M'nthawi yathu ino sichikakamiza kukwatira ali aang'ono, kungophunzira sukulu kapena osakhala ndi nthawi yolowera. Atsikana amasiku ano amasiyana ndi cholinga chodzikonda komanso kudzikonda. Ndipo asanakwatirane, amafuna kukhala ndi moyo wambiri, kupeza maphunziro apamwamba, kupanga ntchito, kupereka moyo ndi kuthetsa mavuto a zachuma, mwachitsanzo, kuimirira okha. Ndipo pokhala nacho chidwi chokha ndi chikondi chokha, osati za moyo. Koma aliyense ali ndi moyo wake ndi choonadi, maubwenzi ake ndi malingaliro pa moyo. Kufananako ndi kokha, kuti msungwana aliyense amayesetsa kulumikizana.
Kuchita kumasonyeza kuti pambuyo pa banja ndibwino kukhala moyo wosiyana ndi makolo. M'nyumba muno pali mayi mmodzi yekha, ndipo m'nyumba ya makolo a mwamuna wake mbuye wawo nthawi zonse adzakhala apongozi ake. Chabwino, komanso kukhala ndi apongozi ake palibe choyenera kunena, chifukwa sizongopanda kanthu kuti zonena zambiri ndi zolemba zanenedwa zakhala zikufotokozedwa za kugwirizana pakati pa apongozi anga ndi apongozi anga. Mu chiyanjano cha banja laling'ono, simuyenera kusokoneza ndi anthu ena, ngakhale oyandikira kwambiri. Ndi paradaiso wabwino komanso m'nyumba, ndipo malo okhalamo ngakhale m'nyumba yaing'ono imalimbikitsa moyo wa banja.
Ndikofunika kukhala wokonzeka kuti moyo umasintha komanso kwambiri. Nthawi ya maluwa ya phokoso inayambitsa cholinga chake, msungwanayo adagonjetsedwa ndipo posachedwapa adzakhala mkazi. Tsopano msungwana ali ndi maudindo ena: kulenga chitonthozo mnyumba, kusunga ukhondo, kuphika. Pambuyo paukwati, atsikanawo amakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira paokha, pamisonkhano ndi abwenzi ndi zosangalatsa. Mwamunayu samamvetsera mwachidwi ngati nthawi ya chibwenzi. Amadziwa kuti ndiwe chigonjetso chake chogonjetsedwa. Ndi pamayambiriro oyamba kumakhala pamodzi ndikuyamba kukangana pa nkhani zapakhomo. Pazifukwa izi, kukwatira kwa boma, mgwirizano wokhala pamodzi popanda kulembetsa mgwirizano ndi wofala lerolino. Ukwati Wachibadwidwe umakulolani kuti mudziwane wina ndi mnzake pafupi, kuti muzolowere wina ndi mzake tsiku ndi tsiku.
Koma musachite mantha. Choyamba, moyo waukwati umadalira onse awiri. Moyo wa banja ndi ntchito yaikulu. Ndipo izo zidzasanduka chizolowezi kapena ayi_izo zimadalira okha okwatirana. Moyo wakwatira umachokera osati osati kokha pa chikondi, monga potsutsana, kuvomerezana ndi theka lanu ndi kumva zomwe mumauzidwa, osati zomwe mukufuna kuzimva. Ndikofunikira kuti msungwana asayime pa chitukuko chake. Kawirikawiri atakwatira, asungwana amadzipereka okha kwa wokondedwa wawo, ndikuwongolera zofuna zawo ndi zofuna zawo yekha. Koma ndithudi mwamuna wanu wakukondani inu osati kuti inu mbuye wabwino komanso woyang'anira pakati. Anawona mwa inu munthu wokondweretsa ndi dziko lake ndi zofuna zake. Nzeru ya mkazi ndiyoyenera, pambuyo paukwati, kuphatikiza kusamalira mwamuna wake ndi chidwi ndi iyemwini, ndi kugwira ntchito payekha pathupi ndi m'maganizo.
Moyo pambuyo pa banja, ndizosiyana. Koma chomwe chidzakhala, chabwino kapena choipa, chimadalira inu. Chinthu chofunika kukumbukira ndi chakuti chikondi chanu chiyenera kuthandizidwa ndi kulemekezana, kukambirana za mavuto, kusamvana nthawi zonse. Kumbukirani mawu odziwika bwino akuti: "Mwamuna ndiye mutu, ndipo mkazi ndi khosi". Mkazi ayenera kukhala wanzeru ndi wamphamvu, chifukwa chirichonse chiri m'manja mwake ndipo sichiyenera kutsika!