"Mkazi wamphamvu ndi munthu wofooka ali kutali kapena kupotoza"
"Muyenera kusintha kuti mukakomane ndi munthu wanu." Ndipo ngati sindikufuna kusintha ndekha? - akutsanulira moyo wa Jan, wazaka 36 yemwe amagwira ntchito ku ofesi ya kafukufuku, yomwe ikugwira ntchito yofunafuna mwamuna wake. - Bwanji pang'ono chabe - mwamsanga musinthe nokha? Ndimakonda ndekha. Ndipo osati kwa ine ndekha, komanso kwa abwana, makasitomala ndi abwenzi. Ndipo ngakhale agalu a anthu ena. Ndili bwino. Ndipo ndikusowa pang'ono kuchokera kwa munthu! Sindikusowa aliyense wopatsa chakudya, wopanda uphungu, wopanda chithandizo, palibe chizindikiro chogonana. Koma ndi munthu wodalirika komanso wokonda kumva, wokhala ndi pakati. Ndi chiwerengero chabwino. Ndili ndi malipiro abwino. Ine ndikutha kuthetsa mavuto anga ndipo sindikuphonya kukhala ndekha. Ndine wokonzeka bwino, ndikuchotsa mwini nyumbayo m'nyumba. Ndikufuna kukhulupirika mu ubale. Kuti asamanama kwa mwamuna wake, kuti ali m'nyumba, ngati ndimapeza zambiri ndikukhala ndi khalidwe lolimba. Kuti asadzipusitse kukhala wopusa chifukwa cha kudzidalira kwake! Ndipo musandipatseko zisindikizo zabwino za ubweya mu apron ndi choyeretsa! Mwamuna wanga wakhala ngati chonchi kwa zaka khumi - kunyumba, kulibe ntchito, nkhanza komanso nsanje. Pa nsapato za alendo chifukwa cha nsanje sindinalembere - ndipo motero anzanga onse ndi abwenzi anga anathamanga. Lumbira, chifukwa chiyani ndimakhala nawo nthawi yambiri kusiyana ndi kunyumba. Poyankha chikondi - sulked. Patsiku lomwe sanadye, chifukwa adakhumudwa, ndipo usiku adabisala mobisa kuchokera pa firiji, monga Lokhankin mu buku la "Golden Calf"! Ayi, mkazi wamphamvu ndi munthu wofooka wamwamuna ndi wovuta kapena wopotoka. Zokwanira ndi ine! Tinkakhala mu cafe pafupi ndi mtsinjewu, otentha kufikira madzulo m'mawa madzulo a August, tinkatenga malo ogulitsa kudutsa udzu ndikuganiza za amuna. Tinadabwa kuti ngati Yana anali wosauka, wosasangalala, wopweteka kwamuyaya, wosaoneka bwino kuchokera ku matenda osatha komanso osowa ndi malingaliro a mtsikana, zingakhale zophweka kuti iye akwatire: choyamba, zofunazo zingakhale zochepa, kachiwiri , padzakhala gulu la anthu omwe amafuna kudzimva chisoni, kutentha ndi kukondweretsa kukongola kwamtunduwu kuti amve pafupi ndi zolimba ndi zofunikira. Tinayang'ana kupyolera mwa abwenzi athu onse omwe ali mu banja lopambana, amuna onse odziwa bwino a Yana, adamupangira kabukhu kakang'ono ka mayankho a amuna - ndipo adapeza zinthu zodabwitsa zomwe ine ndi ine tifotokoza nawo.
Wokwatirana ndi mwamuna
Zimapindula - muzinthu zirizonse, pamusewero wa masewera a bowa kapena pakhomopo, m'minda yamaluwa, kapena kumalonda a inshuwalansi. Kupambana - ichi ndi chithunzi cha mphamvu yamunthu yapamwamba: i-akhoza! Ndi munthu wotere nthawi zonse amatha kupeza chinenero chimodzi: ali ndi nkhonya zochepa pamutu pake ndipo samakuvutitsani ndi kaduka. Ndipo komabe: zimasintha, zimapindula - osati nthawizonse olemera. Kodi ndalama zogonjera ku Ulaya pa nsomba za ayezi zimachokera kuti? Amagwiritsa ntchito malipiro ake onse pamakiti ndi ma ticket. Ndipo mdierekezi ali nawo, ndi ndalama zake, mukupanga ndalama kuti musankhe amuna omwe mumawafunira - chifukwa cha malingaliro anu ndi chisangalalo, osati chifukwa cha chikwama chanu. Nanga bwanji otaika? Sitiyenera kudandaula za nkhaniyi. Aloleni asungwanawo atenge zolephera za azaka zapakati ndi zapakati - ali ndi zaka zambiri zotsala m'sungidwe, ali ndi nthawi yokwanira yozisamalira, ndi kubala ana kuchokera kwa iwo, ndikulembera kuti akuphunzitseni, ndikuchoka kwa iye ngati palibe chomwe chingathandize. Ndipo nthawi yanu yowunikira imasonyeza - ndi nthawi yofulumira ndi kusaphonya. "Gebe sangathe kutaya nthawi pachabe.
