Mayi amadzipeza kuti ndi munthu wamng'ono kuposa iyeyo pamene safuna chidwi ndi chibwenzi. Azimayiwa anachitika mu malo ogwira ntchito, opatsidwa nyumba ndi malipiro okhazikika. Chifukwa china chopeze amuna achichepere ndi gawo lapamtima la moyo. Mwinamwake, amayi achikulire sakhala ndi chidwi ndi khalidwe la anzawo ndipo akuyesera china china. Popeza maluwa a chikoka cha amuna ndi akazi amagwera nthawi zosiyanasiyana. Ndipo chifukwa chimodzi chokha ndi chibadwa cha amayi, chomwe chimapereka malingaliro a chidaliro ndi chitetezo kwa anyamata.
Mabanja oterewa, omwe mwamuna wachikulire ndi mnyamata amayenera kuthana ndi mavuto ena ambiri kusiyana ndi mabanja omwe sali pabanja. Choyamba, pa maonekedwe a mkazi, zofunikira zowonjezereka zimayikidwa patsogolo, nthawi zonse ayenera kuyang'ana pa msinkhu woyenera ngati si wamng'ono kuposa zaka zake, ndiye, monga momwe zingathere m'zaka zake, kuti athe kulimbana ndi mpikisano ndi atsikana aang'ono. Choncho, kukongola ndi unyamata ziyenera kusungidwa nthawi yaitali. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri maonekedwewo ali pamtundu womwewo ndi chikondi.
Ngati maubwenzi oterewa amangogwiritsidwa ntchito ndi ndalama komanso kugonana komanso tanthauzo lonse la kugonana limachepa pokhapokha, izi zimapangitsa mkazi kuti akwaniritse ndalama zonse za bwenzi lake, akulimbikitsana zomwe akufuna, komanso m'malo mwake akudikirira kugonana, pakapita nthawi mwamuna adzasokonezeka ndi mwamuna yemwe akusewera m'manja mwa mkazi. Mkhalidwe wa kugonana ndi zachuma sizinthu zofunikira pamoyo wa awiriwa, koma popanda kukhulupirirana kwa kulemekezana ndi kumvetsetsa, mgwirizano sudzatha.
Sikuti nthawi zambiri mabanja osalinganikawa amatha kukwatirana, ndipo ukwatiwo sungatitsimikizire kuti akhala ndi moyo nthawi yaitali. Zochita za mabanja ngati amenewa, kumvetsetsa ndi kukhazikika, nzeru. Koma nkofunika kuwonetsa nsanje, chifukwa asanakwane zaka makumi awiri zakubadwa, ngati ubale ukhoza kugwa. Choncho, udindo wa maanja osagwirizana ndi nzeru ndi chidaliro.
Amuna nthawi zambiri amamva kufunika kokhala odziwitsitsa pokhala munthu, chilakolako chokhala mtsogoleri ndi chochuluka, choncho mkazi sayenera kumuika pambali ya mwana wamng'ono ndikuwonetsa chibadwa chake cha amayi ake. Ngati mkazi amugwedeza ndi udindo wake wodzudzula, adzakhala mtsogoleri mu ubale, ndiye kuti posachedwa munthu adzipeza kuti ndi "wofooka". Ubale pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri.
Mgwirizano wotere wa anthu ambiri umakhala wokondwa ndipo umabweretsa mavuto nthawi yomweyo. Pali zitsanzo zambiri za moyo pamene mwamuna wamkulu ndi mnyamata amavomereza ubale, amakhala ndi ana ndipo akhala moyo wosangalala m'banja kwa zaka makumi ambiri. Ubale wotero wa amayi ambiri umatsitsimutsa, kumathandiza kumverera ngati mkazi ali ndi kalata yaikulu. Koma si zachilendo kubweretsa mavuto pamene okwatirana, osakhoza kulimbana ndi mayesero, amathera miseche, kutsutsa ndi kutsutsidwa. Ambiri samayima kutsutsidwa.
Moyo suima - ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti iwe ndi mnzanuyo muli ndi zaka zingati. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mumadzimva nokha, chifukwa thupi lathu liri ndi zaka zambiri - ndipo moyo umakhalabe wachinyamata nthawi zonse. Ndipo chikondi ndi malingaliro okongola alibe malire, kuphatikizapo msinkhu.