Ubwenzi wamphamvu sudzaphwanya,
Sichidzachotsa mvula ndi ziphuphu.
Mnzanu amene akusowa sadzasiya, sangapemphe chinthu chosasangalatsa,
Ndicho chimene mnzako woona wokhulupirika amatanthauza.
Mnzanu amene akusowa sadzasiya, sangapemphe chinthu chosasangalatsa,
Ndicho chimene mnzako woona wokhulupirika amatanthauza.
Mu moyo wathu, anthu onse amagwirizana, chifukwa cha kuwerengera kapena kungoti akwaniritsidwe mwauzimu. Nthawi zina zimakhutira mu uzimu chifukwa cholankhulana zimayambitsa ubwenzi. Ndipo chiyanjano chenicheni ndi kotani lero ? Ubwenzi wotani uyenera kukhala? Ndipo ndi ndani amene mukufuna kukhala mabwenzi?
Amzanga, bwenzi ndi anthu omwe samakukondani chifukwa chakuti muli ndi chinachake kapena ayi chifukwa ndinu munthu wabwino mumzindawu, anzanu amakukondani chifukwa chakuti muli. Inde, ndinu munthu wamkulu, koma m'mitima mwawo, ngati palibe ngakhale mumzinda. Ndi iwo omwe amabwera kwa inu kuti awathandize kapena ndi thandizo pamene mukusowa. Ndizo za inu zomwe zimakumbukiridwa nthawi zosangalatsa, ndipo akufuna kugawana nanu. Ndiwe bwenzi lake, ndipo iye ndi bwenzi lanu. Mukumuphonya pamene iye sali pafupi, ndipo nthawi ikafika pamsonkhano, mukuganiza "ndipo ndinamuphonya kwambiri?".
Ubwenzi - komanso chikondi, malingaliro amphamvu omwe amagwirizanitsa mitima. Masiku ano zimakhala zovuta kupeza mabwenzi, kapena zingakhale zophweka, tangokhala ndi zofunikira zambiri kwa mnzathu yemwe angakhale naye. Kapena maganizo athu ndi otanganidwa ndi zina zambiri. Ndipo mwina simukusowa kuyang'ana anzanu, iwo adzipeza okha pamene mukusowa thandizo la wina. Kumbukirani pamene mukufunikira thandizo la wina, ndani anakuthandizani? Ayi, musabweretse matumba ku nyumba, ndipo simunapereke thandizo lachuma, koma chinthu china chofunika kwambiri, chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Ndipo kodi iwe ungamutche iye bwenzi?
Thandizo la bwenzi siliyenera kukhala lofunika, liyenera kukhala lauzimu. Ndipotu, ubwenzi si chinthu chofunikira, koma kumverera. Zosowa zathu zakuthupi zothandiza ndizochepa chabe m'moyo, koma zimakhala ndi gawo lalikulu kwa ife, chifukwa timapereka chidwi kwambiri. Zosowa zakuthupi kapena zauzimu - ndizofunika kwambiri, ngati munthu ali ndi matenda ali ndiyekha, ndi dziko lake la pansi, ali pachisoni, ndiye kuti palibe chithandizo chamthupi kapena chithandizo chomwe chingakhale chothandiza.
Ubwenzi weniweni mwachidziwitso sungakhale ndi malamulo, abwenzi enieni amapanga malamulo awo pamakhalidwe awo, monga mbalame zimamanga chisa, tanthauzo lonse la chisa ndilo, kuti azikhala mmenemo ndi kukana mazira, kubala ana, koma momwe angagwiritsire ntchito tsamba kapena nthambi kapena mbalame imadzipereka yokha. Kotero ndi mabwenzi - anzanu okha amadziwa kuti n'zosatheka. Mwachibadwidwe, ubwenzi sayenera kungotengedwa, komanso kuperekedwa. Koma nthawizonse zimatenga zambiri kuposa zina. Kulemekezeka, kudzipereka, kudzipereka ndi mbali ya ubwenzi, osati malamulo.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinakumana ndi anthu ambiri, tinakhala okondana naye, tinkacheza kwa masiku ambiri, timapereka mphatso kwa wina ndi mzake pa maholide, kupita kumapwando, kuyenda, kupita kumsika, kuthandizana wina ndi mzake, ndi kuthandizira panthawi zovuta. Koma kenako chinachitika, chifukwa chake tinakangana naye. Sindinanene zambiri, koma tinakhumudwitsirana wina ndi mnzake. Tsopano njira zathu zagawana njira, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimaziganizira. Mawu akuti "tili nawo, sitimayamikira, tidzatha kulira ndi zoona." Dyetsani kulemba nkhaniyi, ndikuganiza mozama za abwenzi awa komanso za izo, mwinamwake iye ndi chibwenzi changa? Poyambirira, pamene ndinali bwenzi lake, sindinaganize za ubale ndi tanthauzo la mawu awa ndi tanthauzo la maubwenzi amenewa. Tsopano ndikuganiza mozama za ubale, za tanthauzo ndi tanthauzo la chodabwitsa ichi, ndipo ndimayesera kupanga bwenzi langa mwa bwenzi langa lonse.
