Ndipotu, ndikofunika kudziŵa zonse. Ndipo chifukwa chake ndi chimodzi, koma chovomerezeka: ngati simukumvetsa chomwe chinachititsa kugwa kwa awiriwa, ndizovuta mtsogolo kuti mumange ubale watsopano bwino.
Anthu amene amanyalanyaza kudzipenda kapena kuyankhula ndi omwe kale anali nawo nthawi zambiri amapitiliza kuchitapo kanthu. Chotsatira chake, zikukhala zovuta kuti iwo awonongeke. Choncho mmalo mwa chibwenzi chatsopano amayamba kusankha kusungulumwa kapena kugunda ntchito. Iyi si njira yopezera chisangalalo ndi mgwirizano, chifukwa popanda theka lachiwiri zimakhala zovuta kupulumuka m'dziko lathu loipali. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zosangalatsa pamene mlatho pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi umakhazikika ndi kugwirizana komwe kumapatsa mphamvu ndi mphamvu kwa aliyense. Kuti mupange mgwirizano watsopano, ndi bwino kugawanika ndi oyamba aja. M'nkhaniyi, tikambirana zokambirana mwachidule pa mutu uwu.
Choyamba, muyenera kulemba bwino i. Ngati mutasankha kugawanika, muyenera kusiya nthawi. Musayitane wakale kapena wakale ndikupuma mu chubu, musayang'ane misonkhano komanso kumanga milatho. Ngati ubale watha, mukufunikira kulimba mtima kuti muvomereze. Nthawi zina, kutalika kwa malo kumathandizira kupulumuka kugonana. Pamene mukuganiza kuti simungathe kudzisamalira nokha, mumakopeka ndi njira zakale, mumayendedwe akale omwe mumakonda, mukuyesa kupeza misonkhano ndi omwe kale mumasewero omwe mumakhala nawo komanso omwe mumacheza nawo, muyese patali ndi mawu enieni. Mmalo mwa mtunda wamaganizo, kumanga chinthu chimodzi. Sinthani nambala ya foni, ngati n'kotheka, kumakhala kwina kulikonse, fufuzani ntchito yomwe idzachotsere kufunikira koyang'ana akale ngati pali polojekiti yamba. Zidzakhala zovuta kwa masiku angapo kapena masabata. Kenaka pang'onopang'ono ayamba "kusiya", ndipo inu nokha simudzazindikira momwe mungaganizire mozama za tsogolo la wokondedwa mnzanuyo, ganizirani za zinthu zina, zowonongeka.
Chachiwiri, mutatha kupatukana, kumbukirani zosangalatsa zanu zonse. Nthawi zambiri timayimba nyimboyi pammero chifukwa cha zofunikira za theka lachiwiri. Kusudzulana kapena kupatukana ndi njira yotsitsimutsa nthawi zakale, ndipo musabwerere nokha "Vasya", koma nokha. Kuphatikizanso apo, kukondweretsedwa ndi zosangalatsa, zomwe mwakhala nazo kale, zimakuiwalani za kuganizira momwe mungapulumuke kusiyana pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna.
Chachitatu, chofunika kudziwa pambuyo polekanitsa, ndiko kuchepetsa kudzidalira ndikutengeka bwino kwa imfa ya wokondedwa. Komabe, musati "muzitha" pokhapokha mutchulidwe. Izi ndi zachikhalidwe kwa abambo ndi amai, koma amai "amadzimangiriza okha" pamapeto pamabuku osapindula nthawi zambiri. Zingatenge nthawi kuti abwerere ku ubale wautali, ena amatenga zaka kuti achite izi. Kotero nthawi imeneyo siidayambe kuwonongeka, muyenera kuphunzira kuti mukhulupirire anyamata osiyana kachiwiri. Njira imodzi yosavuta ndiyo kusintha bwalo la anzanu. Pali mabwenzi omwe ali moyo kapena zaka. Ndipo pali gulu lozungulira - abwenzi, omwe timapita nawo kuresitilanti kapena kanema, timapita ku tchuthi. Ndi mabwenzi ndi zovuta kwambiri, koma mabwenziwe ayenera kufufuzidwa pazinthu zawo. Ngati pakati pawo pali ena amene amadzinenera okha, ndikukuthirani ndi madothi, kuwaseketsa pamapwando kapena kuwanyalanyaza mwachindunji, ndibwino kuwatsitsa. Ngati uyu ndi bwenzi lenileni, nthawi idzaika zonse pamalo ake. Ndipo ngati mzanga wokhala pamawindo, sikuli koyenera nthawi zonse kudandaula imfa ya maubwenzi omwe muli nawo "gawo lopatsirana."
Anthu ambiri atapatukana ndikuganiza kuti apitirize kukhala mabwenzi awo akale. Palibe yankho lachidziwitso ku funso ili. Ku mbali imodzi, zimadalira mgwirizano, kukhalapo kwa ana komanso bizinesi, pa chikhalidwe cha dziko kapena dera kumene munthuyo amakhala. Komabe, pali mavuto omwe anthu onse okwatirana - omwe amakhala okonda kale, pokhalabe mabwenzi, sangathe kudzipatula okhaokha. Amapitirizabe kukhudzidwa ndi miyoyo ya wina ndi mzake, kusokoneza mu zochitika zazikulu, akhoza kukhala achisoni kapena kubweretsa mavuto kwa wokonda watsopanoyo. Mwinamwake, pa nkhani iyi nkofunika kudalira zofuna zanu, kufufuza mkhalidwewo, ndipo mutatha kuyeza chirichonse, pangani chisankho. Koma ngakhale mutasankha kukhala mabwenzi, nthawi ina yolankhulirana pachiyambi pomwe mutatha nthawi yopuma imakuthandizani kulimbana ndi mphepo yamkuntho ndikufulumira kuganiza.