Chinthu chodabwitsa - chikhumbo chachikulu cha British kuti athetse mu sabata yoyamba pambuyo pa maholide a Khirisimasi ndi Chaka Chatsopano - kwa zaka zambiri, akatswiri anaphunzira bungwe la boma la Britain "Thandizani banja." Zowonongeka ndi kafukufuku zinawonetsa kuti kutha kwa banja ndizomwe zimayambitsa kuthetsa maubwenzi ngati kale anaphwanyidwa (mu 90%) ndipo amangoipira, ngakhale kuti zonse zinali zabwino kale (mu 50%). Ku Ulaya, maphunzirowa sanachitidwe, koma akatswiri a maganizo, ogwira nawo ntchito, komanso anthu wamba omwe amakhala m'nyumba zomwe alibe phokoso lodzipatula amadziwa kuti nthawi zambiri maholide, nthawi zambiri amakangana komanso amakangana. Ndipo chimodzi mwa zikuluzikulu "zolakwa" za mkhalidwewu ndizodabwitsa kwambiri, anthu apamtima - achibale ndi abwenzi, osati wokondedwa, koma awo okha. Ndiponsotu, kuti mupitirize kudya chakudya chamadzulo, kuyendetsa chakudya chamadzulo, kuyendayenda ndi mabanja onse ku chilengedwe, kuthamangitsidwa kwa agogo ndi azimayi omwe amakhumudwa kwambiri chifukwa chosakhalapo kwanu, komanso kumakhala kwa mlungu kwa abwenzi anu, muyenera kukhala ndi mitsempha yachitsulo ndi wokondedwa zowawa zakukhumudwa.
Ma bonasi asanu
Ngati kulankhulana kuli kovuta kapena sikokusangalatsa, ndiye kuti ulendo wa alendo kapena kulandira alendo ukukhala ntchito yaikulu. Komabe, pali zifukwa zokhala nawo ntchito zovomerezeka za pulogalamu. Ngakhale mutadziwa zochitika zonse za misonkhano, mukhoza kuthera nthawi yambiri ndi inu nokha, simukukonda ena omwe alipo.
1. Miyambo ndi chinthu chabwino. "Lamlungu lirilonse loyamba la chaka timasonkhana ndi agogo anga ndikudya pie malinga ndi njira yake" - zimangowoneka zosangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa. Ndipotu, ndizochitika zosalekeza, zosasintha zomwe zimatithandiza kuti tikhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso la thanzi lathu. Amatipatsa chidaliro mwa ife pa msinkhu wosadziwika, kukhala wogwirizana mu dziko ndi moyo.
2. Kulumikizana ndi okalamba kumalimbitsa ukwati. Ndipo izi ndizomwezi, tebulo, pamene zovuta zotsutsana sizidziwika ndipo zokhazovomerezeka zokha zimakambirana. Zimalimbikitsa mgwirizano wa uzimu pakati pa mibadwo ndi maganizo okhudza ubwino wa banja lonse.
3. Misonkhano ndi abwenzi ndi "zopereka" za chikhalidwe. Kuwonjezera apo, chofunika kwambiri. "Munamuthandiza mnzanu - mobwerezabwereza amalandira chikhumbo chake chofuna kuthandiza. Bwerani ndikuwonekere kumapeto kwake kwa sabata - adzasangalala kukupulumutsani kukhumudwa. Ayi, ndithudi, palibe amene amaganizira chilichonse ndipo salemba chilichonse. Ubwenzi wongowokha umatanthauza kuyankha nthawi zonse, kusinthana ndi kubwereza.
4. Maholide - chifukwa chokonzekera ubale. Pa zokambirana zambiri pa tebulo lamasewera zimakhala zosavuta kupita patsogolo pamtundu umodzi wa mawu amodzi. Ndiyeno mmodzi winanso ...
5. Ubale ndi achibale ndi abwenzi ndi chitsanzo kwa ana. Adzakhala ngati inu, kukhala mabwenzi, monga iwo, kumudziwa, kukangana ndi kukhululukira, kumayambiriro posintha maganizo athu kwa anthu ndi dziko lonse ndi kulitenga kukhala lokhalo loona.
