Momwe mungasankhire munthu woyenera

Moyo wa mkazi wamakono umaphatikizapo kupeza wokondedwa mu moyo ndikusankha munthu. Kodi mungasankhe bwanji munthu woyenera? Mkazi aliyense akufuna kukhala ndi munthu wamphamvu ndi wanzeru pafupi ndi wina yemwe angadalire ndipo akhoza mopanda malire kupereka zinthu zonse zadziko. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, akazi ambiri adakali aang'ono amakhala ndi khalidwe lamphamvu, lomwe limapereka chikhumbo cha ufulu ndi chikhumbo cholamulira. Izi zimapereka amayi chifukwa chodziwonetsera kusakhutira kwawo kumvera wina, ngakhale kuti amayi ambiri amalonda akulira usiku ndipo amadzichitira okha nsanje osati opambana koma osangalala m'banja la abwenzi.

M'mayiko akumadzulo, izi zimatchedwa mau okongola achikazi, koma makhalidwe onsewa amabwera kwa anthu otchuka akunena za kugwirizana kwa chikhalidwe cha akazi, kuti mkazi akhoza kukhala mwamuna nthawi yomweyo. Kawirikawiri, amayi ambiri amakhala ndi maudindo akuluakulu mu makampani akuluakulu, akatswiri aumunthu, akuyesera kutsimikizira ufulu wawo. Zochita zonsezi za amayi zimadzutsa chikhalidwe cha anthu amakono kukhala okalamba ndi kuphunzitsa anthu omwe alipo masiku ano, kuwapangitsa kudziletsa komanso kusakhoza kuganiza mosiyana.

Kawirikawiri, pofunafuna bwenzi lomanga nalo banja, mkazi samayang'ana njira zovuta, koma amangosankha mwamuna woyenera kwambiri kwa iye kuti asasinthe makhalidwe ake ndi maganizo ake, mvetserani kulemba za ntchito za mkazi uyu ndi kungokhala omasuka ndi osangalatsa. Choncho, panjira ya amayi amakono kawirikawiri amakumana ndi amuna ochepa. Poyamba, zimakhala zovuta kudziwa kukhalapo kwa chikhalidwe cha munthu - nthawi zambiri amuna otere amawoneka mosiyana ndi anthu oyambirira (komanso kuchokera pachiwiri!) Tawonani, momwe mumalankhulira ndi zomwe mukuzikonda, amuna achichepere ndi omwe akuyimira kugonana kolimba. Mfundo yokha yomwe ingathe kuchenjeza nthawi zonse - izi ndi kudzikongoletsa kochuluka, monga infantils zambiri ndizogonana. Moyo wonse wa amuna otero umapita mu kupembedza kosayenera kwa iwo okha, okondedwa, kukhutira zosowa zawo ndi mantha a udindo uliwonse. Pokamba za ubale weniweni munthu woteroyo angapangitse munthu wododometsedwa kapena kuthawa, akukamba nkhani zofunikira. Pambuyo pake, adzadutsa msewu wake woyamba wa khumi ndikudandaula kwa abwenzi kuti alibe nthawi yoti ayambe chibwenzi, ndipo kuchokera kwa iye akufunira chinachake.

Kodi n'zotheka kukhala mgwirizano wogwirizana ndi munthu wachinyamata?

Amuna achibwana samawona mfundo muukwati weniweni ndi ukwati, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti unyamata ndi unyamata zidzakhalapo kosatha, padzakhala msungwana yemwe adzatsegula kusungulumwa ndi kukhalapo kwake, ndi kukwatiwa ndi mnyamata wotere - izi zidzasokoneza moyo wanu nthawi zonse.

Koma ngati mkazi akufuna kukangana naye, koma wokondedwa, ndiye njira zonse zomwe zingatheke - kuyesa kupeza zofunikila, funso la ndalama kapena ntchito, njira zamakono za "mkazi wofooka". Nthaŵi zambiri, mwamuna amayamba kuwona mwa mkazi kapena bwenzi lenileni, kapena wofooka kuposa iye, kukhala, ndikuyamba kusintha pang'ono pang'onopang'ono maganizo ake ndi khalidwe lake. Koma pochitika kuti zizolowezi zonse za amayi zakhala zikugwira ntchito, ndipo wokondedwa sakufuna kulandira chilolezo, ndi bwino kubwerera mwakachetechete ndikuchoka. Zochita zoterezi zimamukakamiza munthuyo kulingalira ngati akufuna mkazi uyu, za moyo wake, khalidwe lake ndi zinthu zina zamzeru. Kuzindikira za kutayika kwa wokondedwa kumakakamiza aliyense kuti azidzifufuza yekha ndi kusanthula khalidwe lawo ndi zolinga zake. Pambuyo pa zonse, timadziwa kufunika kwa maubwenzi pokhapokha iwowo atawonongeka ndi mawu awo ndi khalidwe lawo, ndipo chikhumbo chobwezera wokondedwa chimapatsa mphamvu ndipo chingakhale cholimbikitsira kusintha.