Maganizo ndi nzeru , ndithudi, malingaliro ali pafupi polar. Takhala tikuphunzitsidwa kuti tisiyanitse momveka bwino "malingaliro ndi malingaliro," iwo anali ngati kuti palibe kusiyana kwa wina ndi mnzake. Tidziwa bwino kuti malingaliro, malingaliro, zochitika zimatha kubwezeretsedwa, kuyesedwa, kuyesedwa, kuponderezedwa. Koma, izo zikutuluka, inu mukhoza kuwafikira iwo "ndi malingaliro"!
Kodi ndi malingaliro otani okhudza maganizo (tidzakutcha kuti EI kapena IQ)? Ndipotu, ndi kuthekera kwathu kuzindikira maganizo athu ndi malingaliro a munthu wina, komanso kuthandizira kuti tiziyendetsa bwino ndipo pambaliyi timalumikizana ndi anthu. Tangoganizirani kuti munthu wina amene amanyamula katunduyo anandiuza zinthu zina zamwano. Ndipo kodi mumatani - kukhumudwitsidwa, kusayenerera, kupweteka maganizo a ena pa unyolo? Kuchokera pa izi, nanunso, mutha kutuluka, ngati simungakhale ndi maganizo abwino, ndiye, ngakhale mu dziko.
Maganizo a nzeru zamumtima anathyola m'magulu akuluakulu chifukwa cha buku la Goleman, lomwe linkatchedwa "Emotional Intelligence". Ataonekera mu 1995, adatembenuza maganizo a anthu mamiliyoni ambiri a ku America osati osati kokha. Mpaka pano, bukhu la Goleman lagulitsa makope oposa 5 miliyoni ndipo lamasuliridwa m'zinenero zingapo!
Nchiyani chokongola kwambiri pa malingaliro omwe ali m'buku lino? Choyamba, lingaliro lake lakuti kukhalapo kwa IQ yapamwamba mwa munthu sikungatsimikizire kuti akhoza kufika pamwamba pa ntchito ndikukhala wopambana. Pachifukwachi, ndikofunikira kukhala ndi makhalidwe ena ... Pamene kufufuza kunkachitika, poyerekeza momwe maofesi omwe amalephera bwino amasiyana ndi omwe ali ndi maofesi ambiri, zakhala zikudziwika kuti amatha kudziletsa okha, komanso kuzindikira komanso kuteteza maganizo a ena. Anthu omwe ali ndi nzeru zamaganizo amatha kupanga zisankho zogwira mtima, amagwira ntchito mozama komanso mogwira mtima pazinthu zovuta, kumvetsetsa bwino ndikusamalira anthu awo.
Maganizo ali odzaza ndi mphamvu yaikulu , yomwe ingagwiritsidwe ntchito modzipereka kwa inu nokha. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuwazindikira iwo panthawi yomwe amadza, kufufuza chikhalidwe chawo ndi chifukwa cha zochitika zawo ndikusankha momwe angayendetsere. Ndipo oyang'anira maganizo - uwu ndi luso limene mungapeze ndikukula!
Ndinazindikira "chiphunzitso" cha nzeru zamaganizo. Koma ndi kosavuta kunena "kulamulira maganizo," koma zimagwiritsidwa ntchito bwanji? Izi ndizo zomwe masewero apadera omwe ine, pamodzi ndi ena omwe timachita nawo, tichite nawo maphunzirowa, athandiza.
Chimodzi mwa zokondweretsa kwambiri, kuyambira momwe ndimawonera, chimatchedwa "Kutumiza kwa dziko kudzera mu liwu la mawu." Cholinga chake chinali choti tonsefe tilowe muzinthu zinayi zomwe tanena kuti: "Msilikali", "Mzanga", "Wodziwa" komanso "Wowonetsa". Pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, alangiziwo adapempha kuti gulu lathu lizikhala awiriwa. Banja lirilonse limasinthasintha kuti "alowe" m'zinenero zoyenera, ndipo wina anamvetsera mwatcheru, kenaka anapereka kupereka - anali "woweruza" wokhutiritsa. Ndiye ife tinasintha malo.
Pazinthu zonse zomwe zatchulidwa "zigawo", timayenera kulankhula ndi mawu oyenera, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu, mawu, ndi kusankha mawu olondola. Kwa "bwenzi" ndi mawu ofewa, odalirika, mawu otseguka komanso okondana. Dzikoli lapatsidwa kwa ine zosavuta. Koma mau a "wanzeru" ine sindinadziwe mwamsanga. M'dziko lino nkofunikira kulankhula pang'onopang'ono, moyeso, mosasamala, monga kuphunzitsa, kuwululira choonadi, mu mawu chete, mwamtendere. Ine mwanjira ina ndinaganiza kuti mawu awa ali pafupi kwambiri ndi ine. Komabe, atolankhani amakonda "kuphunzitsa," "kupeza zowonadi," "zinsinsi zachinsinsi" ... Koma ndi chinthu chimodzi chozilemba zonse pamapepala, ndipo chimzake ndikulankhula malingaliro anu, ndi mawu omveka bwino, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oyenera, kusankha mawu oyenera ... Koma ndinatero!
Liwu la "wankhondo", limene ndimaganiza kuti linali losavomerezeka kwa ine, linapambana nthawi yoyamba! Liwu ili likufalitsidwa ndi ankhondo, atsogoleri, atsogoleri ovuta. Lamulo - langizo, luso lamphamvu, lamulo, amapatsidwa malangizo.
