Popeza mnyamata wakulakitsani kuti "muyang'ane", ndiye kuti ubale wanu umati ndi "wovuta". Kwa amuna, iyi ndi sitepe yoyenera ndikukhulupirira ine, osati mtsikana aliyense amapeza ulemu wotere. Ndithudi, mwakhala mukukambirana za mabanja anu, momwe munaleredwa ndi makolo, maina a amayi ndi abambo. Choncho zonsezi ziyenera kukumbukiridwa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mwaluso. Chilichonse chidzabwera bwino, kuyambira pa zomwe amaliza maphunziro awo komanso komwe akufuna kupuma, kutha ndi mndandanda wa achibale.
Dziyesere nokha kuti chidziwitso mwanjira ina iliyonse sichipeŵereka, ngati mukufuna kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu ndi munthu uyu. Poyamba, perekani mwayi wosankha tsiku ndi nthawi yokomana ndi makolo a mnyamata. Motero, mumasonyeza ulemu kwa maganizo awo ngakhale musanadziwe nokha.
Khalani ndi chithunzithunzi chamtsogolo ponena za kuyankhula kochepa. Podziwa koyamba sikofunika kupereka chinachake mopanda malire. Zakudya zamtengo wapatali kapena zokolola zimakhala zabwino. Ngati mumaphika bwino, ndi nthawi yosonyeza luso lanu. Musaiwale kufotokozera zokonda zowonjezera za makolo a theka lanu. Ndipotu, mikate yomwe imakonda kudzaza apongozi anu angakonde kwambiri kuposa mkaka wokhala ndi mkaka wokhazikika, umene umakhala ndi zovuta.
Ndiponso, monga mphatso zikhale zoyenera kupereka chinthu chokhudzana ndi zosangalatsa za makolo. Koma samalani posankha ndi kutsimikiza kuti mufunsane ndi wokondedwa wanu musanagule - amadziwa bwino kwambiri banja lake.
Musanayambe kukonzekera msonkhano, ganizirani za maonekedwe anu. Ngati mumaikonda siwombola ndi tsitsi lalitali, momwe kale banja likuzoloŵera, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuvala osati mopusa komanso mopanda malire. Sungani bwino, ngati mumakonda zovala zoyera ndi zipangizo zambiri, ndikudziwana bwino zidzalowa mu zovala za "agogo aakazi", zidzakhala zabodza. Ingotenga zodzikongoletsera zamtendere komanso m'malo msuketi yayitali ndi thalauza. Kotero inu mudzakhalabe nokha, koma inu simudzawadodometsa makolo anu omwe kale akuda nkhawa.
Kawirikawiri misonkhano imakhala m'nyumba ya makolo a mwamuna, nthawi zambiri m'madera osaloŵerera, mwachitsanzo, mu cafe. Pano panopa muli pakhomo, wokondedwa wanu adakuphunzitsani ndipo mupita ku gome. Sikudziwika kuti mudzalandira bwanji, choncho konzekerani chilichonse. Kuyamba koyamba sikunali kosaoneka kuti ndikofunikira kwambiri ndi kolondola, yesetsani kuti musasokoneze.
Onetsetsani kuti mupereke thandizo lanu potumikira tebulo, koma musakhale obtrusive. Mosasamala za zokonda zanu zophikira, yesani chakudya chophika. Sikoyenera kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso. Chomwe makolo angakonde ndi chakuti wosankhidwa wa mwana wawo amamwa botolo la vinyo mosalankhula ndipo saledzera. Siyani zolemba zanu zauchidakwa za maphwando ndi anzanu. Ndi bwino ngati simukumwa kapena kumwa mkaka.
Makolo a theka lanu mwina akufuna kudziwa komwe mukuphunzira kapena kugwira ntchito. Kungakhale koyenera kukuuzani momwe mwakumana ndi mwana wawo. Ndi bwino pamene mnzanuyo akuthandizira kukambirana, koma samakhala chete. Pali mafunso omwe angafune kudziwa za malingaliro anu - posonyeza moyo wanu wam'mbuyo, osati kungodziphatikizana, koma ambiri. Kodi mungakonde kukhala ndi ana angati, mungakonde kukhala kuti, m'nyumba kapena m'nyumba.
Yesetsani kuti musamamvetsetse malingaliro awo, ndipo mulimonsemo, chifukwa makolo nthawi zonse amakhudzidwa mosamala, ndipo izi ndi zachibadwa. Ntchito yanu yayikulu sikuti ingasangalatse bwanji makolo a theka (chidziwitso choyamba), koma kuti muwadziwe bwino ndikuyesa mgwirizano wabwino, ndipo chifundo chanu chikhoza kuwonekera mtsogolo.
Makolo ambiri adzakhalanso okondwa ndi malingaliro anu pa iwo. Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri ndi amayi a osankhidwa, ndipo papa nthawi zambiri amachita modekha kapena mosiyana amachititsa kukambirana kapena kuthetsa vutoli, panthawiyi.
Zopanda ndale za cinema, masewero, nyengo kumapeto zidzayenerera kuyankhulana. Afunseni kukuwonetsani zithunzi zamabanja - makolo angafune kuti asonyeze zithunzi za mwana wawo ali akhanda. Fufuzani pasadakhale zomwe zidzawonetsedwa pa TV pa nthawi ya msonkhano, mwinamwake kuyang'ana konsati ya mlamu wawo wamtsogolo mtsogolo kudzakukwezerani inu m'maso mwake.
Pewani mawu omwe ali ndi magawo komanso nkhani zakuthwa. Siyani zokambirana pazokambirana zokhazokha pokhapokha ngati otsogolera anu alibe ubale weniweni ndi maganizo anu ndi ofunika kwa iwo.
Lankhulani za banja lanu mokhazikika, mwinamwake inu mumayika pachiopsezo kuti mudziwe anthu okha. Mavuto onse a pabanja sayenera kukhala omveka.
Samalani ubale pakati pa makolo a wokondedwa, momwe amalankhulirana ndi wina ndi mzake, ndani yemwe ali munthu wamkulu m'banja, chifukwa mwinamwake adzamanga banja mofanana ndi ake.
Kumbukirani kuti mumayang'ana m'maso mwawo msungwana wosadziwika yemwe akufuna kukwatira mwana wawo wokondedwa ndikudikirira kuti wotambasula akumbatize zopusa. Ngakhale ndizotheka kuti mutha kupeza chilankhulo chimodzimodzi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti muli ndi mwayi waukulu m'banja la mwamuna, ndipo ali ndi inu.
Kodi ndi bwino kukumbukira makhalidwe abwino? Mawu oyamikira pa chakudya chamadzulo chamadzulo kapena chakudya chamadzulo, chonde funsani chophika (ngati mukufuna kukonza, ngati simungayesetse kuyembekezera za mlamu wawo wamtsogolo), zonsezi, ndithudi, ziyenera kumveka. Musakhale nthawi yaitali, ngakhale simukufuna kuchoka. Pamapeto pake, perekani ulendo wobwereza.
Kumbukirani kuti tonsefe tinakulira m'banja losiyana, tili ndi maonekedwe osiyanasiyana komanso maonekedwe osiyanasiyana pazochitika za moyo, koma ngati tifuna, chinenero chofala chimapezeka ndi aliyense, makamaka ndi makolo a wokondedwa, zomwe tikukhumba inu.