M'banjamo, mwinamwake, patapita nthawi yaitali, maganizo a tsiku ndi tsiku ndi a Philhiline amayamba. Okwatirana amayamba kulumikizana wina ndi mzake, monga menejala kwa abwana, monga katswiri wamaganizo ndi wodwala, ndi zina zotero. Pali mtundu wina wosamvetsetsana, mtima wa theka, chiwonongeko chosawoneka chimapangidwa. Ngakhale zimayambitsa chisudzulo ndizosiyana kwa anthu onse, anthu ambiri amafuna kuti zinthu ziziwayendera bwino, kukhala odziimira okhaokha, kupita ku maphunziro osiyanasiyana, koma zonsezi ndizokhaokha. Choncho, okwatirana ayenera kuchotsa zolinga zawo mmoyo wawo, chifukwa banja limatanthauza kuchita zinthu mobwerezabwereza. N'kofunikanso kusiya zonse zomwe zimangowonjezera ndikuyambitsa zolakwika. Zifukwa zothetsera chiyanjano zingakhale zingapo, tidzakambirana zina mwazo.
Banja la bajeti kapena ndalama . Ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zothetsera banja. Ziwerengero zimasonyeza kuti ngati malipiro a okwatirana ali pamwamba payeso, chiopsezo cha chifukwa cha kusudzulana chachepetsedwa ndi 30%. Pamene pali mwana m'banja, ndipo ndalama za banja ngatizo ndi zapamwamba, chiopsezo cha kusudzulana chacheperetsedwa ndi 24%. Chifukwa chake, chifukwa cha maukwati oterewa okhudzana ndi akazi (pambuyo pa zaka 30) akuwonekera momveka bwino, amangowonjezeranso okha kuti sakuwoneka chifukwa chosafunidwa m'banja. Koma kugonana kolimba kumakhala ndi mantha ake pokhudzana ndi kugonana, pambuyo pa ubale wolephera, iwo amasiya chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi mkazi. Amuna ambiri nthawi zambiri amangokhalabe osunga moyo wawo wonse.
Zosiyana zosiyana za chipembedzo . Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro osiyana a chipembedzo sagwirizana konse, koma ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti pali kuthekera kwakukulu kosudzulana m'banja. Mwamuna wabwino akhoza kukhala ndendende munthu yemwe ali ndi chipembedzo chomwecho, chikhalidwe chake, chikhalidwe chake monga mkazi wake. Ziwerengero zimapereka chidziwitso chotere kuti anthu omwe ali ofanana mudziko ndi maphunziro, komanso mu chuma, salekana kwambiri. Zipembedzo zambiri sizilimbana ndi vuto la kusudzulana, kotero zimapereka chifukwa choteteza ubale wa banja ndikupewa kusudzulana. Anthu omwe ali ndi mafuko osiyanasiyana omwe adasankha kulenga banja mwa kuwerengera amakhala oposa omwe akukwatirana chifukwa cha chikondi. Malinga ndi ziwerengero, mabanja omwe akhala pamodzi zaka zisanu, mwayi wothetsera ndi 10%, ndipo mabanja ndi chikondi - 50%.
Kulephera kulamulira . Amuna ambiri, komanso akazi ambiri, amalephera kulamulira dziko lozungulira iwo, kusiya kulemba moyo wawo, zofuna zawo ndi misonkhano ndi abwenzi. Atsikana, oopa kukhala atsikana achikulire, kuthamangira kukwatirana nthawi zina, panthawi yomweyi amuna - chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe zimakhalapo komanso ngongole yopangidwa ndi anthu. Pankhaniyi, kuti asapewe chifukwa cha kusudzulana, mkazi ayenera kutenga chirichonse m'manja mwake, kuti, kusonyeza kulekerera, kukhazikika maganizo, kukhala ndi chikhalidwe, ayenera kukhala ndi chikhumbo chokhazikitsa mgwirizano wodalirika.
Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu a utumiki . Malingaliro a katswiri wa zamaganizo wodziwika bwino, akutsatira kuti munthu angathe kudziwa mosavuta kukula kwa ukwati. Mukamagwiritsa ntchito mawu ovomerezeka, kutalika kwa moyo wa banja kumachepetsedwa. Kulankhula kolakwika kungakhale chimodzi mwa zifukwa zothetsera banja. Mawu awa akhoza kuphatikiza mgwirizano, ndi particles, ndi prepositions, ndi nkhani. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti pali kugwirizana pakati pa kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa mau a boma ndi chisudzulo. Amuna omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oterowo anatsimikizira kuti ubalewu unasweka mkati mwa miyezi itatu. Chinthu ichi chikugwirizana ndi kufotokoza kudalira kwa zinenero.
Kusinthasintha kaŵirikaŵiri. Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo ndi katswiri wa masamu watenga njira yeniyeni imene munthu angadziwire kuti moyo wa mgwirizano wa banja ukhalitsa. Chitsanzo chinalengedwa chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano pakati pa awiriwa, zomwe zimapereka umboni wolondola wa pafupifupi 95%. Mabanja ambiri ndi okondwa angatchedwe anthu omwe panthawi ya mkanganowo akhoza kuseka ndi kuseka. Ndipo maanja omwe adachita mosiyana, omwe adakwiya kwambiri ndi mawu aliwonse, pamene adakhumudwa kwambiri ndikugwiritsidwa ntchito monyinyirika, adatha kuthetsa banja.
Chifukwa chake chiri mu majini . Pali lingaliro lakuti khalidwe loipa ndi losakonda zizoloŵezi mwa anthu likhoza kugwirizana ndi maonekedwe awo, ndi chiyambi cha jini la ana. Malingaliro ambiri a asayansi omwe amayesa kuyesera kwa abulu (mbadwa zotheka za anthu), zizolowezi zomwe sizilandiridwa ndi anthu zimachokera kwa mbadwa zakale. Malinga ndi zochitika zoterezi zinavumbulutsidwa kuti mwamuna yekha ndi amene adapulumuka, amene sanawope kuchita ngozi. Mphamvu ndi luso lomwe adali nalo panthawi yomwe adayendetsa. Ngakhale zikhalidwe zina za khalidwe ndi khalidwe zimangoperekedwa kwa ife ndi cholowa. Koma nanga bwanji ngati makhalidwe oterewa amalepheretsa moyo wamunthu kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zothetsera banja? Ndiye ndi bwino kuyesa kuchotsa kapena kuchepetsa mphamvu zawo kuti asunge ubale wabwino. Osati bwino, makhalidwe ngati amenewa akhoza kudziwonetsera okha mwa amayi ndi abambo. Mukungoyenera kupeza njira yopulumukira, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, mphamvu zowononga.
Kuperekedwa kwa mmodzi mwa okwatirana . Amuna amakhulupirira kuti kusamvera thupi sikungakhale chifukwa chachikulu chokhalira osudzulana. Iwo amangoziwona izo ngati chikwapu, kakang'ono kakang'ono, ndipo samawona chirichonse cholakwika ndi chiwembu. Ngakhale kuti izi sizikukhudzidwa ndi magawo awo onse, ndipo izi ndi maganizo a amuna omwewo. Mzimayi yemwe wasankha pazomwe amachitira chiwembu, amadziŵa kuti ndi wofunika bwanji. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, popanda kukhudzidwa, sangachite bwino kukondana. Ndipo akazi, ndi pafupifupi onse, sangathe kukhalanso pazigawo ziwiri.
Mwachibadwa, zifukwa zosudzulana m'banja zingakhale zovuta, osati kwenikweni zomwe zidzatchulidwa pamwambapa, chifukwa banja lililonse liri lokha. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokumvetsa nthawiyi ndikuchichotsa.