Wopusa samatenga mwamuna, ngakhale ali wokonda kwambiri komanso munthu wokoma mtima
Tsiku lina mtsikana wokongola anati kwa Bernard Shaw: "Ndi ana angwiro ati omwe angabadwire mwa ife: kukongola-mwa ine, m'maganizo mwanga - mwa inu." Wolemba wamkuluyo anaima pakhomo ndipo anati: "Ndipo ngati izo zikutsutsana mosiyana? .." Ndizozolowezi kuti amuna abereke ana. Ndibwino kuti mwana wanu alowe mu malingaliro anu. Ndipo ngati_mu papa?
Musatenge nthaŵi pa oyendetsa oyendetsa ndege
Simukugwirizana ndi munthu yemwe ali pamunsi pamtunda - dalaivala, wogwira ntchito yomanga, mlonda kapena plumber. Ndizozoloŵera kunena kuti nzeru zamaganizo - kumvetsetsa, kukwanitsa kuzindikira zokongola, chikhumbo chophunzira zinthu zatsopano ndi kusangalala nazo - sizidalira ntchito ndi umoyo wa anthu, ndipo kudzikonda kungalowe m'malo mwa maphunziro. Sitikukhulupirira! Chabwino, sitinawone chilichonse chodziwitso chodzidzimutsa komanso chodzidzimitsa kwambiri kuchokera ku masitolo. Ndipo wogwira ntchito yomanga - nayenso. Wowonongeka. Ngakhale awiri. Wojambula - ayi. Pakuti munthu wochenjera atangodziphunzitsa yekha, amangokwera mwapang'onopang'ono ndikupita kukaphunzira.
Zotsatira za zochitika za uzimu
Uyu ndi munthu yemwe amakhala pafupi ndi ife, ndi theka mu dziko lake losangalatsa la zakuthambo kapena lamphamvu. Iye amafunikira kuchokera kumoyo mbale ya mpunga, mpukutu wa kusinkhasinkha, gulu la anthu oganiza mofanana, nthawizina khamu la ophunzira okondwa. N'zoona kuti ndalama zimamufunikanso. Koma sakuwona chifukwa chokhalira ngati "maso ena" ndi mkazi wake wokondedwa kwa wina amene angapeze mwayi wokonzanso akaunti ya banki. Ali ndi chiyambidwe china - amadzilitsa yekha ndikumvetsa zinsinsi za dziko lapansi. Muchotseni zalchik - iwo adzasonkhanitsa anzake, akumangira nyumba kunja kwa mzinda - adzatsegula sukulu yake. Samasamala kumene munakhala mutatha ntchito. Iye amachotsedwa pang'ono ndi wokongola kwambiri. Inu mudzabwera kwa iye, ku dziko lake, kuti mudzachezere - chakudya chauzimu. Ngati simukuganiza kuti kuyankhulana ndi mizimu ya makolo komanso kudyetsa mphamvu zakuthambo ndi chizindikiro cha schizophrenia yosauka - iwe panjira. Muyenera kufotokoza moona mtima mbali ya malingaliro ake - khulupirirani kusuntha kwa mizimu kapena kuti mu maloto timasintha dziko lozungulira ife. Ali wathanzi, wodabwitsa, wololera komanso wosasangalatsa. Ndipo, monga lamulo, kudalira ngati mwana. Ngati mwatopa ndi nsanje ya mnzanu wapamtima, moyo wanu ndi thupi lanu pamodzi ndi anthu odziwa bwino adzapuma - sangatsatire mapazi anu. Ngati mukufuna kudzikuza yekha, sadzaziwona, kufikira atakangana ndi wokondedwa wanu pabedi pansi pa bulangeti imodzi. Zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri, nthawi yaitali zimatanthauzira mfundo zake. Amatsogolera njira yachilendo ya moyo - nthawi zina samagona usiku ndipo amadya kokha dzuwa litalowa, osati nthawi zonse zokwanira. Nthawi zambiri amakana kugonana. Nthawi zambiri kumafuna kuti ugawane zina mwazovuta zake - mwachitsanzo, kuchita yoga naye m'mawa. Nthawi zina mphunzitsi wamkulu akuzunguliridwa ndi otsatila - karma yoopsa ya aphunzitsi onse ogwira bwino ntchito, ndipo mumawachitira nsanje. Ndipo potsiriza, kuyankhulana ndi iye kumafuna kuchokera kwa inu nzeru yosagwirizana, kuti musapite naye kudziko la ziwonetsero zake, koma kukhalabe mu moyo ndi kuntchito.
