Chizindikiro choyamba chakuti chibwenzi chanu chidzatha, ndi ubale ndi abwenzi ake. Ngati abwenzi anu a bwenzi nthawi zonse amalankhulana nanu nthawi zonse, amagawana nkhani ndi zinsinsi ndipo mwadzidzidzi anasiya kuyankhulana nanu, ndiye muyenera kuganizira za ubale wanu. Mwinamwake abwenzi ake amadziwa kale za kusintha kwa mtsogolo mu ubale wanu ndipo akuyesera kungokuchokani.
Izi zingakhale zovuta kwambiri: Msungwana wanu amakulepheretsani kukuitanani ku maphwando ndi misonkhano yomwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mumapezekapo. Ngakhale mutakhala mabwenzi apamtima a abwenzi anu, amzanuwa adzalankhula pakati panu. Chibwenzi chitatha ndi abwenzi ake, kawirikawiri amasankha mbali imodzi komanso makamaka akazi. Choncho, ngati bwenzi lanu liyankha funso lakuti "Kodi mungathe bwanji kumapeto kwa sabata?" Kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndi abwenzi ake, ndiye mukhoza kukonzekera kugonana.
Chizindikiro china cha kutha kwa kugonana ndi kusintha kwa mkhalidwe wanu. Ngati zinthu zikuyamba kutha mwadzidzidzi m'nyumba yanu, monga nsalu ya ma Dzino, t-shirt yamakono ndi mavidiyo ndi mafilimu omwe amamukonda kale, ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika ku zomwe mwasiya kale ndipo mwamsanga mudzauzidwa " mfulu ". Inde, zonsezi zimatheka chifukwa chakuti msungwana wanu amangoyeretsa nyumba yanu ndipo posachedwa zinthu zonse zidzatha, komabe, monga lamulo, zinthu izi sizingabwererenso ku nyumbayi. Chizindikiro ichi cha kutha kwa kugonana ndicho chofunikira kwambiri ndipo ichi ndi chenjezo lotsiriza musanagawani.
Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kukangana nthawi zonse ndi kupsa mtima zimangokhala mgwirizano wosiyana pakati pa anthu awiri. Ndipo ngati mwadzidzidzi mikangano yowonjezereka ya chiyanjanoyo ikutha, izi sizikutanthauza kuti zonse ziri bwino mu maubwenzi anu, koma mosiyana, muyenera kumveka phokoso ndi kuyamba kukonza momwe ziliri, chifukwa mwinamwake mkazi wokondedwa wanu wadzikonzera yekha zinthu ndipo sangathe kupanga malingaliro ake mwa njira iliyonse inu mumagawana. Ngati msungwana wanu amasiya kusangalatsa kapena kukwiyitsa zinthu zomwe akadaziwona kale, ndiye kuti zikuoneka kuti ubale wanu watha kale.
Zonsezi ndizofunika kwambiri ndipo zimakupatsani chifukwa choyamba kudandaula, ndipo ngati zizindikirozi zikuwoneka movuta, zikutanthauza kuti mu chiyanjano chanu chachikulu chasokonekera ndipo muyenera kuchita chinachake ndikuchikhazikitsa, popeza mulibe nthawi iliyonse. Zili zosavuta kuti ena avomereze kusokoneza chiyanjano kusiyana ndi kusiya njira zawo, koma mukufunikirabe kuchitapo kanthu ndi zizindikiro izi, chifukwa polimbikitsana kuti mulowetse ubalewu, zimakhala zovuta kuti mukhalebe ndi chibwenzi.
Poonetsetsa kuti mavutowa sakuwuka, magawo onse awiri ayenera kukhala osamala kwambiri pa theka lawo: ganizirani maganizo awo, apange zosiyana, musaiwale zokometsera, ndipo ndithudi muwononge maluwa.
Ngati mumakondana, ndiye kuti gawo limodzi liyenera kupatsana wina ndi mzake ndipo ngati mutatsatira zonsezi, ndiye kuti mu chiyanjano chanu mutha kukonda chikondi ndi kumvetsetsa kokha!