali zonse. Ndipo ngati makolo a mkazi kapena mwamuna sakuvomerezana ndi zosankha za ana awo, komabe ali ndi ubwino wochuluka komanso ovomerezeka, ndiye kuti "adzaika timitengo mu gudumu" ndi mphamvu zawo zonse, kotero kuti okwatiranawo amakangana ndi kuthawa. Nanga bwanji za chikondi? - funsani, mwinamwake inu. Chikondi ... ndi. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musamangodzimangirira ndi zosavuta komanso kuti musakhale ndi maganizo oyamba, ndizofunika kwambiri komanso zofunikira.
"Pamene umphawi ukubwera kunyumba, chikondi chimadumphira muwindo" - mawu awa anzeru, omwe atchulidwa kwa nthawi yaitali, sadataya umoyo wawo.
Kawirikawiri kusudzulana pambuyo pa ukwati kukuchitika ndi kubadwa kwa mwana, chifukwa chochitika chosangalatsa ndi chokondweretsa chimakhala chosagona usiku, kusamba kosatha, kuyiritsa ndipo zikuwoneka kuti kutha kwake sikudzatha. Mayi atatha kubadwa amakhumudwa, amanjenjemera chifukwa cha chifukwa chilichonse ndi mwamuna wake, amatembenuka kukhala mwamuna amene amafuna maola angapo kuti agone. Kuyamba kusungirana chakukhosi, kudzudzula, ndi zotsatira zake, kusudzulana. Izi zimachitika ngati achinyamata sasiya ubwana ndipo sanaphunzire kusamalira maganizo awo pang'ono. Zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti chikondi chapita ndipo njira yokhayo yotulukira ndiyo kutha msanga.
Kusudzulana mwamsanga pambuyo pa ukwati kungakhale chifukwa cha kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka zambiri pakati pa okwatirana. Mkazi ali wamng'ono ndipo samvetsa kuti munthu wolemetsa, akumenyetsa malingaliro ake, ali ndi gulu lodzigwiritsira ntchito moyo, zizoloŵezi, mwinamwake, ana ndi mkazi wake wakale. Zikuwoneka kuti chikondi chidzapulumuka zonse ngati "wokondedwa" ali pafupi. Chikondi chikhoza kupirira - mtsikana yemwe akufuna kusangalala ndi moyo wake, kukula mwakuthupi ndi mwauzimu, sangathe kupirira, pamene ntchentche zake zazikulu zakhala kale nazo zonsezi ndipo sizimuthandiza mwamakhalidwe ake onse.
Pamene mukutha kuona zifukwa zosudzulana pambuyo paukwati - ambiri ndi onse osatchulidwa. Ndipotu, sizodabwitsa kwambiri. Ndi bwino kubwerera mwamsanga kusiyana ndikumva zowawa ndi zolakalaka moyo wanga wonse. Kusudzulana kumachitika ndipo ena ndi mwayi wopezera chimwemwe.