Kodi ndingatani kuti mwamuna wanga ayambe kuphika? Mwinamwake, ndiwe amene mumaphika banja lonse. Ngakhale mukufuna kukophika, mukufunikirabe kugawa ntchitoyi theka. Amuna ndi okonzeka kuphika, mumangoyenera kuwafotokozera. Motani? Yambani ndi pempho kuti mupange sandwich wamba. Pamene mudya, tamandani taluso la mwamuna wanu ndipo munene kuti simunadyepo sangweji yokoma kwambiri m'moyo wanu! Mu masiku angapo, funsani kuti aziphika mazira odzudzulidwa m'mawa - ndithudi adzapirira nawo. Tamandani dzira lophwanyika sabata yotsatira - onani, ilo lidzakhala mbale yake ya korona. Kuchita motere, pang'onopang'ono mudzafika poti wokondedwa wanu apeze talente yophikira. Njira iyi yowonjezera kudzidalira imachokera pa mfundo yakuti anthu amatamandidwa tsiku ndi tsiku. Palibe chimene chikutilimbikitsa kuchita kanthu mochepa, monga chidaliro chakuti tikuchita bwino komanso kuti palibe amene angatichite bwino koposa ifeyo. Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji kuyeretsa? Ndithudi munthu wanu kumayambiriro kwa moyo pamodzi anathyola vase, akupukuta fumbi, kuti mukhale otsimikiza kuti sayenera kuloledwa kuyeretsedwa. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, inuyo nokha muzichita mofulumira komanso bwino. Kuti musinthe zinthu zopanda chilungamo, muyenera kuleza mtima. Musati mudandaule ndipo musadandaule kuti mu mabanja ena chirichonse chiri chosiyana. Pewani kuyeretsa m'nyumba. Ndithudi inu mwamuzoloŵera iye kuti azikonzekera mnyumbamo, ndipo tsopano iye adzakhumudwa modabwitsa ndi chisokonezocho. Kenaka mumuuzeni kuti mwinamwake munayambira phulusa, chifukwa pamene mutuluka, mumadwala msanga. Mufunseni kuti akuyeretseni nyumba. Tsekani maso anu ku vase losweka, koma tamandani bwino lomwe mwamuna wanu anachita zonse.
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Ngati mukuwopa kuti simungathe kugwiritsa ntchito njira zing'onozing'ono panthawi imodzi, yesani ndi anzanu. M'bukuli muthandizidwa ndi mabuku odziwika bwino okhudza njira zogwiritsira ntchito: Robert Chapdini "Psychology of Influence" ndi "Momwe Mungakhudzire Anthu" ndi Dale Carnegie. Khalidwe limeneli ndilo lamulo la mkazi wofooka. Amuna amakonda kukhala othandiza ndipo kawirikawiri amachita zomwe tikuwapempha kuti achite. Pano pano tili ndi vuto ili - sitidziwa kufunsa, timakonda kuchita zonse zomwe ife eni. Ndipo ichi ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu. Pambuyo popempha munthu wanu kuti awoneke, mumamuuza kuti mumamufuna. Amuna ngati kumverera uku kwambiri. Kujambula ndi kufunsa mofatsa, mu mau otsika ndikukudziwitsani kuti ndinu ofooka bwanji. Zikhulupirirani, zimagwira ntchito! Kodi mungamulimbikitse bwanji kuti adzuke pa bedi pamapeto a sabata ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito momwe mukufunira? Patsiku lotentha, mungakhale okondwa kuyenda. Amakonzeranso kugona pabedi Loweruka. Kodi mungamukankhire bwanji kunja kwake? Nayi njirayi: umupatse ngati njira ina yoyendamo chinthu chomwe sichimuchititsa kukhala wokondwa. Mwachitsanzo, anene