N'zosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti ubwenzi umabweretsa chikondi. Ndimakhulupirira kuti ubwenzi ndi chikondi. Maganizo okhudzana ndi bwenzi, chilakolako chomuthandiza kapena kumutonthoza, kapena kusangalala ndi nthawi yosangalatsa m'moyo wake, kodi izi sizizindikiro za chikondi? Ndi mtundu wina wa chikondi umene ulipo muubwenzi weniweni. Munthu yekha kwa munthu wina makamaka sakadandaula, ndipo sindikanakhala wosangalala, mmalo mwa chisangalalo padzakhala nsanje. Ndipo izo zikanakhoza kudziwa ubale weniweni, mwinamwake muyenera kuti mulekanane ndi zilembo za wina ndi mzake. Ndipo mutatha kudutsa zopinga zonse ndi zodandaula, zonsezi zidzakhalabe - ubwenzi.
Tsopano nthawi zambiri ndimaganiza kuti ndani ayenera kutchedwa bwenzi, yemwe sayenera. Tsopano mawu awa ali ndi tanthauzo, koma kale ine ndikanakhoza kuyitana aliyense ndi mutuwu. Ndipo tsopano ndikuganiza ndisanamuyitane bwenzi. Ndikulingalira ndikudandaula ndi ubale. Kotero, ndiri ndi bwenzi limodzi. Ine ndimamudziwa iye kwa pafupi zaka zisanu. Poyamba iye anandikwiyitsa kwambiri, mau ake, kuseka, khalidwe, makhalidwe - mwachilichonse! Ngakhale mawonekedwe. Ine mwanjira ina sindinkafuna kuti ndiyanjana ndi iye, koma kuphunzira ku koleji kunali chinyengo, ife tiri nacho icho chinagwiritsidwa ntchito kunena choncho, mwa lingaliro langa, kapena kani ine ndayamba kuzizoloŵera izo. Panali mabwenzi abwino, ndikuganiza kuti zikanakhala kupulumuka mderalo, komanso kuti ndisadziwe mumadzimadzi a tsiku ndi tsiku. Zakhala zaka ziwiri kuchokera pamene tinaphunzira ku kolejiyi, ndipo kwa nthawi ino, ndikuganiza, takhala tikugwirana ntchito, ndipo tikukambiranabe. Ndinayamba kukondana naye zaka zambiri, ngakhale kuti amakhala kutali ndi ine, koma nthawi zambiri timalankhulana naye, koma timayanjana nthawi ndi nthawi. Tsopano ali ndi pakati, mwezi watha, ndipo ndikuyembekezera mwana wake ndi iye, ndikukondwera naye.
Amanenanso kuti samasankha anzanu. Ndipo, mwa kulingalira kwanga, ndikusankha kwambiri. Masiku ano, bwenzi lathu losankhidwa liyenera kukwaniritsa zofunikira zathu, ngati kuti tikusankha foni yambiri yomwe ili yabwino komanso yotchipa. Ndipindula kwambiri ndi mtengo wotsika. Makolo ambiri amauza ana awo "musamacheze naye! Sangathe kukhala bwenzi lanu! ", Kuti adzalankhulana ndi ana kuchokera kumbali yawo. Kuchokera ku bwalo liti? Ana ndi ana. Alibe maphunziro kapena ntchito. Palibe. Iwo alibe bwalo, mwina kuti makolo amasankha anzanu kwa ana awo, akuyang'ana makolo a mwana uyu. Kodi ubwenzi uli ndi malire? Ndipotu, sikofunika kuti mnzanu akhale ndi ntchito yabwino, kapena maphunziro apamwamba, kapena awiri apamwamba. Mnzanu ndi bwenzi, ndipo saliyeso ndi ndalama mu chikwama chake, kapena ndi malo abwino. Mungathe kukhala abwenzi ndi aliyense ndi kulikonse, ndi wina aliyense. Kugwirizana kwakukulu kwa uzimu pakati pa abwenzi, osati ndalama. Ife tinayiwala momwe tingamvere, pali chiwerengero chimodzi chokha chamaliseche mkati mwathu. Musasokoneze ubwenzi ndi kuwerengera. Ngati mu mtima mwanu mulibe mantha pa malingaliro a bwenzi, ndiye kuti nkovuta kuti izi ndi ubwenzi.
