Mesalians ndi mawonekedwe a ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, momwe malo awo (chikhalidwe kapena katundu) ndi osiyana kwambiri. Koma chikondi, monga momwe mukumvetsetsa, sichikusiyanitsa pakati pa osauka ndi olemera, odwala ndi odwala, komanso kawirikawiri pakati pa achinyamata ndi osati aang'ono ...
Ukwati, momwe mwamuna ali wamkulu, anthu ambiri amavomereza kuposa momwe sagwirizana. Ndipo ngati wamkulu mu chiyanjano ali mkazi, ndiye, saloledwa kulandira chikhalidwe chamakono. Choncho, funso limabwera: Ngati mwamuna ali wamng'ono - kodi pali tsogolo la ubale ndi banja?
Kodi oyandikana nawo ndi anzako akuti chiyani?
Choyamba, timamvetsera "nzeru za anthu" - anthu amtundu wanji omwe amanena za maubwenzi amenewa.
Pa ubale wotero, pamene mwamuna ali wamng'ono kwambiri, pali tsogolo la banja, iwo amalingalira onse omwe alibe ulesi. Amzanga ndi abwenzi, oyandikana nawo ndi achibale - onse ali ndi malingaliro awo. Kawirikawiri banjali likukakamizika kukana "miseche" pa benchi, kuteteza ufulu wokonda.
Koma pali kusiyana. Anthu omwe sali osiyana ndi mmodzi yemwe ali nawo pachibwenzi sali ofunika kwambiri, mwamuna kapena mkazi yemwe ali wamkulu kuposa iye moona mtima amafuna chimwemwe. Ndipo ponena za iwo eni amasonyeza kukayikira - iwo amati, "perebesitsya", "odwala" nawo, kupeza wamng'ono ...
Nkhani zopanda pake
Tsogolo la banjali liri m'manja mwa omwe amapanga maubwenzi - amuna ndi akazi enieni. Koma iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi miseche ndi lingaliro, mofulumira akulosera imfa ya chiyanjano "iye ali wamng'ono, iye ndi wamkulu." Choncho, akazi (ndi amuna) amadabwa ngati munthuyo ali wamng'ono - kodi pali tsogolo la ubale?
"Simungathe kuyika kampukuta pamtundu uliwonse"
Kuyamba, kotero kuti tsogolo la ubale likuwonekabe, ndizokhazika mtima pansi kutenga miseche. Musagwirizane ndi kukhumudwa kwa anzanu, mabwenzi ndi anansi omwe akuganiza: mwamuna ndi wamng'ono kwambiri - kodi pali tsogolo la banja?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati
Ngati kale banja lopambana lomwe linali losayembekezereka linkawerengedwa ngati munthu ali ndi zaka 3-5 (ndipo akhoza kukhala ochuluka - mpaka zaka 7-10 kusiyana), tsopano alibe mtengo wotsimikizika woterewu.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsindika kuti ndi kusiyana kumene kumakhudza kuchuluka kwa momwe munthu aliri wamng'ono, kaya tsogolo la banja limadalira, choyamba, pa izi. Zomwe zili zoyenera ndizosiyanabe ndi zaka 3-5, zowonjezera (nthawi zambiri zoposa 10) - izi ndizosemphana kwambiri.
Choonadi chachinyengo
Zonse zomwe okondedwa amanena, ngati ubale wolimba wamangidwa pakati pa mkazi wachikulire ndi wamng'ono, uwu si ubale weniweni wa kholo la ana. Mkazi - iye ndi "mayi", ngakhale mosadziŵa. Ndipo mwamuna ndi "mwana" amene muyenera kumusamalira. Choncho, nthawi zambiri, agogo aamuna ndi agogo aakazi amakhala olondola, koma mbali imodzi. Ubale umenewu udzakhala wosiyana kusiyana ndi awiri awiri.
Zoona, akatswiri a maganizo amatikumbutsanso kuti kukhazikika kwa banjali kumadalira makamaka kuti okondedwa akhalebe ndi chiyanjano. Ndipo ngati zonsezi zili bwino, awiriwa amakhalapo kwa zaka makumi awiri.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Choyamba, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi ali omasuka mu ubale wotere, malo abwino komanso okwanira (anthu, akatswiri), musaike kukhalapo kwa banja pokhapokha chifukwa cha maganizo a ena. Ndipo pazizindikiro zoyamba za mavuto - kuyankhulana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Monga lamulo, mavuto amabwera makamaka kumene "mwana" kapena "mayi" amafunikira malo, malo, mwayi woti adziwe. Mtheradi wa "mayi" kapena ubwenzi wake ndi "mwana" ukhoza kukwiyitsa. M'malo osakhala ofanana (kupititsa patsogolo, kusamukira, imfa ya wachibale), mavutowa adziwonetsera okha mwa njira yodalirika - kutha kwa ubale.
Kuonetsetsa kuti kulimbana ndi chirichonse sikutheka - kuphatikizapo kukakamizana kuti nthawi zonse zithandizire, nthawi zonse muzikhala ndi chimwemwe ndi kuthandizana, osati mosiyana. Koma kuchokera mchimodzimodzinso si inshuwalansi ndi ena, opambana, poyang'ana, maanja.
Kodi ndi phindu lanji kwa ndani?
Ngati mwamuna wa ntchito yolenga, kapena mkazi salekerera mphamvu yake payekha - ubale woterewu udzakhala wabwino. Chimwemwe cha mgwirizano wa conjugal, kuphatikizapo kugwirizana kwakukulu ndi kosakanikirana kwa "ngakhale mayi" ndi "mwanayo" kumaphatikizapo kuphatikiza kodabwitsa. Kotero, machiritso oterowo - omangidwa pa:
- kumvetsa mkhalidwe, ubwino wa aliyense
- chilakolako chokhala ndi wina ndi mnzake
- ubwenzi wapamtima
ikhoza kukhalapo ochuluka momwe mukufunira.
Zatsopano zachiwiri sizichitika ...
Atsikana si achikondi okha, achinyamata komanso okongola - amakhalanso ovuta kudziwongolera okha mu ubale ndi m'moyo. Pankhani imeneyi, mkazi wokhwima maganizo ndi wokonda kwambiri. Inde, sangathe kupikisana ndi "May roses" wa zaka 18, koma amadziwa zambiri.
- Musadandaule ndi mwamuna wake, mum'pusitse ku zinthu zopanda pake, ngati akufuna kuganizira chinthu china chofunikira.
- Iye akhoza kukhala bwenzi, mlangizi, wothandizira kumene "mtsikana" angakhale wolemetsa.
- Kawirikawiri, iye anachita polojekiti, kapena amadziwa zomwe akufuna. Ali ndi malo okhala kapena akukonzekera kale momwe angathetsere vutoli ndi liti.
Ndipo adzalandira ulemu wonse wa mwamuna - sichidalira pa iye ...