Wasayansi
Woyimira malo ophunzirira ndi banja lokondweretsa mkazi wamalonda wabwino. Amagwirizanitsa makhalidwe abwino omwe amakhala mu dziko lake losangalatsa, komwe munthu angayendere, koma osadziwika) ndi katswiri (ali ndi khalidwe lachimuna lolimba, koma ali ndi maganizo olimba). Wolemba mabuku wa Chingerezi Agatha Christie anakwatiwa ndi mwamuna wankhondo wankhondo. Iye anali "chitsanzo" cha munthu: wokongola wokongola, hero, wolemekezeka, womuteteza, wokonzeka kuyamikira ndi kumuthandiza mkazi wake wamng'ono. Koma pomwe mkazi wake adayamba kupeza ndalama mwa kulemba, adayamba kukhala patali ndi iye, ndipo pamene mbiri yake idabwera kwa iye, adayamba mayi wamba - mkazi wosavuta ndi wophweka, ndipo anapita kwa iye. Agatha Christie anali wodandaula kwambiri ndipo ndalama pang'ono sizinachitike ndi chisoni. Iwo akusudzulana. Mwamuna wake wachiwiri anali wachinyamata wamabwinja wamatabwa, wotchuka m'magulu ang'onoang'ono. Iye anasangalala ndi zomwe mkazi wake anapindula, ndipo mabuku ake amamukhumudwitsa. Analimbikitsa chikondi chake chakummawa ndikuyenda kudutsa ku Egypt. Ndipo iwo ankakhala limodzi limodzi moyo wodabwitsa kwambiri. Simumaika njira yanu ya moyo, abwenzi anu ndi abwenzi anu, ndipo mumavomereza dziko lake. Ndi zosangalatsa ndi iye. Iye akhoza kudaliridwa. Ndipo iye samasintha konse - chifukwa iye mwini amatsimikizira njira ina, osati pogonana. Izo zimakonda kupita ku dziko lanu, ndipo izo sizidzafuula. Nthaŵi zambiri amanyalanyaza katundu, nthawi zina amwazikana. Mwachitsanzo, amabwerera ku seminala ya sayansi popanda sutukesi - anangoiiwala pa sitimayo ndipo sanazindikire, chifukwa zonse zopanga zopanda pake ndi zolembera zina ndi masokosi zimakhala mu thumba la makompyuta. Ndipo anali wokwanira. Ndipo ambiri, mdierekezi ali naye, ndi sutikesi - tidzagula thalauza zina ndi sutikesi ina.
