Kotero, tiyeni tiyang'ane pa nkhaniyi mwatsatanetsatane. Kuti mudziwe momwe mungakakamizire anyamata kuti muwakonde, moona mtima mudzidziwe chomwe chinali chifukwa cha maganizo awa a mnyamatayo.
Njira yoyamba - kwa nthawi yaitali inu munakana maganizo anu kwa iye, ndipo anaganiza kuti izo sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Ngati mnyamatayo nthawi yomweyo amayesa kukumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali, adachita zonse zomwe zingatheke komanso zosatheka kwa inu, ndipo nthawi zonse mumakana, ndipo mwinamwake munamunyozetsa, ndiye, mwinamwake, mnyamatayo anaganiza kuti asakhalenso wamanyazi, ndipo simudzamkonda konse. Kotero tsopano, pamene inu munazindikira kuti pali malingaliro, iye sakufunanso kuti akhulupirire mmenemo, kuti musakhumudwitsidwe kachiwiri ndi kuti musasokoneze mtima wanu. Kotero tsopano iwe mwini uyenera kuchita khama kwambiri kuti umutsimikizire iye za mtima womvera. Inde, sitikulankhula za kunyozedwa ndikukhala kapolo, amene ali wokonzeka kukwaniritsa zofuna zake zonse ndikubwera kuthamanga paitanidwe iliyonse. Mukungofuna kusonyeza kuti ndizofunikira kwa inu, ndipo mwakonzeka kumuthandiza, kuthandizira, kugawira mavuto onse ndi zofuna zake, ndikuyamikirani zochita zake kwa inu. Kuonjezerapo, muyenera kupepesa ngati mukudziwa chomwe chili cholakwika, kunyalanyaza kapena kunyoza ulemu wake. Kumbukirani kuti kwa munthu, kudzimva ndi kofunika kwambiri ndipo pamene mkazi amadzichepetsera yekha, komanso choipa kwambiri, pamaso pa abwenzi, zimamupweteka kwambiri ndipo sangathe kukhululukira khalidweli kwa nthawi yaitali.
Choncho, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima komanso omvetsetsa. Musati muweruze kukayikira kwake ndi kuzizira kwake. Kumbukirani kuti kumverera kwenikweni sikudutsa mofulumira kwambiri komanso mophweka. Koma tsopano ndi nthawi yoti iye ayanenso kachiwiri osati kwa iye yekha, koma kwa inu. Yesani zochita zake zonse "yesani nokha" ndipo musanakwiyire kapena mukukhumudwa, ganizirani momwe mungachitire zofanana. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti musadulire pamapewa, koma kumvetsetsa ndi kumuthandiza kukhulupirira kuti mumayamikira kwambiri malingaliro ake ndi maubwenzi anu, komanso kuti mumamukonda kwambiri.
Mwamuna akhoza kusiya kukhulupilira kuti umamukonda pazochitika zina. Mwachitsanzo, ngati adapeza kuti wanena zinthu zoipa zokhudza iye mu mabwenzi ake komanso anthu omwe mumamudziwa naye. Ngati munachitadi, ndiye kuti sizinali zabwino kwambiri. Tonsefe timadziwa kuti munthu wina aliyense amamukhumudwitsa, timayamba kukokomeza zonse ndikuzinena zinthu zomwe sitiganiza. Pokhudzana ndi zokambirana, zikuwoneka zoopsa kwambiri. Pachifukwa ichi, choyamba, kumbukirani zam'mbuyo: sikuli koyenera kunena kwa wina, ngakhale mwaukali, zinthu zosasangalatsa za wokondedwa wanu. Ngakhale mutakhulupilira interlocutor ndipo mukudziwa kuti sangauze aliyense, simuyenera kutaya mwayi woti mawu anu apite kwa munthuyo. Izi zikhoza kukhala ngozi yowopsya, komanso nkhanza. Choncho yesetsani kusunga zinthu zonse, ngati kuti sizikuwotcha m'moyo wanu. Kambiranani bwino ndi nkhope yake ndikuyesera kuti muone zomwe zikuchitika. Ngakhale akakukwiyirani, padzakhala chisokonezo ndipo mudzakangana, zidzakhala zabwino kuposa momwe angaphunzire za chirichonse kuchokera pa manja khumi. Kumbukirani kuti miseche imasokonezedwa, kuchoka kwa munthu ndi munthu ndipo munthu akhoza kunena zinthu zomwe simunanene. Koma iye sakhulupirira kuti sizinali, kwenikweni kwenikweni zomwe anaphunzira ndi zoona. Yesetsani kudziletsa nokha, ngakhale wina atakufunsani, nenani kuti zonse ziri bwino ndipo mudzamvetsa nokha. Kotero inu mudzadzipulumutsa nokha kumenyana kwakukulu ndi kusamakhulupirira pa mbali ya munthu yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri, ngakhale pamene inu mwamukwiyira iye ndi wokonzeka kupha.
Ngati munanenapo chinachake choipa, ndi bwino kuvomereza. Choonadi chidzatseguka, ndipo bodza lachiwiri lidzakantha kwenikweni mnyamata wanu.
Choncho, kuyambira pomwe, yambani chifuniro mu chikwama ndikumuuza zonse zomwe zinayankhula ndiye. Ndipo mwatsatanetsatane afotokoze chifukwa chake zinachita chimodzimodzi. Ngati akuyamba kukunenezani zachinyengo ndi kusakhulupilira, musakane kuti mumadziimba mlandu. Vomerezani kuti zakhala zonyansa komanso zolakwika, choncho mumadandaula ndikuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu wokwiya ndi inu. Nenani kuti simukufuna kuchita izi, koma mwachita ndipo tsopano mukuzindikira momwe zinalili zolakwika komanso zoyipa. Ndiuzeni kuti mwamvetsa kulakwitsa kwanu ndipo simudzabwerezanso. Zoonadi, awa ndi mawu chabe, ndipo sangachitepo kanthu mwamsanga. Komabe, munthu akamakonda kwenikweni, amakhululuka. Kotero musamapanikize mnyamatayo ndipo musamalire. Chitanipo kanthu kuti amvetsetse - mumavomereza kuti ndinu wolakwa komanso ndikudzimvera chisoni kwambiri. Posakhalitsa adzakukhululukirani. Ndiyeno, yesetsani kuti musayambenso kuchita izi ndipo musanene zambiri, chifukwa mawu akhoza kupha kumverera mofulumira komanso kosavuta kuposa chida chilichonse.