Sindikuganiza kuti muubwenzi weniweni kumeneko muyenera kukhala ndi zolinga ndi zofunikila, ndikutheka kukhala anzanu popanda. Ngakhale masiku ano ndi mabwenzi ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zofunikanso, chifukwa anthu safuna kudzivutitsa okha pofunafuna bwenzi lenileni omwe angakhale ndi zosiyana. Ndipotu, zimakhala zosangalatsa nthawi zina kukangana ndi mnzanu pa nkhani zina zomwe zimakhudza inu kapena iye. Ingokhala mabwenzi, ziribe kanthu chiani. Kulankhulana ndi munthu, kumusangalatsa, onani dziko la mkati la munthu wina. Khalani bwenzi ndi munthu pa zomwe iye ali, ingomukani iye ndi zofuna zake, chifukwa iye ndi bwenzi lanu.
Ngakhale kuti ndimacheza ndi mnzanga wa m'kalasi, anthu omwe timakhala nawo akuonedwa ngati mabwenzi abwino, ndikuyesetsanso kuona ubale umenewu. Ku yunivesite sitimachoka pamsinkhu umodzi, nthawi zonse komanso paliponse palimodzi. Ndipo izo zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti mu ubale wathu iye amatenga zochuluka kuposa momwe iye amaperekera. Sindimakonda kwambiri kukambirana za moyo wanga, ndipo amandivomereza kwambiri, ndicho chifukwa chake ndimadziwa zonse zokhudza iye, koma sakusamala za ine. Pamene tikuphunzira, nthawi zonse timakhala pamodzi, koma nthawi yathu yopanda phindu pophunzira sitimayang'ana nthawi zambiri, sitimayitana nthawi zambiri. Ndayiwala kunena kuti tikuphunzira mwa makalata. Kotero inu mukhoza kulingalira chomwe ubwenzi wathu uli. Ndipo ine ndikuimira ubwenzi mosiyana.
Ndimakumbukira momveka bwino kukangana kwathu kotsiriza. Ife timalumbira kokha, kwenikweni kuti sitinalumbirire pano, koma kotero ife tayankhula mulu wa zonyansa zomwe aliyense angakhoze kudwala kuchokera ku mawu ndi mawu. Ngakhale akunena kuti ngati anzanu sanalumbire, amakhalabe mabwenzi nthawi zonse. Mu ichi ndinatsimikiza. Tsiku lotsatira tinayamba kulankhulana, ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika. Kapena mwinamwake izi zinalimbikitsidwa ndi chiyembekezo cha maphunziro ku Institute kwa zaka zinayi ??? Kodi ichi si chitsanzo chabwino cha ubale wokhala ndi mwayi? Ndipo ngakhale kuti ndimamverera mwachikondi kwa iye ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe timakangana, sizidzatha. Ndipo ngati ine ndikumutaya iye, kodi ine ndiganiza za iye? Ndipo ngati ndikufuna kubwereranso ubwenzi? Pakuti pamene ife timagwirizanitsidwa ndi yunivesite.
Ndikumvetsa kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake ponena za abwenzi enieni, koma, mwatsoka, malingalirowo samagwirizana ndi zenizeni, ndipo n'zotheka kutembenuza malingaliro ena, koma osati ubale. Ndipo, mwinamwake, mabwenzi enieni ali ndi munthu amene saganizira za ubale ndipo samadandaula ndi tanthauzo lake ndi tanthawuzo, iye ndi abwenzi chabe, osati kuganiza. Ndipo yemwe amaganiza za zonsezi amatanthauza kuti amasankha anzache ndi njira zina zomwe zingakhazikitse ubwenzi weniweni wa malingaliro ake. Ubwenzi weniweni sunapangidwe, zimachitika. Kotero, simukusowa kuganiza, koma muyenera kumva ndi kumvetsera mtima wanu. Musati muziganiza, koma muvomereze ubwenzi monga momwe ziliri. Ndibwino kuti musaganize za ubale, koma khalani mabwenzi!