Ndipo muyenera kulankhula momveka bwino kuti malangizo anu amatsatira nthawi yomweyo. Kwa ine nthawi yomweyo zakhala_zitha kukhala, ankhondo kwa ine kuti azilamulirabe mofulumira, koma "kumanga" nyumba ine ndingakhoze molondola. Ndipo chinthu chachikulu, monga izo zinkawoneka kwa ine, izo zimapezeka kwa ine zokhutiritsa mokwanira.
Ndi "showman" sindinali wovuta kupirira. Kulankhula uku ndikumveka, kukulira, kukopa chidwi. Kulankhula ndi kofunikira pazithunzithunzi zapamwamba, motero, kudzipangitsa okha chidwi. Cholinga cha "showman" chikhoza kukhala njira yolankhulira wofalitsa TV ndi Andrei Malakhov. Ndipo ngakhale kuti ine ndinagwira mawu a "showman", ndikudzipangitsa ndekha ndikuwoneka wotsimikizika, sindinganene kuti ndinamva "ndikukhala momasuka" ...
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti ntchitoyi si yophweka, monga ikuwonekera poyamba. Koma chifukwa cha iye, ndinazindikira makhalidwe amene ndikufunika kukhala nawo. Ndipotu, pogwiritsa ntchito liwu (voliyumu, mawu, tempo ndi timbo) mungathe kukhazikitsa dziko ndi "kugwiritsa ntchito" muzofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, mukukonzekera kunyumba, ndipo omangawo anali, moona mtima, osati omvera kwambiri ... Apa ndi pamene mawu a "wankhondo" akubwera mogwira mtima! Kapena, nenani, muli ndi kukambirana kofunika ndi mwanayo. Chifukwa chaichi, liwu la "wanzeru" lidzagwirizana. Ndipo pazokambirana za bizinesi, mungafunikire kugwiritsa ntchito zonse zinayi!
Koma chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri chinandiyembekezera! Tonsefe timakondwera kuyang'ana mikangano ya TV, nkhani za ndale, kumene ndale otchuka amachititsa zizindikiro zomveka. Ndipo kodi ziyenera kukhala bwanji pamalo awo komanso "ngati kusewera masewera ndi kusewera" kuti ayankhe mafunso ovuta kwambiri, osasangalatsa, ndipo nthawi zina amanyoza a atolankhani ... ndi kumwetulira nkhope yake? Pambuyo pochita zochitikazo "Kulankhula kwa Wosankhidwa a Purezidenti," ndinamvetsa momwe zinaliri.
Chofunika cha ntchitoyi ndikuti gulu lirilonse linalankhula ndi ena omwe ali nawo mu fano la "wotsatila pulezidenti" ndikuyankha mafunso ovuta kwambiri a atolankhani (monga momwe anzanga akuwonekera). Pachifukwa ichi, mawu akuti "woyimira" pafunso lililonse ayenera kukhala: "Inde, izi ndi zoona." Ndipo pambali pake ndikofunika kukhala chete, kuwonetsa chidaliro ndikusawonetsa manyazi anu kapena manyazi anu ndi minofu kapena chizindikiro.
Ugh! Sizinali zophweka: nthawi zingapo ine "ndinatayika", posadziwa momwe ndingatuluke kuvuto. Zinali zophweka kubwera ndi mayankho a mafunso osangalatsa kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mmodzi wa "atolankhani" anandifunsa kuti: "Kodi ndi zoona kuti pamene mutakhala Purezidenti, mungalole oyendetsa galimoto kuzungulira mzindawu mofulumira 200 km pa ora?" Ndinayankha kuti: "Inde, ndizoona" ... Pitirizani mofulumira kuti mubwere ndi yankho. Chotsatira chake, ndinasokonezeka pang'ono, koma, poyesa kufanana ndi "mtsogoleri wa pulezidenti", ndikuyankha funso lotsatira, ndaphunzira kale momwe ndingasinthire ndikusiyana, ndipo mayankho anga anandifika.
Ndikuvomereza kuti udindo wa "mtolankhani" ndi wopindulitsa kwambiri kuposa "wotsatila". Pamene ndinapempha mafunso ovuta kwa "ofuna" omwe adayankhula patsogolo panga, ndimamva ngati mbuye wa vutoli. Ndipo pambuyo pokha nditakhala ngati "wovomerezeka" kodi ndimadziwa kuti monga wolemba nkhani, ndikanakhala ndikudziyankhira ndekha ndisanandifunse funso, chabwino, ndingayankhe bwanji ndikadakhala pamalo okamba nkhani. Kenaka ndikanakhala ndi chidaliro cholimba mu rostrum!
Koma tsopano tsiku lirilonse "ndimayankhula" mu udindo wa "mtsogoleri wa pulezidenti" - ndekha ndikufunsa mafunso, ndipo inenso, ndikuwayankha ndi ulemu. Luso limeneli silidzapweteka aliyense, koma lingakhale lothandiza pazochitika zilizonse - kuyambira tsiku ndi tsiku mpaka bizinesi.
Ndipo, yemwe akudziwa, mwinamwake zochitika izi ndilo gawo langa loyamba mu ntchito zandale zamtsogolo. Mulimonsemo, ndakonzeratu kale zokambirana za TV!
Koma mozama ... Kumvetsa kumverera kwanu ndi kumverera kwa ena ndi sitepe yoyamba mpaka nthawi zonse, ngakhale panthawi yovuta, muzidziyang'anira nokha ndi kulamulira mkhalidwe umene unayambira. Monga munthu wina wanzeru anati: "Anthu adzaiwala zomwe munanena, anthu adzaiŵala zomwe munachita, koma sadzaiŵala malingaliro omwe mwawachititsa."