kuti anaitana Amayi kuti amuchezere Loweruka kapena kuti ndizofunikira kuthetsa mezzanine. Pankhani ya malingaliro oterowo, malingaliro ena onse adzawoneka okongola. Mumupatse nthawi kuti "ayambe kuchita mantha", ndipo podutsa, nenani kuti, ndithudi, ndi bwino kuchoka panyumba padzuwa, kusiyana ndi kuvuta m'makoma anayi. Iye ndithudi amameza ndowe ndipo iye akuthamangira kukankha mawilo pamabasi. Imeneyi ndi njira yowonjezera kwambiri kuposa chiwonongeko ndi muyeso wotsutsa "sitinayambe", "nthawizonse". N'chifukwa chiyani mukufunikira kumenya nkhondo? Kusiyana kochepa mu ubale, kuli bwino. Momwe mungapangire izo, pomaliza, kukonza matepi? Ngati mwamuna wanu alibe manja a golidi, ndi lingaliro lakuti chilichonse chozungulira nyumba chikhoza kuchitidwa popanda ambuye akuwoneka ngati wonyenga, muli ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha - kumunyengerera. Tiyenera kupeza njira yoti mwamuna atenge nyundo ndi kumanga msomali, yomwe mwamufunsa kwa mwezi umodzi. Musati musokoneze maganizo anu ndi vuto linalake. Kugwiritsira ntchito bwino mfundo ya mpikisano, yomwe imatchedwanso mfundo yowonongeka. Palibe munthu amene angathe kupirira pambali pake pali wina wabwino kuposa iye, yemwe amadziwa zambiri komanso amadziwa momwe angakhalire.
Kodi izi zimagwira ntchito bwanji? Uzani mwamuna wanu kuti mwangomumana ndi mnzako yemwe adalonjeza kuti abwera usikuuno ndikuyendetsa msomali. Kapena mu gulu la anzanu mufunse za izi kuchokera kwa munthu amene mumamudziwa. Pazochitika zonsezi, madzulo vuto lidzathetsedwa: mwamuna adzichita yekha. Mfundo imeneyi imagwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Koma sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito poyerekeza mwamuna ndi ena. Mfundo sikuti amunyozetse, koma kuti apange mpikisano wathanzi. Ndipo chinthu china chowonjezera: tamandani mwamuna wanu pa chirichonse, ngakhale chinthu chosafunika kwenikweni. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti iye amenya msomali mokhotakhota. Kodi mungamuthandize bwanji kusunga mawu ake? Munavomereza kuti mwamuna wanu adzaitana madzulo ndikuuzeni nthawi yomwe adzabwerere kunyumba. Inu mukufuna kudziwa, chifukwa inu mumaphika chakudya. Koma sakuitana ndipo sabwerera. Inu mumaika chakudya mu furiji ndipo, pokwiya, pitani kukagona. Tsiku lotsatira mumamuchititsa manyazi, ndipo amatetezedwa ndi choonadi ndi zopanda pake, akunena kuti adzipereka yekha kwa banja, kugwira ntchito mpaka usiku. Bwanji simunayitane? Ndinayiwala, panalibe intaneti, mkulu anali atakhala pafupi ndi ine, pangakhale zifukwa zambiri. Koma iwo amatanthauza chinthu chimodzi: iye samayamikira kuyesetsa kwanu. Kodi mungachite bwanji ndi izi? Gwiritsani ntchito mfundo yolingana, ndiko kuti, "monga iwe kwa ine, ndikutero kwa iwe." M'masabata angapo otsatira, musaphike chakudya chamadzulo. Ndipo patatha masiku angapo, konzekerani kukakumana naye pambuyo pa ntchito ndikuchedwa mochedwa kwa ola limodzi. Inde, iye adzakuchititsani manyazi. Kotero chiyani? Gwiritsani ntchito zifukwa zake!