Sizovuta kwambiri
Sindifuna kupita, koma sindingakane. Kodi mungapirire bwanji zosangalatsazo? Khalani, kukwaniritsa banja lanu komanso ntchito zanu, kuyang'ana nthawi nthawi zonse ndikuwonetsa mawonekedwe anu, ndizoipa bwanji pano? Ayi ndithu! Ngati munavomereza ndikubwera, mutengere nthawi yothandiza. Kapena zosangalatsa. Kapena zosangalatsa kwenikweni.
Timapita kukaona aakazi, agogo ndi agogo ake.
Patsikuli ndi akuluakulu nthawi zambiri amapita monga izi . Choyamba ndikofunikira kunena: monga ntchito, monga ana, monga thanzi. Kenaka yesetsani chakudya chonse, chifukwa agogo anga adayesetsa kwambiri, ndikulimbana ndikumva kutopa kwambiri ndikuganiza zomwe munganene. Ndipo okalamba kwambiri, ovuta kwambiri, ngakhale kuti ndi anthu otani komanso okoma. Ndili ndi msinkhu, anthu amakhala ndi maganizo ochepa, otsika, komanso popeza pali kusinthasintha kwamphamvu kwa kulankhulana, mosakayikira mumasiya gawo lanu. Choncho kutopa.
Gwiritsani ntchito zoipa
Kumbukirani zochitika zonse zoopsa kwambiri za maholide a mtundu wotere mndandanda uwu. Kodi mumamvetsera bwanji nkhani yopanda malire: "Pano ife tiri a msinkhu wanu", pamene mudaphwanya vese wokondedwa wanu atangomva mawu a mwamuna wake: "Lena amakonda zinthu zokongola", monga tate adakugwiritsani ntchito nthawi yaitali. Kodi ndi chifukwa chotani? Kuti ulendo wobwerako ukuwonekera kwa inu mutatha kusangalala kwambiri. Choipitsitsa kuposa icho, sichingakhale chokha.
Ndimakondwera, nanunso. Ndipo fufuzani chimodzi chophatikizapo pazokambirana. Lolani kuti likhale lachinyengo ngati pate wamkulu wa pate, omwe mumakonda kwambiri, koma iwo okha, iwo sanachitepo, iwo amayenera kumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri komanso kuphika.
Perekani chisamaliro cha banja. Palibe chimene chidzawonjezera mphamvu, monga njira yothetsera mavuto abwino. Lengezani kuti mwasankha kupanga banja, ndipo mukufuna kudziwa zolondola za zochitika za chaka chino. Zolingalira zofanana, nkhani ndi zifukwa zidzakupatsani mphamvu yowonjezera, zidzakweza maganizo, zidzawathandiza kukhala osangalala. Zomwe banja limakumbukira zimakhala zosiyana ndi oimira achinyamata a mbadwo wosiyana, koma komanso zabwino: amachotsa nkhaŵa ndikuthandizira kukhala otsimikiza.
Pulogalamuyi ndi kampani yaikulu (inde ngakhale ndi ana) . Zidzakhala zowawa kwambiri. Ana amayamba kutsutsana pa mphatso, ndiye chifukwa cha ndani, malo okhala, ndiye kuti amawononga tchuthi kwathunthu. Ndipo ngati kampaniyo imasankha wina wosadziwika?
Bwerani kale "tipsy". Mwachidziwitso, mwachisangalalo chabwino, ngakhale ngati sichikugwirizana mwachindunji ndi chochitikacho. Pangani tsiku lotsatira zomwe zingakukakamizeni ndi chisangalalo chosangalatsa (kugula zovala zapamwamba, fufuzani pa malo ochezera a atsikana achikulire, mumakhala ndi munthu wopenga usiku). Chinthu chachikulu chomwe mumamva bwino. Ndiye phwando lidzakhala losangalatsa kwambiri. Ndipotu, osati zochitika zokha zomwe zimasintha maganizo athu. Palinso ndemanga.
