Inu mumathamanga pafupi theka la tsiku ndi chiguduli, mumatembenuka, mumatembenuka, koma samayankhula ndikupitiriza kuwerenga nyuzipepala ina, ndipo ngati ayang'ana TV, amafuula, kuti TV isatseke. Izi zikutsatiridwa ndi kukwiya, misonzi ndi zovuta zowopsya kwambiri ... Ndipo kodi matsenga amamuuza kuti angadziyerekezere kuti akufuna, koma, ndithudi, chifukwa chabwino, zifukwa zofunikira sizingatheke. Kukanikakamiza - zikutanthauza kuzipanga kuti wina achitepo kanthu.
Kawirikawiri, amuna ndi osiyana ndipo ali ndi njira zosiyana zogwirira ntchito kuzungulira nyumba. Choncho, kusankha funso la momwe mungakakamizire munthu kuti azigwira ntchito zapakhomo ayenera kukhala yekha. Pali amuna omwe ntchito zapakhomo ndi zachibadwa ndipo ngakhale "amapita kukasaka". Kawirikawiri awa ndi amuna amene akhala ndi "bachelors" kwa nthawi yaitali (pa mfundo: "ngati si ine, ndiye ndani?"). Ambiri mwa abambo amavomereza kuchita ntchito zapakhomo, ngati akufunsa mwamphamvu, kapena kuchita zabwino kapena zosangalatsa. Amuna ena amangoiwala ntchito zawo komanso nthawi zonse "chakudya cham'mawa" okondedwa awo. Chabwino, amuna ena onse samangopanga ntchito zapakhomo, kapena amaona kuti ndi udindo weniweni wa amayi. Alipo omwe alibe nthawi yokwanira kugwira ntchito zapakhomo, musawadzudzule chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa poyamba mwamunayo anali woyang'anira ntchito ndipo ayenera kutsimikizira tsiku ndi tsiku.
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe anthu amasiya. Mmodzi wa awa ndi apongozi ake ndi chirichonse chogwirizana nacho. Amuna, mwinamwake, akumva mpikisano pamaso pa apongozi awo, ali okonzeka kuchita chirichonse, osati kuti asokoneze nawo ndi kupeĊµa zokambirana zosasangalatsa ku khitchini. Inde, pempho lochita chinachake ponena za nyumba, kutha kwa "amayi a mawa kubwera" kapena chinachake chonga icho, bamboyo adzachitapo kanthu, komanso, sakayikira kugwira ntchito yomwe sangachite.
Liwu lina, limene chirichonse chilowetsedwa mwa mwamuna ndi kugonana. Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ngati muika zinthu zomwe, ngati simukuzikwaniritsa, zimachotsa mwamuna kugonana, ndiye amathamanga kukagwira ntchito zosiyanasiyana. Inde, pali amuna oterewa, koma, kumbukirani, akazi, kuti si onse omwe ali choncho. Pogwiritsira ntchito njirayi, mukhoza kutsogolera munthu ku njira yolakwika, yomwe ndi njira yoperekera, zomwe sizili bwino kuposa kuchita ntchito zapakhomo. Ndipo komabe m'nthawi yathu ino iyi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri komanso yotchuka kwambiri kwa atsikana, ndiye ndizovuta!
Mawu odziwika bwino akuti "njira yopita kumtima wa munthu imakhala m'mimba" ikugwiritsidwa ntchito mmoyo uno. Pokhala mutadyetsa bwino "chinthu", pokhala mukuchiyendetsa ndi zokondweretsa zina zophikira, mukhoza kudalira mokoma mtima ndi changu cha munthu wokhutira ndi wokhutira. Nthawi yotsatira, ngakhale zotsutsana zotsatila zingakhale zotsatila, monga: "Wokondedwa, chifukwa cha pies wanu wokondeka ndine wokonzeka kutsuka mbale ndikuchotsa zinyalala!".