Inu simukudziwa momwe mukufuna kapena simukufuna kuchita izi, chifukwa zikuwoneka kuti ndizosafunikira kwa inu? Pachifukwa ichi, khalani okonzeka kuphulika kwake kosatha. Iye adzakuchitirani inu ngati munthu yemwe nthawizonse amadikirira ndi kulekerera chirichonse. Koma simukufuna kumverera ngati wodwala. Mfundo yofanana idzamupatsa mpata woti amve ngati iwe uli pa nthawi imene sakusunga lonjezo. Iye sangachite izo kenanso, koma iwe uziumiriza pa izo. Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji kuyitana nthawi zambiri akachoka kunyumba kwa nthawi yaitali? Mwamuna wanu ali paulendo. Iye analonjeza kuti iye adzaitana, ndipo inu nonse mukudikirira foni, koma mopanda pake. Iye samangokhala masiku, ndipo mafoni ake achoka. Mukuda nkhawa ngati chinachake chinachitika. Mwamuna wake akuitana tsiku lotsatira, kudabwa kuti muli ndi nkhawa. Izi zikukukwiyitsani. Nthawi yotsatira akamachoka, musayembekezere kuitana kwake ndipo musayankhe foni akamayitana. Bwerani kokha kachinayi, ndikudabwa chifukwa chake anali ndi nkhawa. Ndiuzeni kuti muli ndi zinthu zambiri zoti muchite ndipo munaiwalapo. Zidzakhala zokwanira kuti azitchula nthawi zambiri. Chifukwa chiyani? Choyamba, mfundo yoyendetsera zachilengedwe ikugwira ntchito pano. Pamene mwamunayo akutsimikiza kuti mukudikirira kuyitana kwake, adzalandira nthawi. Ngati ataya chikhulupiriro, adzalankhula mwamsanga, atangozindikira kuti wasiya kudikirira. Mmalo modandaula, gwiritsani ntchito nthawi kuti muzisamalira nokha. Lolani ilo likhale mutu wake, momwe inu mumasangalalira. Kodi mungayambe bwanji kuchepetsa thupi ndikudziyang'anira nokha? Amuna sakhala ochepa, amadzitengera okha - mosiyana ndi ife, samasokoneza mimba. Ndipo kutsutsana kuti ndi kovulaza thanzi, kunenepa kwambiri kungayambitse matenda a shuga, kuthamanga kwa magazi, ndi kusowa mphamvu, mwamunayo samaganizira mozama. Chochita, ngati chakudya chamadzulo amadya zidutswa zinayi, kenako amagona pa sofa? Muuzeni za mnzako kuchokera kuntchito yomwe yataya kulemera kwake ndipo tsopano ikuwoneka wokongola kwambiri. Gwiritsiraninso ntchito mfundo yakugwedeza, ndiko kuti, kuwonjezera mtengo wanu m'maso mwake. Motani? Tsiku lotsatira, tavalidwe bwino kwambiri kuposa nthawi zonse, ndipo madzulo, kambiranani za zochitika zozizwitsa zokhudza inu ndi mnzanu. Muuzeni kuti mumakonda anthu ena! Podziwa izi, adzataya mwamsanga.
Ngati mukufuna kuti izi zichitike, mukuganiza. Mukukonzekera kupita kutchuthi ndi abwenzi, koma mwamuna wake ali ndi zifukwa chikwi zokana. Kodi mungamulimbikitse bwanji? Gwiritsani ntchito mfundo ya kugwirizana - pa zokambirana zimakhala ngati iye. Ingokhala, ingogwirani manja anu, chitani manja ofanana. Mkhalidwe uwu, interlocutor amayamba kukhulupirira kuti pamaso pake pali munthu amene amaganiza ngati iye. Ndibwino kuti mutakhala pafupi ndi sofa - ndiye mtunda pakati pa inu udzakhala wocheperapo ngati mutakhala moyang'anizana pa tebulo. Pakukambirana, khalani ndi phewa paphewa, mugwirane manja ndikuyang'anitsitsa. Gwiritsani ntchito mawuwa: "Ndikukumvetsetsani bwino," "Ndimagwirizana nanu," "Ndikuganiza mofanana ndi inu", kenaka yesani kuwonjezera "koma ..." ndikupatsani zifukwa zanu. Kukambirana koteroko kumathera ndi chigonjetso chanu!