Pangani ubale ndi munthu wansanje

Mwinamwake pafupifupi mkazi aliyense, mosasamala za msinkhu wake ndi chikhalidwe chake, adayenera kuthana ndi vutoli: momwe angakhalire ubale ndi munthu wansanje? Choyamba, muyenera kufufuza momwe mumamvera munthu uyu. Ngati ndiwowonjezera yemwe, pafupi ndi tsiku loyamba lachidziwitso, amachotsa kuyenda kwanu, foni ndi oyanjana nawo pazitsulo zovuta, amayang'ana mu bukhu lanu, amayang'ana chikwama chanu, mapepala ndipo amafunsa lipoti pazochitika zanu zonse, ndiye ganizirani izi ndikusankha: mungathe - Kodi nthawi zonse mumawunikira kwambiri?
Ngati muli "wokhumudwitsa", ndiye kuti mzanu wansanje wa moyo sangafune. M'tsogolo, nsanje yake idzabweretsa mitundu yodabwitsa kwambiri, ndipo inu, mutayika chinthu chamtengo wapatali chomwe mkazi wamakono ali nacho-nthawi yake, adzazindikira kuti sizingatheke kumanga ubale ndi munthu wansanje, ngakhale mutayesetsa. Kumbali inayi, nthumwi iliyonse ya hafu yamphamvu yaumunthu ndi nsanje, ndipo sikuti imamuimba mlandu chifukwa cha izo, chifukwa chifukwa cha nsanje chiri mu mbiri ya homo sapiens. Kwa zaka zambiri, mwamunayo, pokhala wopeza ndalama, amayenera kukhala wotsimikiza kuti mkaziyo ndi wokhulupirika kwa iye ndi kuti adapereka kuzipangizo zake, ndipo amadyetsa ana ake. Izi zinali zofunika osati kale, koma ngakhale tsopano, monga momwe zakhalira posachedwapa, kukhulupirika, amuna ndi akazi amalemekezedwa kwambiri pakati pa anthu.
M'badwo wathu wophunzitsidwa, kusiyana pakati pa kugonana si mawu opanda pake, mkazi nthawi zambiri amatha kudzipezera yekha ndi ana ake, ndalama zaleka kudalira mwamuna ndipo amatha kumanga ubale ndi munthu wansanje malinga ndi malamulo ake. Ngati munthu ali wokondedwa kwambiri kwa inu, mumakhala ndi zofuna zanu zakuthupi, koma nthawi zina amatayika ndikukhala Othello, muyenera kutsatira malamulo angapo ophweka.
Lamulo loyamba: chikondi ndi kulemekeza wosankhidwa wanu? Musazengereze kumuwonetsa iye malingaliro anu.
Lamulo lachiwiri: Mwamuna wachisanje (bwenzi) mwamunayo amamva zabodza, pamene mumamunamizira ngakhale chifukwa chosalakwa, musamukhumudwitse!
Lamulo lachitatu: munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chidaliro mwa iwe, choncho usamangokhalira kukondana pamaso pake, mwinamwake usadzakulire mwa iye wamwamuna wamwamuna wamwamuna, yemwe akubangula ndi kukhetsa magazi m'maso mwake adzafulumizitsa wokonda kapena wotsutsana naye.
Lamulo lachinayi : Munthu, ngakhale ali wochenjera komanso wopambana, ali wodzitamanda! Mutamandeni, koma muchite mosamalitsa ndipo musamufanane naye ndi anthu ena. Kungakhale kulakwitsa kunena kuti ndiwe wabwino kuposa mnansi wanga (mwamuna wa mnzanga, chibwenzi changa). Ingogogomezerani zabwino zomwe zimapangidwa kwa iye: inu mazira owoneka mwachangu; mumakhala bwino ndi amayi anga.
Ulamuliro ndi wachisanu ndi wautali ndi wotsiriza: mbiri yanu. Nzeru za anthu athu zakhala zikufika pamapeto kuti chovala chimachokera ku chatsopano, ndi ulemu kuchokera kwa achinyamata. Ndipo mawu omwe poyamba mumagwira ntchito, ndipo amakugwiritsani ntchito, ndi oonadi. Inu nokha mungathe kukhala ndi malamulo ambiri momwe mungamangire ubale ndi munthu wansanje, pogwiritsa ntchito ubale wanu ndi khalidwe lake, koma musaiwale mfundo yosavuta yomwe imakhudza pafupifupi mbali iliyonse ya moyo wathu: ngati mukuwopa kuti mnzako adzachita nsanje ndi munthu wodwalayo , mwinamwake, zidzachitika. Khalani okondwa, ndipo mudzasangalala ngati mukhalabe mfulu, kapena mutha kukhala ndi ubale ndi munthu wansanje yemwe ali pafupi ndi inu.