Kawirikawiri, amayi ambiri ankaona kuti abambo awo akhale olimba mtima, amaganiza kuti palibe chimene chingayambitse mantha. Malinga ndi iwo, iwo adayenera kuti asakhale ndi mantha. Koma kodi izi zimachitika panthawiyi, ndipo kodi izi zinachitikadi? Pambuyo pake, ngati mkazi wodalirika, wanzeru, ndi wokondwa amayima pamaso pa mayi, n'zovuta kuganiza kuti ali ndi mantha aliwonse ndi mkazi. Koma munthu uyu ali ndi phobias yake yokha. Koma munthu weniweni, chifukwa cha zotsutsana zake, sadzawadziwitsa iwo za iwo. Ngakhale kuti akhoza kukhala ndi phobias yoteroyo poyerekeza ndi amayi, idzakhala yaikulu kwambiri. Ndipo kuchokera apa, mwachoncho, funso limanenanso za mtundu wa mantha omwe munthu angathe kukhala nawo pamaso pa mkazi.
Wokongola kwambiri. Atsikana ambiri amatsimikiza kuti kukhala wokongola kumam'thandiza. Koma si asungwana onse akuzindikira kuti ambiri mwa amuna ammudzi amanyazitsidwa ndi mtsikana wokongola kwambiri. Inde, ngati mukufanana ndi kukongola kuchokera ku magazini yosangalatsa, nthawi zonse zidzakhala zoopsa. Momwemo, mantha adzatsimikiziridwa ponena kuti adzawona kuti msungwana wotero akhoza kuponyera mosavuta chifukwa cha munthu wina wokongola, wolemera, wanzeru kapena wodalirika. Ndipo kuti athe kusunga mkazi wokongola chotero, nthawi zonse ayenera kuyesetsa kuti akhale wabwino muzinthu zina. Koma katundu wotere ndi thupi sangathe kulimbana ndi munthu aliyense. Odzidalira okha, olemera, anzeru kapena akuluakulu mu mzimu akhoza kulimbana ndi chiwonongeko ndi "kupha" pa wokondedwa wake wokongola. Kuwonjezera pa zonsezi, amuna ambiri amangowopa kuti mkaziyo amamukana mozizwitsa. Ndipo muzinthu zotero ambiri a iwo sangathe kuvomereza.
Onetsetsani kwambiri. Ndithudi si chinsinsi kwa wina aliyense kuti amuna ambiri sakonda akazi abwino kwambiri, kupatulapo iwo ali amatsenga. Koma panthawi yomweyo, amuna ochepa amasankha akazi opusa, osaphunzira komanso opusa. Ndi zinthu zotero nthawi zina zingakhale zovuta kwambiri, monga ma blondes ochokera ku anecdotes omwe sangathe ngakhale kutembenuza makompyuta kapena TV. Ndiye sizikuwonekeratu zomwe zingakhale mantha a amuna patsogolo pa mkazi. Zikuwoneka kuti mwamunayo akuwopa ndi nzeru zake, osati mwachinyengo, kuchitapo kanthu, mphamvu ndi zina zake zachinyengo. Mwachibadwa, amuna amalemekeza akazi ophunzira ndi aluntha, koma nthawi zambiri samasankha monga anzawo anzawo. Choncho, tingathe kuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kuti tikhale anzeru, komanso kuti mukhale opusa. Pambuyo pake, mwamuna nthawi zonse adzasangalala kuthandiza zomwe iwe sungagwiritse ntchito kapena kuchita chinachake.
Ogwira ntchito kwambiri. Mwamunayo sangachite chidwi kwambiri ndi kuti mkaziyo ali wotanganidwa kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, adzaganiza kuti msungwana wotere sadzangokhala ndi nthawi yake. Ntchito ikhoza kuwonetsetsanso kuti mtsikanayo ayesetse kutenga choyamba choyamba pa chiyanjano chake choyamba. Pambuyo pake, amuna samangokonda khalidwe lotero, koma ngakhale kuwopa akazi oterewa. Makamaka kulakwitsa kawirikawiri kwa msungwanayo pambuyo pa msonkhano woyamba ndi kumudziwa ndi mwamuna kudzakhala kuti amayamba kumubweza ndi mauthenga kapena mauthenga. Inde, mwinamwake adzapitiriza kulankhula ndi munthu wapadera, koma ndithudi sadzakhala ndi chikhumbo chokhala ndi chibwenzi cholimba ndi mtsikana wotere. Zidzakhala bwino ngati mwamunayo atenga chilichonse, makamaka, kuyitana ndikuika misonkhano yoyamba patsogolo. Kotero iye amakhoza kumverera ukulu wake, kapena mmalo mwake mphamvu zake zamuna. Pambuyo pa zonse, zoyamba ndizo zamphamvu kwambiri.
Kukambirana koletsedwa. Amuna ena amakonda amayi omwe amasulidwa kwambiri, pamene ena amangofuna kuika chidwi chawo kwa amayi okhawo odzichepetsa. Ngakhale pali lingaliro lomwe ambiri a iwo akadali ochulukira kwa akazi otentha, wina safunika kuganiza kuti ndi lolondola. Pambuyo pake, mbali ina ya ndalama ikhoza kutsegulidwa pano: munthu akhoza kutaya udindo waukulu ndi kutenga gawo lachiwiri, lomwe silofala kwa amuna. Ndipo pamapeto pake, amuna akhoza kutaya ulemu. Chifukwa chake, pali mantha otero mwa amuna, omwe akuphatikizapo awo omwe alibe ulamuliro. Ndi bwino kupeza malo apakati omwe azitsatira zonsezi. Komanso, musamuuze mwamuna wanu za zosangalatsa zake zam'mbuyomu za kugonana, makamaka kuti azisangalala ndi wokonda kale. Ngakhale ali pabedi bwino kusiyana ndi wokondedwayo. Mawu oterewa amatha kulekanitsa wokondedwa wanu kwa inu kwamuyaya.
Mantha sindiwo abwino. Kuopa kotereku kuli m'choonadi chakuti munthu akuopa kupanga chisankho cholakwika, chimene amadzadandaula nacho ndikudziimba mlandu. Chabwino, makamaka iye amadandaula za kuti pambuyo pampampetero wolakalaka muzolembedwazo, mkaziyo akukhala munthu wina, mosiyana kwambiri ndi panopo komanso kale. Ndipo ena amangoopa kukhala ofooka ndi opanda chitetezo, kapena amakhala ndi mantha opandukira komanso osakhulupirika. Mwinamwake ndichifukwa chake, ngakhale kuti ali ndi mphamvu zamphamvu komanso zamphamvu, amayamba kudzidzimangira okha masewera osasamala kapena osayanjanitsika. Ndipotu, malingaliro awo, zidzakhala zophweka komanso zowonjezera chifukwa sizikumana ndi mavuto omwe angathe. Ndipo yankho ili liti lidzakhala lokhulupirika komanso losapweteka kwambiri. Ndi amuna oterowo zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri, chifukwa kuti awawathandize kumvetsetsa zolinga zawo zowona mtima ndi zowona, zidzafuna khama kwambiri. Koma ngati munthu ali ndi mtengo wapatali, ndiye kuti simukuyenera kumuiwala.
Kumbukirani chinthu chimodzi chomwe amuna ali anthu omwewo monga amayi, okha ali ndi malamulo awo, malingaliro, malingaliro a moyo, mantha awo azimayi. Muyenera kuphunzira kuvomereza ambiri a iwo kuti akhale mwamuna wina wofunika kwambiri ndi wofunikira pamoyo wake.