Mwamuna ndi wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa inu (zaka zoposa zisanu ndi ziwiri)
Timakonda kugogoda pa maso a anthu awiri pomwe sangakhale aang'ono komanso olemera, koma ali wamng'ono komanso wosauka. Ndipo timakhulupirira kuti iye ndi msaki wa ndalama kapena mwana yemwe wadzipeza yekha amayi. Akani zotsutsana: mkazi yemwe ali wamkulu kwambiri kuposa iye nthawi zambiri amayamba kukondana ndi mnyamata wamkulu - wochenjera, wokonda maudindo, wosasamala malingaliro a anthu ndi okhwima kwambiri kuposa momwe ayenera kukhalira zaka. Pa zaka 25, amamverera ngati wazaka makumi anayi ndikukwatira mkazi amene akugwirizana ndi maganizo ake, osati zaka pasipoti. Iye sali wokhudzidwa ndi zokhazokha. Simungakhoze kunena kuti anyamatawa akugona mozungulira mbali iliyonse ya njira. Koma zilipo ndipo ena amazipeza. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wa Demi Moore, Ashton Kutcher, ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu kuposa iye. Iye amawongolera momwe amaonera moyo ndipo amavomerezana naye momasuka. Mayi akudziyesa kukonda mnyamatayo sayenera kuyang'anitsitsa bwino, koma wokongoletsera komanso wogwira mtima. Iye samasowa kuti aziwoneka ngati msungwana ndi kumatsutsa mimba yake yamaliseche. Maonekedwe ake ayenera kukhala okongola ndi ogwirizana ndi udindo wake ndi dziko lapansi lolemera. Apo ayi, mnyamatayo sangachitepo kanthu. Iye ali wathanzi wathanzi, wamphamvu ndi wokongola. Kumabweretsa mphamvu yachinyamata ndi kuyendetsa mu ubale. Kulingalira kwa iye mayi "kwa 35" ndi kosavuta kusiyana ndi kuchokera kwa anzako, - chifukwa kubala kwa amuna a msinkhu kumachepetsanso. Kusokonezeka maganizo kwa anthu ena: ambiri adzalosera kuti ubale wanu uli pafupi kutha. Musati mutembenukire chidwi kwa anthu achisoni. Ngati kusiyana kwa zaka ndi zosakwana zaka khumi ndi zisanu, zingathe kunyalanyazidwa. Pa kusiyana kwa zaka makumi awiri pa zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri za moyo wokhudzana. Chabwino, tikukhala kwa nthawi yayitali, moyo wathu uli ndi mbali zosiyana, kuchokera pa chikondi angapo komanso misonkhano yambiri - bwanji osalemba m'buku la tsogolo lanu mutu wodala wokhudzana ndi momwe mudakhalira ndi mnyamata uyu ndi momwe mudakondana?
Professional
Njirayo ndi yoyenera komanso yabwino - munthu amene amakonda ntchito yake: dokotala, wolemba mapulogalamu, woweruza milandu. Pa 25, Andrei anali ndi tsitsi labwino kwambiri - tsitsi pansi pa mapewa ake, maso akuwala ndi loto - kuphunzitsa ana masamu. M'maso makumi asanu ndi awiri - Socrates ali ndi zikopa za mabokosi, gulu lochita zamatsenga pambuyo pa masewera ndi malo a mkulu wa sukulu ya boma. Iye anakana kutsogolera lyceum - sakufuna kudalira ndalama za anthu ena, zimakhala zosavuta kuti azigwirizana ndi boma. Iye ndi mphunzitsi wochokera kwa Mulungu ndi bessrebrenik. Ndipo ngati kwa iye palibe aliyense yemwe angapereke kalikonse, adakali kukokera ku "sukuluyi kuti akaphunzitse ogubuduza." Koma akulipirabe ntchito yake. Anakwatiwa ndi mzimayi wa bizinesi ku Moscow, komwe adatenga chaka chimodzi ndi chikoka cha ziwanda kuti atenge ndalama kuti apite ku sukulu za Moscow - opambana a Olympiad m'Chirasha. Amakhala bwanji? Ndipo inu mukudziwa_ndi zabwino! Monga bwenzi lake, loya, akugawaniza ndi dokotala wa opaleshoni. Munthu aliyense amene ali ndi chidwi ndi bizinesi yake, yemwe ali wofunika kwambiri, ndi phwando loyenera kwa mkazi wodziimira ndi wodziimira yekha. Mumagwira naye ntchito m'madera osiyanasiyana, amatha kuchita bizinesi yake, ndipo simukudana. Iwe uli ndi mwamuna weniweni mnyumbamo. Ndi mphamvu ya anthu ochita bwino kuposa zamalonda shark - ndizofunikira, ndi luso kotero mumakonda bizinesi yanu, kuti musapite kumene kuli phindu, ndipo mukwaniritse bwino kulikonse kumene mukufuna. Iwo ndi amphamvu komanso abwino pa kugonana. Ndipo inu mukhoza kudalira pa iwo. Zili choncho kuti lero zonse ziri bwino ndi inu ndipo ntchito imayaka m'manja mwanu, ndipo mawa - osati ntchito, kapena thanzi. Katswiri wina amakhala nanu nthawi zonse ndikukutulutsani. Bzinthu kwa iye ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa iwe. Ali pakhomo pang'onopang'ono ndipo samatha nthawi yayitali, amafunika kusamalira mosamala: ngati ndi zovuta kumuyerekeza ndi amuna ena omwe amapindula kwambiri ndi kuwakakamiza kuphika chakudya chamadzulo ndikupuma kubwezera chifukwa cha malipiro ochepa, adzapita kumalo ena kapena kuwonongeka ndikukhala wovuta, ndikudalira inu osasangalala.