Konzani zosangalatsa ndi ora. Inde, ino ndi nthawi yowonongeka komanso yokongola. Koma pa phwando lokha, simusowa kuti muwatsimikizire anawo ndi kuyambitsa popita, zomwe mungachite nawo.
Konzani zosokoneza. Miyeso (ngakhale ngati yophweka, kuchokera ku zipangizo zosakonzedwera ndi zinthu zakale) idzasintha tchuthi kwabwinoko: kubweretsa mkhalidwe wowala ndi kuwonjezera kwambiri zosankha za zosangalatsa. Ndipo ana, ngati muli ndi suti, zidzakhala zosavuta kufotokoza chifukwa chake amalume ndi azakhali ena amachita zinthu zodabwitsa kwambiri.
Gwira manja. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu muli bwalo lomwe silili pafupi ndi inu, musachoke. Zomwe zikuzungulira sizidzasamala, koma ubale wanu udzakhala wotentha: Mudzakhala pachibwenzi ndikudzizindikira nokha ngati "ife".
Gawo la nthawi. Njira ina - musayandikire wina ndi mnzake. Kulankhulana ndi ena, kutenga nawo mbali mu zosangalatsa zambiri komanso nthawi yomweyo kuyankhula ndi mnzanuyo maso anu. Zidzakhala zokondweretsa komanso zosangalatsa (pambuyo pake, masewera), chidziwitso (kuwoneka kotheka ndi kwakukulu kwambiri) ndi kukongola. Madzulo sudzapita pachabe, ndipo pambuyo pake mudzakhala ndi chinachake chokambirana ndi choti muchite.
Zotsalira pa tchuthi
Ambiri aife sitingathe kuimirira mwambo wachisangalalo. Ndicho chimene muyenera kuziganizira kuti muteteze zotsatira zoipa. Musalole kuti chilichonse chiwononge zosangalatsa!
Kukhumudwa ndi kusamvana
Munthu aliyense ali ndi malo ake enieni-malo omwe amadzizungulira okha, momwe timaloleza anthu oyandikana nawo okha, ndipo nthawi zina timafuna kuti akhalebe mfulu. Kulowerera m'madera amenewa kwa anthu akunja kumapangitsa kuti munthu asamangokhalira kumangokhalira kuganiza bwino. Ngati "zowonongeka" pang'ono, ndiye kuti kukwiya sikukhala kwakukulu kwambiri. Ndipo ngati anthu omwe ali m'dera lanu ali "kupondaponda" masiku angapo tsopano?
Kusagwirizana "Pamene abwenzi anu kapena makolo anu abwera, ndinu munthu wosiyana!" - Aliyense wa ife akhoza kunena mawu amenewa. Timayesetsa kuchita zinthu mosiyana tikamalankhulana maso ndi maso ndi mnzanuyo komanso tikamalowa m'kati mwake. Kawirikawiri, khalidwe silikusintha kwa munthu yemwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi ife, ngakhale ngati timapereka chidwi kwa anthu ena.
Kupanikizika ndi kumverera kwa kutopa kwakukulu
Maholide amasintha boma lathu. Ndipo kukakamizika kupita ku zochitika zosiyanasiyana kumangowonjezera nkhawa. Chotsatira chake, thupi limagwiritsa ntchito zochuluka zake, ndipo patangotha sabata lathu timamva kuti tilibe mphamvu. N'zosadabwitsa kuti poyankha pempho lina, muli ndi chikhumbo chongotumiza makadi omvera, zikomo ndi kufotokoza kwa achibale ndi abwenzi onse omwe simungavomereze kapena kuwachezera. Muli ndi ufulu wokana! Kulumikizana kuyankhulana kumasonyeza kuti matendawa amatha kukhumudwa. "Mankhwala" ochokera kwa iye - zosangalatsa, amatha yekha kapena m'mbali yopapatiza.