Banja likamwalira? .. Kodi sitilimbana ndi kukhala ndi banja lolondola? Kapena kodi nthano chabe za banja loyenera, malingaliro a anthu omwe amakumana ndi zenizeni ndikukhala osokoneza chimwemwe? Ndipotu, banja losangalala, lopangidwa chifukwa cha kukondana, kukwatirana "chifukwa cha chikondi" - izi ndimasewera, fade ya chilengedwe. Okonda awiri, omwe ali ndi mphamvu, samasiyana kwambiri ndi okwatirana a nkhuni zedi - sindikuwona chirichonse, chinthu chachikulu ndikuti ndikukopa mnzanga. Pamene mgwirizano wa awiri uli wovomerezedwa mwachizolowezi, ngakhale mphindi yomweyi isanakwane iwo amakhala "osayina" - phwando lofanana ndi nthawiyi liwoneka ngati likuchotsa chinthu chofunika kwambiri ...
Zitsimikizo za "chikondi chosatha" musalole kuitana kwa mtima, kufunika kwa "mgwirizano", kukhala wokondwa. Ndipo atapanda kumvetsetsa, akukonzekera nkhondo kuti ikhale ndi ufulu wopereka zosowa izi mothandizidwa ndi "bwenzi" ... "Kodi banja loyenera ndi nthano kapena zenizeni?" - ndizo zomwe abwenzi omwe akuyesera kumanga ubale akuthandizani.
Nthawi yochezera idzawomba phokoso, ndipo zolephera za mnzanuyo (ndi moyo wa banja) zidzapweteketsa makona awiri omwe akuwombera mwangozi. Banja loyenera, nthano ndi zenizeni zenizeni za ife omwe tilili kwa wina ndi mzake, zidzayamba "kuchoka" kuchokera pansi pa chokoleti-vanilla romance.
Ena amavomereza ndi zamatsenga kuti ntchito yabwino sichitchedwa chinthu chabwino, ndipo ena, poyembekeza nyengo yotsatira ndi kukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro, adzasudzulanso, kachiwiri kuti azichita nawofunafuna chimwemwe chawo ...
Iye si ameneyo ...
Zifukwa zomwe anthu amakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri muukwati komanso wokondedwa ndizosiyana kwambiri. Chosavuta (ndi, tsoka, kufalikira) ndizowona kuti mwanayo akuyenera kukhala "munthu" yemwe amamvetsa kuchokera ku theka la mawu, adzachita zomwe amakonda chifukwa chakuti amamukonda. Ndipo ambiri, motsogozedwa ndi nthano ya banja loyenera, samawona zenizeni. Ndiponso chifukwa kuyambira ubwana panali zokhumudwitsa zambiri - amayi ndi abambo, omwe sanali abwino, - akuyang'ana munthu uyu. Poyesa nthano za "halves", akuyenda kuzungulira dziko lapansi, vutoli lakhala likuvutitsidwa ndi anthu kwazaka zambirimbiri!
Chomwecho "chisokonezo" chikhoza kuwonedwa mwa amuna. Zikuwoneka kuti amamukonda - komanso ngati wophika, komanso ngati mkazi ... koma chinachake "cholakwika", banja loyenera silinagwire ntchito. Ndipo mwina kuyang'ana "chimodzimodzi", kapena kumayamba kusintha yekhayo pansi pa zosaoneka bwino. Pano mukufunika kusonyeza khalidwe ndi osadzitetezera nokha, koma monga otsiriza - kuthandiza wothandizira wanu kukula pang'ono ...
Abambo ndi ana
Chifukwa china chofunikira cha "imfa" ya banja latsopano ndi kufotokozera kwapakati pa ubale wa banja "lakale": cavils, mpikisano, mantha kuti iye (iye) adzasokoneza ntchito, zosiyana za chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. Ngakhale nthawi zina si nkhani yodana ndi mabanja a makolo chifukwa apongozi awo ndi apongozi anu. "Ana" ambiri amakwatirana ndi kukwatiwa, amakhalabe "ana" ndi "ana" osatha, kotero kuti banja lawo limakhala lopulumutsidwa, "kuchoka mwadzidzidzi", ndipo kuwonjezeka kulikonse kumene akulamulidwa kumawoneka ngati ukapolo. Pakapita nthawi, kumabwera kumvetsetsa kuti banja lawo silinagwire ntchito, kapena kuti amachoka ku phwando losatha "pomwe makolo awo ali ku dacha."
Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti awiri akulota kuti agwirizane mu banja limodzi, kumverera kusakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino: kuyang'ana pa awiri awiriwa, zikuwoneka kuti ana awiri a zaka khumi adaganiza kuti palimodzi adzawoneka ngati mwamuna wazaka makumi awiri akuwoneka wopusa. Chisangalalo chamakono chokhudzana ndi kugonana ("njira 112 kuti apange kumwamba") chimatembenuzidwanso anthu, kapena m'malo mwake, osati mitu yawo. Powona momwe wina yemwe ali ndi vutoli akulowetsa zilakolako zatsopano, zowawa, ndikukukumbutsani kuti palibe chilichonse pansi pano.
Banja m'banja
Udindo wa okwatirana m'banja ungakhale wosiyana, mwachitsanzo, kuchokera kwa "amayi ake" kupita ku "mwana wamkazi wa bambo", komanso mosemphana ndi chisokonezo komanso kusowa luso lofunsira zomwe wokondedwa wake akufuna, kuyesa kupeza banja latsopano popanda kuthetsa mavuto a makhalidwe abwino akale akhale mayeso aakulu kwa onse. Wokwatirana sangakhale "bambo wobereka", osagwirizana ndi atate wake. Wonjezerani apa kusakaniza kwa abambo ndi abambo ndi abambo omwe ali ndi abambo, komanso nthawi zina kuchokera ku banja lachiwiri, lachitatu, mulu wa alongo, abale ndi onse omwe maudindo awo anasintha nthawi ndi nthawi, ndi kuwonjezera zithunzi za ana anu za makolo anu owuziridwa ndi mabuku, nkhani ndi mafilimu. Ndipo tsopano yesani kusiyanitsa zithunzi zachikazi ndi zachikazi, pezani maudindo a anthu onse omwe anakuchititsani inu m'mibadwo yosiyana, kwezani mlingo woyandikana nawo ndikuyesera potsiriza kumanga ubale wanu, kotero iwo (mosiyana ndi onse omwe atchulidwawo) adzakhaladi enieni, opanda ufulu wa anthu ena! Sichoncho?
"Ife" ndi "Ine"
Mu Asilavo, osati Akumadzulo, miyambo, zizindikiro za chiyero, zomwe zinaperekedwa ku chikhazikitso chaukwati, zidakali zolimba. Kufikira tsopano anthu amapita pansi pa nkhono ndipo amazunzika kwambiri "ukwati wakumwamba" chifukwa cha "mulungu wa wopatsidwa". Miyambo ya mwambo umenewu ikhoza kuwonetseredwa mwambo wakale - kupita ku imfa pambuyo pa mwamuna wakufa kapena "kupasuka" mwa wokondedwayo, osakhala ndi ufulu wodziimira.
Kumadzulo, ndipo tsopano mbali zina za chikhalidwe chathu, potsata chipembedzo cha "ife", munthu aliyense anali kuyesa kuthawa. Kukhumudwa, mosakayikira kulipo mwa anthu awiri okha, ngakhale akukonzekera chakudya, ndipo amatsogolera ana ku paki pamapeto a sabata, kumatsogolera ku kugwa kwa boti lachikondi osati konse za moyo.
Pamene anthu awiri amabwera kusiyana pakati pa "ife" -mabanja ndi "awiri-i" -mabanja, nthawi zambiri amadzifunsa: nanga mumatani - mutaya nokha kapena kukhala "oyandikana nawo ku khitchini"? Kumbukirani kuti mu maubwenzi aumunthu, chiwerengero cha 1 + 1 sichipereka zotsatira zofanana monga masamu, osati "awiri", koma "khumi ndi chimodzi", ndipo palibe "zigawo" zomwe zimatayika kwambiri. Zomwe zimatsalira kwa wina kwa zaka zambiri ...