Imodzi mwa njira zogwira mtima kwambiri ndizosewera. Zimakhala zophweka kuti mwamuna atenge mwana kusiyana ndi mwana. Ngati mumagula chitsulo chamakono ndi ntchito zambiri ndi zinthu zosiyana, onetsetsani kuti mwamunayo adzakufunsani mafunso moyenera: "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani, wokondedwa?". Mungathe kutengeka ndi zinthu zosiyana kwambiri, chofunika kwambiri, kumudziwitsa kuti izi ndi zosangalatsa, chifukwa, kawirikawiri, ntchito zapakhomo sizinthu zokondweretsa kwambiri, ndipo zimakhala zokondweretsa, mumangoziwonetsa bwino. Amuna amaledzeredwa ndi pamene wina amachita chinachake. Mukungoyamba kuchita zinthu nokha, ponyalanyaza munthuyo pang'ono, ndipo chidwi chake cha munthu sichidzamusiya, ndipo pitirizani kuchita zinthu zosiyana ndi zomwe zikumulepheretsani ndikuthandizani, koma pang'onopang'ono amayamba kugwira ntchito mosiyana.
Njira yowongoka kwambiri imachokera pamwambo wamba woloweza. Ngati nthawi zonse kukakamiza mwamuna kuti azigwira ntchito zapakhomo, ndiye patapita kanthawi adzakhumudwa, komabe akumbukire pa msinkhu wosadziwika, ndipo mwakhama munthu adzachita ntchito inayake.
Mwamuna, ngakhale "chitsulo", komabe, samanyalanyaza misozi ya msungwanayo. Izi zidzamugwira, ndipo adzamvetsera. Kutembenuzira moyo wake, amvetsetsa, mwinamwake kwa kanthawi, komabe, amvetsetsa, kuti asakutsogolere kumisozi, ayenera kuchita zinthu zina.
Amuna, monga azimayi, monga akunena, alibe ulesi. Onetsetsani ngati munthuyo wagona pabedi pabedi, ndikumupempha kuti apite kwinakwake, mwachitsanzo, ku sitolo, pambuyo pake, munthuyo adzafunsa kuti: "Mwina ndibwino kuchita chinachake kunyumba?" Chabwino, ngati wothamanga wanu wosankhidwa ndipo athawira mwamsanga kupita ku sitolo, iye, monga lamulo, akugwira ntchito ndi kunyumba.
Inde, palinso "osasamala" opanda chiyembekezo, omwe, chabwino, palibe chomwe chingapangidwe kuchita chirichonse. Koma, monga akunena, "ngati akuvutika kwa nthawi yaitali - chinachake chidzachitika." Chabwino, kuleza mtima kwa inu ndi luntha. Ndipo kumbukirani: mutengedwe ndipo mwamunayo adzatengedwa!
Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti muli ndi zonse bwino ndi mwamuna wanu simukusowa kukhala mayi wake wachiwiri. Ngakhale amuna amasankha wokwatirana ndi amayi awo, koma safunikira mayi wachiwiri. Amuna samakonda pamene amalamulidwa ndipo ali ndi maganizo osiyana pa uphungu ndi zotsutsana. Mwamuna ayenera kumverera kunyumba ndi kunyumba monga mtsogoleri. Ndikoyenera kukumbutsa munthuyo kuti cholinga chachikulu chapambana chiyenera kugwira ntchito ndi kuthandiza "omvera". Ndipotu, munthu aliyense amafuna kukhala ndi zinthu zabwino kwambiri m'banja lake, koma munthu aliyense ayenera kudziwa kuti, aliyense ayenera kupereka zonse zabwino komanso kuti asakhale ndi mwayi m'banja. Komanso kugawa maudindo kungathandize kuthana ndi mavuto. Tiyerekeze kuti, ngati muli ndi "kuyeretsa" m'chipinda chokhalamo, ndiye kuti muyenera kukhala, osati wina amene akusowa kwambiri.
Anthu onse amamvetsetsa bwino pamene kufotokozera kumakhala mwamtendere, choncho musasokoneze chikhalidwe cha m'banja, chifukwa chimachokera kumvetsetsa. Yesani ndikukhala oleza mtima, ndipo mutha kuthetsa mavuto onse m'banja ndi moyo, kuphatikizapo awa.