Chotsatira cha ubale wathanzi, wogwirizana ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, chiri, ndithudi, chikondi, monga nkhani. Chachiwiri, kumvetsetsa, kulemekezana. Kuwonjezera apo mndandanda wochokera ku malingaliro ofananawo ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya. Ndikufuna kukhala mwatsatanetsatane pa chiyanjano ichi, monga kuyankhulana.
Pano pali mphamvu yaikulu. Zambiri zomwe tingathe kulankhulana, zimadalira zambiri. Kuti athe kukambirana, kambiranani mafunso ovuta popanda kuwopseza mnzanu kapena kuwononga kugonana ndi luso labwino kuti mkazi aliyense yemwe akuyesetsa kuti akhale mwamtendere m'banja ayenera kumvetsa. Muyenera kukhala okhoza kusiyanitsa wamkulu ndi wachiwiri, kuyankhula za chinthu chofunika chomwe chimakudetsani nkhawa. Kuti muthe kukambirana bwino, muyenera kuyamba kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnzanu mu chinenero chimodzi.
Kumbukirani chiyambi cha ubale wanu, pamene simungathe kulankhulana wina ndi mzake usana ndi usiku. Aliyense amene amadziwa chimwemwe choterocho mu chiyanjano chomwe chiri chiyambi chabe, amamvetsa zomwe ziri pangozi.
Ndikofunika kuti mutha kusunga chilakolako chimenechi komanso kufunika kokambirana nthawi zonse. Zoona, kumayambiriro, pa siteji ya chidziwitso cholimbikitsana wina ndi mzake, kukambirana kuli kosangalatsa ndi kofunika. Okonda kwenikweni amatenga zambiri zokhudza wina ndi mzake. Pambuyo pake, pamene banjali litasunthira ku chiyanjano chotsatira, mutu wa zokambirana umakhala weniyeni, mitu yambiri imachepetsedwa. Apa ndikofunika kusonyeza nzeru ndi nzeru. Kuti mu ubale wa banja panalibe "zovuta", nkofunika kuyesa kuti munthuyo - monga momwe wokondedwayo asanakondwere ndi chirichonse, zomwe akunena. Okonda nthawizonse ali ndi chinachake choti anene kwa wina ndi mzake, musangosungunula malowa ndi mndandanda wopanda pake wa zochitika zathu zapakhomo. Mkazi wamng'ono uyu, pokonzekera chakudya chamadzulo, amadziganizira, makamaka, heroine. Mwamuna samayamikira izo. Inde, ndipo samangomvetsa kuti apa paliwopamwamba kwambiri. Ambiri mwa iwo amakhulupirira mwaufulu kuti mayi ali kale kubadwa ndi cookbook mutu wake ndi manja ake-osintha monga mawonekedwe apanyumba. Ife sitidzawakhumudwitsa iwo powatsimikizira iwo. Mwachidule, ngakhale kuti n'zotheka kuti zinthu zizikuyenderani bwino.
Yankhulani zakumverera. Pambuyo pake, zosiyanasiyana zawo zosiyanasiyana, zomwe zimapitirira malire, ndimakonda - sindimakonda, ndimadana - ndimapembedza. Tsegulani dikishonaleyi, ndipo mudzakhala, mukudabwa kwambiri: chifukwa kumverera kulikonse kumatanthauza kutanthauzira mawu.
Ngakhale pali zokambirana za banja - chisangalalo cha mkazi, pafupifupi chitetezo. Ndiponsotu, kulimbana kulikonse kungathetsedwe pazu, kuletsa chitukuko ndi zotsatira zake. Ngati mukuphunzira kumanga pafupi, kudalira, kutsegula maubwenzi ndi mnzanu, ndiye musadandaule za chiyanjano chamkati. Ndipo, chifukwa chake, palibe chomwe chiwopseza chisangalalo cha amai muukwati.
Ndipotu, chisangalalo cha amai ndizokwatirana bwino, pamene maubwenzi m'banja sagwedezeka. Chikondi champhamvu chimapereka moyo watsopano. Ndipo zonsezi zimalumikizana, zimagwira ntchito popanda kusokoneza, monga njira yokonzedwa bwino.
Inde, chimwemwe mu maubwenzi sichikhala ndi zigawo ziwiri kapena zitatu. Uku ndi ntchito yaikulu, yamasiku ndi yovuta, yomwe imagwera makamaka pa mapewa aang'ono osalimba. Ndipo munthu wamphamvu wa phewa ayenera kumangotenga nthawi. Ntchito ndi yovuta, koma ikhoza kuyamikira, kubereka zipatso mwa chikondi, kumvetsetsa ndi kulemekeza.
Chomwecho, chisangalalo cha amai muukwati chimakhala ndi zigawo zosiyanasiyana: chikondi, chidaliro, kuleza mtima, kumvetsetsa, kulemekeza, kuwona mtima, kulankhula momveka bwino, kukhoza kumvetsera ndi kumva, kukhoza kukambirana. Chimwemwe chachikazi ndi chovuta kwambiri, koma ndi. Ndipo ali ndi ufulu wokhala m'banja lililonse. Ndipo ife okha, akazi, timadziwa zinsinsi zonse momwe tingasungire cholengedwa ichi chokhazikika mu ubale wa banja.